I neglected to mention, if you are planning on seeing a provider outside of work, never do it with the thoughts of being their one and only.
Work was never in our conversations, and as I said, I never meet outside of the business relationship with the thought of getting it free. If there is a chance we are going to have sex, I will always offer to pay. If it becomes free awesome. If it is nothing more than, dinners, movies, short trips with a hug and a kiss after - great. When I go back to their work environment it is normal paid experiences. I would still see other providers too. I never became infatuated with one lady just because she was seeing me outside of work. That is crazy.
Only once did I have one gal who said she would never see anyone else outside of her business while we were together. In return I did not see any other providers during that time. She also moved in with me while she continued to escort. I even drove her to some appointments and picked her up. On a couple of occasions, I was invited in for some threesome and foursome action. Sex was great and both our needs were met.
That lasted over two years. Eventually we broke it off, because of our age difference (40 years). That prevented us from doing some couple type things just because society frowned upon that age discrepancy. We are still friends to this day. In fact every lady I saw outside of their work environment I have had kept in touch to this day. Birthday wishes, Mother's Day flowers and sometimes the odd coffee as we get together.
I am planning a B.C trip to visit with one lady I met 10 years ago. She is out of the business, has two little girls and a husband. We have always kept in touch and get together whenever we can. No sex involved anymore, just good memories and continuing friendship.
Remember, if you do date a provider, that is her job. Never ask about her dates or discuss them. You will only mess things up. Do the things with her that attracted you to her in the first place and never judge. The moment that happens it's over.
And never quibble about money you gave her or lent her, it's gone let it be. You decided at the time you spent the money that was what you wanted to do, so let it be, as the Beattle's song says.