Are you not in love...

[Pompal 09.]

After reading the 2 closing comments by two seasoned posters on a recent controversial thread , it becomes clear that how some sps have the talent to make many vulnerable hobbyists to lose their ability to separate fantasy from reality.

So it can hurt more than just your wallet.

I like the term mindf..k (mf).

If you think you are immune to this, think twice.

 

[naughtydogg70]

I totally agree with you Roadrunner. I too have fallen into the same trap time and time again. I only blame myself for being so pathetic. Whether the mf games are done intentionally....probably. Let's face it folks. We represent a big part of their livelihood. Conversation you ask? Understanding? No dick heads......MONEY!!!! They want one thing and one thing only. It's not between your legs, it's in your f@*kin' pockets.
Hey, I'm not putting anyone down here. Like I've said I've been there myself. Welcome to the idiot club!!! I'm the f*@Kin' President!!!
bruce

 

[?????????????????????]

I'm so glad that my discretionary income is so little...I would hate to be in a mental situation...torn between reality and fantasy over 1 hour sessions with massage attendants...

[ I can just imagine the giggles as they(the mpas) read all of this]

this could be a new reality show...

who wants to marry a man addicted to mpas????

...( mind you Zora would have made a spectacular mpa )... ...

 

[Hettie.]

There are many reasons why a man becomes vulnerable. Problems at home, low selfasteem, mid life crisis, or just plain lonleyness. I dont think its the mpa that makes you vulnerable, your already there. Shes just there to to do her job, and that job is to make you feel special and take as much money as possable from you.When I went off the deep end for one of the more well known mpas on this board nothing else seemed to matter to me and she was very good at playing the game, she did her job well in and away from the mp. It cost me a few bucks but it was a lessen well learned. These girls are young, attractive and are all about the money and if they dont get it from you theres always some other guy in the waiting room. This particularly applies to the more popular mpas, and you know the ones Im talking about. I dont mean to sound bitter after all she didnt make me vulnerable,she was just there doing her job and as she told me when I wouldnt buy her that one last gift. "I have other friends who will take care of me if you wont".


Baron

 

[2cold scorpio]

Now I get it, all these guys that have had some stormy moments with Miss T. like WhOiSyOdAdDy and Humble D must have had some encounters or dates with her outside of HFH. That's why their all f*cked up about her especially when that part ends...nothing hurts more that rejection.

 

[cyborg ninja pirate jesus]

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[twee_grrrl]

I meant to post this reply here, but accidentally posted it under the Tarah Poll first. Sorry.

Ahhh, the beautiful Tarah, I only ever had one session with her. That was before she got the Dow-Cornings. I was attracted to her gorgeous face. As a matter of fact, she was the first (and for a long time the only) non-asian girl I had a session with. It was at JT.
I saw what she was all about right away and didn't want to fall into the trap that many other massageplanet.netites have fallen into, hence I never had another session with her.
However, in her defense, I did get to know her on a much more personal level later on and she did want to take me out for dinner (a real one). Now I know that that was genuine at the time. I didn't accept because I like to keep my relationships very simple. You give me pleasure, I pay. Simple.
Tarah is a complex creature (and on an artistic level a very, very talented one) and I think the big discrepancy of what people are reporting and feeling stems from the fact that sometimes she's genuine and other times she's acting. Let

 

[Rod]

big ben......

I've been to many spas where the attendants comment to me on some of the clients they get...and not in a positive way...

for the most part these jobs won't be listed on a resume...so I think we can all say that the only motivation for mpas is money...

they figure out what they need to do and say to maximize their profits...

we can all search for the perfect experience but to constantly pay a mpa hoping she'll genuinely like you or move in with you...

way too far fetched...c'mon guys...

 

[CL3VZ323]

Maybe you think you're a lonely guy
Maybe you think you're too tough to cry ...

I don't really understand the question, but contrary to popular belief I've never fallen for ( in love ) with an mpa. Problem is, that we are human & they are human. There will be some that hate their jobs and some that like it to a large extent. I'd venture to say that in almost every-case the bottom line is money. I would think with both parties being human that its impossible to say that no emotion at all, becomes involved. On one extreme, I really doubt that they are going to have positive feelings toward guys who are pushy & disrespectful. The other extreme, being that I highly doubt many MPA's, like guys who develop, "stalker tendencies", intruding on their personal space, and don't respect the fact that they are working.

I tend to stay with the mpa's that keep things simple, don't over do the bullshit, and have a more down to earth, genuine approach. I recently had a slight wake up call. As much as I like to think I can stay on top of myself and question things. It was nothing heavy and I got over it in less than 24 hours. It really was trivial, but I had slipped into that grey zone, if only on a very minor level.

Does that mean, I now think all MPA's are money grabbing phonies. Fuck no. I'm too young to become a full pledged bitter, disgruntled cynic ... yet. It just means, I'll continue to try and keep a realistic perspective, which is, that when dealing with humans, you will come across a wide variety of personalities. That combined with the fact that in essence it is a business transaction and the primary focus of that is to satisfy my needs on some level, and to what those needs are, which is primarily physical.

One of my firsts post on massageplanet.net was my ramblings about not wanting to become desensitised and I intend to stick with that.

A message to mpa's ...

For me, at least I prefer not to be lied to. There is a slight difference between a lie and fantasy. I don't want to be told stuff like "I only do this with you, baby" I don't want to be told that you will email me your cell phone #, when you have no intention of doing so etc. For me, at least I don't got to MP's looking for an outside relationship, and at most would only want it on a friend basis, but even that is not why I go to mp's. If you tell me that I have blue eyes, ok np, coz I do, but saying my dick is big is obviously just a lie ... hehe ... that was just an example ... ahem ... If you tell me I have a zit on my ass, then I'll thank you for it, because I wasn't aware and now I can squish it. Anyway, my point is, in my case at least I don't want to be outright lied to. I know that's a hard line to draw, but respect goes both ways ... I don't lie to you ...



So, having said that, although having not "fallen" for an mpa, I do like some of them, as people, and would go so far as to say, care about them, just as I would any person, I think is cool ...

 

[i love guns]

I love you pool.

 

[gaBed]

Come on guys get a grip.

The best way to avoid the big fat MF is to end every session the same way.

You telling yourself "Not bad....for a w#$re".

Cause, face it lads, "THAT IS ALL THEY ARE".

Enjoy!

 

[chelslover_72]

And Jade does too.......


Sorry bud I couldn't resist.(LOL)



Big Ben

 

[HARP DADDY]

A bit harsh, and a narrow-minded neaderthal view of the women in this business, but if that works for you, knock yourself out!


There is absolutely no harm in pursuing the fantasy as long as you are firmly grounded in reality. Pursue her, see if she's serious about off-the-clock fun, enjoy it... but run at the first sign of a MF.

 

[Mackay]

When are you next on schedule ? Yeah, but I'm special... We see things as we are ...

 

[killer peaches]

My livelihood is based on understanding the motivations/agendas of folk. My passion is building/enhancing that perception into a fine art - I love figuring people out...

That said, in the 10 Years I've been engaging in this type of activity I've only met one girl whom I would consider as being genuine in her advances (1/500). A very pretty girl, from a very troubled background, working for a well established MP. While I never did "go there" with her, others did, and she finally left the business to pursue other interests and be with this one client. I have no idea if it worked out or not.

My point is: I've met 1 SP out of 500 who was a "potential" genuine character - and "possibly" looking for a partner with no motivation of $$$ behind it. 1/500! Do you double down on 11 against a 6? Do you hit a 16 against a 6? Go with the odds...

Kkarn/

 

[Magz]

I say, more power to them. If they can sucker a few more dollars off us by playing some minds game , good for them. It happens all the time in other businesses in some form or another.

That is part of the beuty of Christina@HFH and Alexis and Jasmine @IT. They treat you great and seem to genuinly care for you in a freindly way but you never get the real lines of crap that others give you.

 

[PoLkA dOt PyJaMaS]

You guys have some valid points. I agree with BB. I also heard similar stories in SC when I first started hobbying. I get to know a few strippers on a personal level. She would tell me how much she dislikes a particular client. The next thing I saw she is DFKing this same client and act unbelievably friendly toward him.

As for MPAs, their friendliness are strongly related to their line of work. If the MPA did not make you feel special, you will probably not repeat and tell other not to see her. Many lines from the MPAs should not to be taken seriously.

I.E.

 

[Jiraiya]

So, let me get this straight... These girls don't really love me? They were just pretending? Damn, and I told my mum that I had 10 girlfriends and that I was gonna pick one to bring home on Saturday night.


Isn't it about time to stop the silliness on all of this, "I'm in love with a rug 'n tug chick and she's in love with me"? If you guys don't stop it you'll scare all the good ones away.


Timbit

 

[Franco III]

A MPA was pressuring you for gifts over and above her fees and maybe a tip? I assume that you are talking about more than flowers or chocolates. Did you pass this information on to management? IMO creating a fantasy is great but how was she "just doing her job" by pressuring for more. If a MPA did this she was really out of line and wouldn't get my business.

Care to give us a name.

V12

 

[Rob E]

Those of you who have openly criticized others on this post better take a look at themselves. Why do you go to MPAs? Like I have mentioned. We are all human and no one here is better than the other. Don't judge others without looking at yourself first.
bruce