Do you think talking to other women in chat rooms is cheating?

[Sweet_Tooth]

Recently I discovered that my husband has been joining chat rooms and talking with other females to the point he asks them for pictures. Do you think that I should say something or leave it alone?
It really does bother me since he does really late at night while I am sleeping for work the next day. Also that I am 5 months pregnant with our 2nd child. Why would he do this?
Also do you think that I am wrong for checking this out? By logging into his msn account and seeing what he is doing til 3-330am?

 

[aen0404]

This is ABSOLUTELY wrong! Are you kidding yourself? How do you think he would feel if you did this? First of all, you need to sit down and talk with him, because obviously something is missing in your relationship. Whether it is in the intimacy department or lack of communication, it needs to be gently and openly discussed. Proceed with caution though, because chances are that he will wither deny it or get very upset. It will be something you need to work through together and you will need to be supportive of him. Secondly, but really should be first, you need to pray about it and bring God into your marriage, are you both believers? I hope this helps. I will be praying for you

 

[I love teeth]

I would say something. He shouldnt ask for pictures. That sounds like he is cheating and looking to cheat on you.
I would ask him 'would you do and say the things you have been saying if I was standing looking over your shoulder?' If not thats how he knows he is cheating on you.

 

[Pearl]

His manhood isnt getting enough validation in your marriage.

 

[Debbie]

Yeah its cheating. Hes not in those chat rooms talking about the weather. I would say something to him about this, i mean who wouldnt. Youre preggers and you deserve more respect than this. Pregnant women are beautiful!!

 

[But Inside I'm Screaming]

Yes, it is cheating. You need to ask him why he's doing it.

 

[cowgirl83]

WOW!!!!! What an ass. How can he do that with his PREGNANT wife being asleep. I would beat the crap out of him. It always starts with asking for pictures first. What if he likes what he sees? Is he gonna ask her on a date? I think his behavior is completely inappropriate. If I were you I would tell him that it bothers you and that a husband and FATHER should not behave this way.

So, yes.....it's cheating. Not physically, but emotionally. I'd tell him to stop.

Good luck.

P.S. Tell him how it makes you feel. And ask him how he would feel if you would be doing it. Tell him he had his chance of doing stuff like this before he met you, now he is married and a father. Tell him to act like one.
Honestly, if his parents are still married I would ask him how he would feel if his dad would be "chatting" with other women behind his mother's back? He'd probably kick his ass!

 

[sheloves_dablues]

It's highly inappropriate and terribly disrespectful.

 

[Cat]

Definately...
His intentions are obvious. Kick his ass or he'll think its okay.
If you have a father or brother to do it for you - even better.
If he's bored with the marriage already after one child - he's not in it for the long haul and planning to make your life miserable by either "ignoring you" or treating you like crap until you "leave" him. He s too much of a coward to tell you he wants out and too lazy to work at whats bothering him in the marraige and wants to take the "easy " way out, like many men out there...
Sort it out now! Show him who'se boss, or he'll walk right over you. He thinks you're too "fragile" right now to defend your marraige...

 

[Jesse]

no, but it also depends on what is being said. you would have to squeeze the truth out of him. freedom of speech is what this great country stands for!

 

[blissathome]

I think it is absolutely unacceptable. Don't let it go, you wouldn't be communicating with men and exchanging pics in chat rooms would you? Stand up for yourself and demand an explanation, the internet makes this kind of crap way too easy for men!