Definitely get as much info from her daughter as you can ahead of time. Find out how she gets around - does she walk alone, with a walker, or is she in a wheelchair? Will she be able to get on the table? With or without help? (I would be very inclined to
not leave the room and have her get herself on the table.) How advanced is the Alzheimers? Will she be able to tell you what she likes and dislikes? Does the daughter suggest that you have her undress, or does she suggest leaving her fully dressed? Is she easily frightened or agitated? What calms/comforts her? Does she get cold easily, or overly warm? How is her hearing?
With my very elderly clients, I do not leave the room for them to get onto the table. If they are undressing, I stand opposite the table from them and hold a sheet up to give them some privacy, and cover them quickly as they position themselves on the table. My clients with fairly advanced alzheimers do not undress, and I explain to them *each time* how to get on the table in simple terms, and gently guide them and help them position. The massage is gentle but firm, consisting of compressions, petrissage (yes, it is quite doable through clothing), stretches, rocking, and range of motion. I watch them carefully to see if there is any agitation, and if so, move back to doing what calms them.
Some can only take 5 minutes of massage, but that 5 minutes of massage quiets them down. I once had a lady who was roaming the nursing home trying to find a way out, begging everyone she saw to take her home. She would be taken to her room and immediately come back out and start over. I asked if I could rub her shoulders, and she said yes, so I took her hand and led her to a chair and stood behind it and just massaged her shoulders for about 5 minutes. She then sat for over an hour, calmly watching me massage several others and listening to the conversation. I was told later that she STAYED calm all day. Just 5 minutes had a profound effect. It is really cool when that happens. Others can manage a whole 30 minutes on the table and deeply enjoy it. I have one who does quite well with a full hour massage, though I sometimes spend the entire hour having the same 4 line conversation over and over and over. He *cannot* remember having had that conversation 2 minutes ago. I have had some who would spend the time (2 were half hour clients, the other had an hour massage every week) telling me stories about their earlier years, and at times the stories were clearly connected to which area of her body I was massaging. (Her wedding ring having to be cut off came up when I massaged her left hand, for instance.) These ladies did not have the ability to speak coherently, but somehow the massage reconnected something and they were able to tell whole stories for awhile. One of my ladies with alzheimers sings to me!!
Some will have an incredible fear of strangers and strange surroundings - if they are taking her to your office, I'd assume this lady is not one with those fears. Some will become very upset at the mention of removing their clothes, and others will seem that they can't WAIT to strip - and you won't escape the room before they do! I had one sweet lady who had taken a shower while waiting for me (in an assisted living home) and met me in the hall on the way back to her room. As we walked, she pulled on the front of her bathrobe and giggled to me, "I'm naked in here!!"
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There isn't a "stay away from this area" with folks with alzheimers. The caution is more to pay very, very close attention to them at all times. Watch how they are responding to you and to the massage, and realize they may not connect you with the massage - or remember what you just got done telling them. Some are angry, some even violent, some frightened, some *just* confused, some quite happily living .....in another era. There are many different degrees of alzheimers and each person reacts to it differently.
You may be more comfortable if the nurse or whoever accompanies her to your office stays in the massage room with you, at least the first time or two, so that you can learn how best to interact with this particular person. Your client may also be more comfortable with someone that she recognizes being in the room with her.