Did my massage therapist go too far?

[Terri]

I recently had a 90 minute massage by a male therapist. I usually get an hour. I've only had a few massages in my life time so I still tend to feel a bit uncomfortable having someone touch me. However, all things were going well, felt great. He asked me if I wanted to have my glutes massage. I found it strange as all the other male therapists I've had never asked me this question. Anyway, it felt great. As he massaged the back of my leg I felt he was going way to close to my privates. When I finally flipped on my back and he started massaging my inner thigh, he went as far up as my bikini line where at one point I felt him touch my privates. I thought at first it might have been an accident but it happened several times more and the same with the other leg. I was a little embarrassed as I knew I was wet down there. I don't have any sexual fantasies but for some reason I always tend to get wet during my massages. I wondered if he noticed and that's why he kept on massaging so closely where he was rubbing up against my privates. The massage was less intense as it was on my back infact I would say almost more carressing. Maybe it's all in my mind. Although I was draped I don't think I was fully draped all the way and am sure I was exposed somewhat. Hard to tell in a dark room. Has this happened to any other women out there and is this normal? I just thought that if they brush up against your privates once that they would tend to stay away from that area. Am I being paranoid?

 

[Marc]

This is simply not acceptable. He violated you, period.

As far as your body responses, that is normal. Increased blood circulation can lead to arousal of your body. Thats as far as it should go and you are the only one who should know the condition of your privates during the massage.

It sounds like a serious boundary violation and I would urge you to report this matter to the owners and even the state board and police. If he's done it to you, then he's done it to others and does not belong putting his hands on clients.

 

[Bob]

he was way out of line you should find yourself a new masseuse

 

[Joe C.]

If your wet, why care? doesnt getting massaged down there feel good? Buti guess if he was a complete stranger, then you have reason to be suspicious.