Culture??...Respect???

[Cougar]

Well, I guess this is my first post since I am abit old member of this site.
I just would like to have some idea from you guy about "European Culture" with "Respect" ...If you guy go somewhere likes go to bar with your wife. And you meet some of sexy bargirl and probably that you like her. Will you let your wife know?? well, tell you of some story and maybe you can give me some idea. One night my friend with her husband and I we went to some bar in Phuket.
And we really had a good time there. Actually it is a good bar but of course every bar in Phuket should have a bargirl. But these girl they are quite nice.
They are very friendly. I and my friend who feel really comfort when we are there. Then I saw that my friend husband keep looking at one bar girl. And later my friend ask to him

My friend: "hey..who is here you like the most"
Husband : "umm.." start to look around .. and point the figer to the one that he keep looking "yeah, that's one"
It's same one that he keep looking ..
My friend : "yeah, I know...you keep looking her all the time..that why I asked you"

then a while later that girl walk pass infront off us. He stop her and said
Husband : "hey, my wife said that I like to look at you" ...
That girl : ...make the face abit confuse...
My friend : "hey, why you have to tell her about that"
Husband : "why not..it's normal"
My friend : "shite.." and she get really dispoint...

Actually that night we have a good time together ..we took a lot of photo together.. and my friend husband told to that lady ..we will send her an email with photo. My friend already got her email address but she didn't say anything to her husband.

After that I guess they will have a big fight or probably not...

Well.. the next day..they go there again.. and we seat 3 on the table. and that girl was walking around my friend's husband keep looking at that girl all every 5 mins. Even she seat behind him. He moved his head to turn around to see that girl. I feel really bad with that. Atlease you come with your wife. Why you show it a lot . Later, he asking to that girl.

Husband : "hey, you didn't give me the email yet"
Bar gril : "no, i gave to your wife already"
Husband : turn his face to look at my friend" and shout to his wife " Fanculo (meaning f...ck you), I asked you 3 time but you said "no"
My friend : with the sad face " yes, yes I got it.

Then big fight after in the car...
My friend : "why you have to show too much that you like that girl"
Husband : "what???...what I did???"
My friend : " you keep looking at the girl even I'm seating there with you and you say F..ck you to me because of the bicth's email??"
Husband : "Oh, I don't know if I do that is look wrong in thai culture..in my culture is normal. You never respect me as I respect you"
My friend : "????" then br br br

Sorry for long story..but anyone have any idea about this.

 

[IronMan of Rome]

Shock horror.. Man looks st sexy girl..

EXTRA EXTRA.. Read all about it..

 

[ch3z_s]

Also I am guessing from the fanculo comments he may have been Italian..

It would be a gay Italian man who didnt look.. Your lucky he didnt go for a pinch / feel. Its that latin machismo thing I guess.

 

[Elly]

Pure discrimination, just because others are not latin they can not look ? 5555

 

[Jinstar]

I just would like to have an idea about what happened to my friend. the way that her husband did is it normal for european people. European wife will say noting?

 

[Sidepocket8ball]

Only normal for european guy who is getting none at home!!!

 

[Drogo]

Can u describe his wife and tell us how often he has sex (at home)

 

[biswajit g]

Well, I guess that is hurt my friend that the way that her husband said to her. "I don't know what I do that look wrong in the eyes of thai culture"

Is it that normal for eroupean to do this? to keep looking another lady while seating infront of your wife and say "f..ck you to your wife because of bit.ch 's email?" Will eroupean wife can accept about this?

 

[Danielle B]

I think personally that bringing a wife or G/F to Patong knowing that she has jealous tendancies is asking for trouble, better take her to Saudi !!!!

 

[tophdguy]

All men, regardless of culture, will always look at sexy women.
Married men, of course, have to be more discreet and toe the line between looking and leering.

To answer you, yes, europeans are generally ok with the husband looking because she knows he's just looking and won't do more than that.
In fact, the wife sometimes participates by commenting about the beauty.


But in this case, maybe the husband showed too much interest in the girl.
So the wife, obviously feels disrespected and also jealous (your friend's thai, right?)

This jealousy led her to lie to him about the email.

I think he cussed her because she lied to him, not so much that about the culture or respect bit.

So yes, it happens for falangs but your friend's husband took it too far.

 

[Allanas]

Thank you Ivanlim, you are the first answer that can understand what I tried to say. I think you are right. And yes, my friend she is thai. But I don't understand about what you said "So yes, it happens for falangs but your friend's husband took it too far." what is mean by that?

Thanks again :^^:

 

[invader zim luver]

it means that your friend's husband exaggerated a litlle bit.

also, your friend could have avoited taking him to the bar,for instance,my former thai girl, kept me away from the bar scene for 2 years,she avoited 80%of that so called jealousy feeling :^^:

 

[Lovinghope]

I can not believe I am the first to ask this....

Can you post the pics? :cheers:

 

[Pompal 09.]

i am not a jealous person at all
i have zero problem with my gf pointing out that she finds a man attractive and i think she realized it is no big deal if i find a girl attractive
hell, we are all human
you just have to be respectful about it

 

[npm]

Well, Marc. I understand what do you mean. I think is normal to look to other attractive men or women. But my idea about this story that that guy he show too much to that bar girl. What is dispoint her is the way that her husband talk with her. My friend she is a nice girl and she is not a nightlife girl. I think also for this reason that why her behave is like this. :

 

[Little Dog]

another thing is you mentioned he's an italian.
not being racist, but italian men like to show that they appreciate a sexy woman.
they will leer, wolf-whistle, pinch & slap butts to show that appreciation.
but that's just a generalisation.
I'm sure there are some gentleman Italian BM on this board.

 

[Revanus D]

Well, Nantana. I knew what did you mean by that. If you read it carefully what I tried to say is not because of her husband looking at that girl. Actually, me and my friend we knew that girl as well. The night before when we have fun together my friend was tried to joke her husband by asking who's the most you like in this bar. And her husband was point to the girl that my friend was expecting. But that is fine atlease he said true to her. But what that upset her that after he point to that girl and my friend said. "yeah, I knew because you keep looking at her all the time" but that not was upset or nothing just to joke him. But then he say to that girl "hey, my wife said that I like to look at you" ... and that bar girl was looking at my friend in the strange way with some question on her face. my friend tried to explain to her that was joke but the way she answered was not so friendly. "yeahh, don't worry, a lot of the guy likes your husband that came here with wife/gf and they like me." (the answer way of bit.ch..i guess) :

And then the day after we went there again in the afternoon. And we can see her face that probably she like abit my friend's husband. But maybe she just would like to joke with my friend. And my friend's husband keep looking at her even she seating behind him. he keep turning around his head to look at her even me and his wife seating there.

For my idea to joke and to look is normal. But this time he was showed to much in my idea. And when my friend tried to discuss with him he become angry and try to saying about the culture and respecting.

 

[soein777]

Or the way of a 3 some offer.. The guy seemed keen so maybe she meant it in that way of many couples do ?!?!

 

[Pompal 09.]

funny story:

i was in Boston many years ago with my ex-gf and another couple
we were at a great place that had dueling pianos
my gf caught me looking at one beautiful girl all night
she got up, walked over to the girl and said she'd like to buy her a drink since her boyfriend, me, has been staring at her all night

we all laughed, except the girls bf

 

[SarahM]

Next time have your friend look at other men same same and see if husband get mad.