ask girlfriend give massage?

[Hethra]

How do i ask my girlfriend if I can rub her feet, back legs, etc. I don't want to have sex or anything, she's just a hard worker, and she's always sore from the gym. I want to do something nice for her.

The only thing is, that she always asks why, or says 'what' when i stare at her. If i told her what i said above, she would think it was an excuse. I don't want it to be awkward. Where and when should I ask also?? what should I say (words)??
2 days ago - 2 days left to answer.

I've rubbed her back above her clothing before, how do i make it not wierd getting massage oil, etc. because usually it's just rubbing above clothing.

 

[Dominic M]

I'd find a new girlfriend if she doesn't appreciate the kind nice things you're trying to do for her. That was how my last relationship ended.

 

[lesscaffeine]

I think you'll do better saying less and doing more. Sit her on the foot of your bed and take her shoes/socks off. Gently slide out a bowl of warm water from under the bed (just stashed there before she came in) and let her soak her feet a little. You should have some towels under there too, and the massage oil. Votives and a lighter?

Anyways, after letting her feet soak a bit and drying them, you can start the massage. As you pull more and more things out from out there (not at once, but break them up), all the while saying nothing, hopefully she'll relax a bit and just smile. Have some reading handy if she starts getting ornery...staple a couple pages together to make a booklet. Entitle it "Adventures in Etiquette#26: Receiving Foot Massages" with some goofball artwork and messages in it. Sky's the limit...maybe stash a silk shirt under there for yourself or a tight t-shirt and see if she'll play along. Good luck.