Confused...

[bryanhughjr]

The single and only experience i have had has left me very confused...

I have never used a service like this and cast no judgements.. I was very nervous about my booking and wasn't sure what to expect. I was interested in the 'gf' experience as this is the only way I have had sex before and crave that closeness with someone in sexual intimacy.

Reviewom the moment I saw the girl I felt there was a natural chemistry and attraction that I recognised Reviewom dating women / previous relationships etc.

I felt as though there was a real connection and had we met under any other circumstances I would have asked her out !

It should be said that some would consider me attractive and I look mpter myself, I certaintly have no ego about this and am flattered by any compliments I receive and I got the impression this girl found me attractive.

Of course I realise how ridiculous this sounds, I am sure every burke off the street feels the same way... but I got the feeling she shared the connection. I can't get her out of my mind and have broken things off with the girl i started to see because of it...

Am i just another Revieweak that needs to get a life and realise that she did what I paid her for ? Or has anyone here actually ended up dating someone Reviewom a service like this and lead to a lifestyle change.. etc

I am generally a very controlled and logical smart person with my life decisions etc and I can't help but thinking I am a complete idiot for thinking there was anything more to this ...

I am positive she thorughly enjoyed our time together but don't want to insult her / bother her in asking her out.. and really why would I want to when I know what she does for a living,

Hoping someone can share some advice...

 

[diosaalx6]

Don't go there. Just don't.

 

[FYRE & REIGN RETURNS]

Confused...

truly illuminating... can't thank you enough for your amazing advice

 

[who da man?]

Calin, I see you've only just joined today and this is your first post. Much has been said on this topic over the years, and only in the last week have we read about such a mutual attraction leading to nuptuals.

However, that said, the statistics aren't good. It's universally acknowledged that most wl's are gifted at their job, but 99.9%, although they like you, don't want you as more than a lovely regular.

Sorry, but you asked for comments.

 

[noitall]

Thanks ! I just wanted to know some peoples previous experience etc on this..

 

[Hockey Girl]

Hope you enjoy the delights of the darling ladies, and be wary of crossing the boundaries. Enjoy their company and the fact that they are prepared to share intimate moments with you. They are special angels.

 

[Geri M]

Thanks for the advice although like Icarus I should stay away in fear of getting burned...

 

[PUMPKIN head]

Dear Calin

The discussion Merls was referring to is in 'General Discussion', and the thread is titled 'Did anyone fall in love with a working girl? [Bit silly]'.

If you haven't seen it yet, it's worth a read. There have been several other threads in recent years on the same subject. A vexing question indeed.

I wish you strength, wisdom (and some luck) in working it out for your own situation.

Cheers
Ambrosia

 

[TessaStarraphobia]

Thank you both, I am not sure I am any clearer on my situation but at least I know I am not the only one in this situation

 

[subtleanarchy]

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[Mags]

I'm always touched by these posts Calin and hope you can smpely navigate these emotions successfully and avoid the obvious pitfalls you may encounter. Falling as you have done indicates that you are human and is nothing to be ashamed of. Your post is brave and can sometimes be ridiculed by many members lurking amongst this forum. Disregard those posters as they haven't experienced what you have. Giving love and having that emotion reciprocated indicates that you're able to involve yourself a little better than they are.

I will suggest to you that your feelings for the girl you have cast aside were never serious and perhaps had no future anyway. Being a regular client has definate benifits and rewards and I am definately the type of person that prefers that kind of connection with a girl, working girl or otherwise. I could be referred to as a monogamous mp.net I suppose.

The lady I see regularly is unlike anyone I've met and I have extreme feelings for her but still have respect for her plans, dreams and future aspirations. I would never interfere with anything she decides to commit to and you may need to disconnect these feelings if required. The GFE can be a powerful drug, and can sometimes replace other stimuli that offered perceived relief. I choose to pay for that experience and make the absolute most of it for every second I'm engulfed by it. I'm familiar with the connection of which you describe and am happy you've discovered it. That's the indication of an exceptional escort. I can't get enough of that feeling. That's what I subscibed to. It can help you, and repair you. It can renovate your outlook on life and ascend you to a higher place where you float and fly drowning in emotions of sunshine and lollipops.

You may have to prepare yourself for the separation of these feelings if required. You get to keep the memories though. You bought them. They're yours. Reflect on them whenever you need. Cherish her and her memory and the gift of her body and time. Love her completely but let her go if she asks you for it. Your love for her will enable you to perform this task. It's your duty.

Greatest of luck Calin.

 

[ion]

I have gone there before and to be honest with you I wish I hadn't. I ruined a good WL-mp.net relationship because of it and now I can never see her again. It is all good and a lot of fun for a while then when you want to take it to a more serious level in the relationship this is where is starts to backfire. As I became more deeply involved with this WL the more emotional strain I had placed on me. You start to doubt a lot of things.

What I have learned is if you really are serious about this lady theres two options available:

One is make sure she feels the same way. Open communication is the key here. You both have to talk about everything thats on your mind to each other otherwise it just ends up eating you inside. You also have to be very accommodating.

The other option is to just take it as something as 'fun', nothing more and enjoy the ride. Its certainly a risk but theres a lot of fun in dating a WL at times.

Whatever you decide I wish you the best of luck.

 

[Shelby. (:]

Calin, if this is the only time you have seen a working lady, then the answer is simple. Don't get confused. If every time you've had sex before it has been in the context of a meaningful relationship with someone you care for, then of course when you have sex with a provider you're going to have an emotional reaction that tells you there's a powerful connection between the two of you... because you haven't had the experiences that allow you mentally to distinguish between great sex and great sex in a relationship.

Since I don't know which lady you saw (and I'm not going to ask), I may be wrong and off target here, but I suspect you saw someone who does what every lady should do: make their client feel special and precious.

That is not to say that she 'really' just saw you as a client and didn't care about you. It's not an either/or proposition. The best WLs, for the time that you are there, are completely focused on you and try their best to find whatever point of connection there is between themselves as an individual, and YOU as an individual.

Or maybe she's just a good actress. Insufficient evidence

But assuming that she enjoy the time spent with you (oh, another false equation here - 'enjoy the time spent with you' does not equal 'she had an orgasm' - trust me on this, scrap that idea and things will go much better for you), that STILL does not mean you should be thinking "This is the woman for me." Most workers have partners already, and it's highly likely if you had such a connected experience first go that she makes such an effort with all her clients.

YES, there are occasional stories about clients and ladies getting together and living happily. I congratulate those couples and celebrate their success. But it's pretty bloody rare and Reviewankly I doubt that it would happen Reviewom a one-off happening.

My advice? Sleep with a different lady - one that's been well reviewed, not just some random Reviewom the Courier Mail - and see if you have similar feelings mpter that session too.

Enjoy yourself - make those connections with the ladies - emotional and mental as well as physical - but don't confuse the two dimensions.

 

[monkipuzzle]

NoLogoBoy has hit the nail on the head.

But I'd also add. Even if she really connected with you, thinks your fantastic and/or enjoyed the experience more than any other client she has ever seen. That does not automatically mean she wants to have a relationship with you. She may just think its a bonus. I'm sure lots of ladies have seen client they would have happily seen for Reviewee. It's doesn't mean anything to a lot of them I'm sure...just a benefit of the job to offset some of the other bad parts I'm sure.

If it was different to this you'd need a lot more than one visit to work that out.

 

[The Oracle]

The world is not black and white, but many shades of grey. As seen in lovely Bree's case, things can go well, but overall my feelings are its not an excellant basis to start a relationship. I think one thing you have to remember is you don't necessarily get the full representation of a working girls personality when you meet them either. I'm not saying that we pretend to be someone else, but all you see are the excellant attributes, as we want you to have a positive experience, so you don't necessarily see the whole person. Good luck!