Confidence

[MiakoSamuio]

I have not posted many reviews, since most of my experiences have been of the negative nature, and I do not wish to bash any MPA's. I tend to blame my negative experiences on myself. I am slightly overweight and very introverted. So I feel when I encounter MPA's, they are turned off by my physical build or lack of conversation. I do not expect high mileage. All I wish for is a decent massage, and a decent body slide(my usual option). What frustrates me is the little things. I hear of MPA's cleaning up their clients at the end of the session. I do not recieve this kind of kindness, but I am left to do it myself. I have been over charged on may occasions, after doing some research on massageplanet.net. I used to think it was the MPA's at fault, but after reading so many positive reviews from other massageplanet.netites, that I have concluded that it is me at fault. I am considering to stop hobbying. But before I stop I like to thank all massageplanet.netites for all their valuable posts. I've taken a great deal of info. from massageplanet.net, but have contributed very little. THANKS TO ALL massageplanet.netites.

 

[K M]

Sorry things ain't working out so well, dude. I would like to suggest an option that you may not have tried. Are you going to different places and seeing different girls, or are you doing repeats? You may want to try picking one particular girl and trying to become a regular. Maybe pay her a bit of a premium, but not a ridiculous amount. And explain your situation right up front: you will be a steady, generous source, but you need to be treated right. And don't give up on just one. Worth a try anyway. The only real problem I forsee here is that these girls are usually pretty unstable, i.e. they move around a lot and disappear on a moments notice.

IMHO, the "confidence" problem is also an issue with the girl. I have met a precious few providers over the years who are extremely comfortable with themselves and what they do. Girls like this are usually much more accomodating and forgiving, and are able to treat any customer well. They are true professionals, and an absolute joy to be with. You need to find one of those. Not easy, but don't give up yet.

 

[justme123]

Don't give up, like what flash said pick that one MPA to be your regular and pay her a decent amount, and tell her what would you like in your sessions with her (i.e. B/S, topless, tickled, soft or hard massages etc. it's up to you) That way once you accomplish that then every time you visit her your session will be most enjoyable. Just a little input from your friendly neighborhood hobbyist.

 

[mehdi m]

Don't give up and also don't listen to these guys and overpay. You don't have to do this, and shouldn't do this to get good service. To get you out of your slump go see Jennifer @ Hands From Heaven. Many will agree with me that she is the best in the biz. If you are a gentleman, respectful and clean and still don't get good service from her I'll pay for your session myself.

 

[Dirtbiker2714]

Azen,

Not every girl cleans up the client. Not every girl is comfortable with every client she sees. Your best bet is to talk to the receptionist and explain your situation and they will make some suggestions as to who you should see.

Talk to Joy at SRM or Kayla at HFH. Both these ladies are top notch in their recommendations.

 

[Andrew F]

Just retire man if you can get out of this hobby that's a good thing! Not to mention the amount of money you will save but you will be able to focus your time on finding a real girl, and then you could always go for a massage once a year or once every 6 months but if you can stop the Reg visits.

 

[Billy bob]

Forget what I said earlier. Listen to Turnover4me.

 

[kaynoxdemon]

Your physical and personal traits sound exactly like mine. What seems to be the difference is confidence. While I don't go in expecting a GFE/PSE, I am available for it if the chemestry is there.

There are certain vibes that we give-off as clients and MPA's pick-up on that. Perhaps they sense your lack of confidence and interpret it as a signal not to get to close/personal/involved. It's actually a common social phenomenon, especially for us introverts.

One of the things that I do is if I like an MPA and I think I can develop the chemestry, I just become a "regular". There are some MPA's that I have seen for 3-4 years on a regular basis. I remember one where I started-off with virtually no chemestry (and she overcharged me because I went 5 minutes over), and now we have an amazing time, and money/time is not the object of our time together anymore. For those of us who don't "have it going on", there is rarely an immediate attraction - but I have found that a certain comfort level can be reached through repeat visits, if you are open to it.

Finally, I would suggest not using massageplanet.net to "prove" that you get a lower standard of service than everyone else, but that you use it to find someone who will give you what you want. While I'll never know the facts of every session you have, I'm sure that you can find a few where you are treated like other members.

Another way to think of it - this is one hobby where you can have a lot of fun while you are still learning the ropes.