best way to introduce kids to new boyfriend?

[Matt L]

Divorced and I want my kids to meet my new boyfriend, what is the best way to do this?

 

[hunkey monkey]

More information required, it totally depends on the age of the kids.
under 8 - go out something fun bowling mcdonnalds
aged 9 - 18 low key, tell kids about new guy. Short meets before you go out with the guy. Then maybe out for dinner

 

[Jeff S]

First, you need to let your kids know that they are and always will be first in your life. In both word and deed. I cannot tell you how many kids I have seen whose lives have become train wrecks, as both parents pursue their own lives above all, heedless of the emotional needs of their children.

Second, depending on the age of your children, group recreational activities together can be a good way to break the ice and give your kids a positive memory with the new boyfriend. It goes without saying that whether or not he is good with your kids should factor into your relationship decisions.

 

[GanjaReviewer]

"Kids, meet new daddy"

No no, don't do that. Take them on a meal with him, tell him as much as you can about your kids, so he is prepared and acts like their best friend

 

[Lion]

Go out for a meal, and have your boyfriend join you. Not done in their home/secure space, so not so threatening.

 

[SpoonsAreTheMan]

Let them walk in on a make out sesh

 

[Mikey]

Take them out for a meal together after letting your kids know you have a new boyfriend and you want to introduce them to him. Outside the home is a neutral place so neither side will feel anymore uncomfortable than can be avoided. Do not introduce him to them in your home! My dad did this with his girlfriend and now I refuse to see my dad or have any contact with him because he just forced it upon me and I know my brother who lives with him can't stand her and doesn't like the way he did it either and this is down to the way he introduced her to us. Good luck and I hope they like him.

 

[Charlotte Mitchell]

just shove it in there face, i know it sounds harsh but my mum and dad did it with us when they got new partners, they were like this is my partner these are my children i dont want any arguments take your time to get to know eachother, and left it at that,, best way i think!!! good luck!