How do I tell my Boyfriend that I don't wanna give him a body massage!?!?!?!? ?

[sunshine]

It's not as easy as it sounds. He plays soccer once a week, and it's became a tradition for us that he comes to my house after he's done playing...and I give him a massage. His body aches sometimes after he plays, so that's why I do it. Then after he flips me over and we have sex lol...i know it's weird, but he says that his adrenaline is so high after he plays, and so he gets horny. So that's why we do it lol

So I don't wanna have sex or give him a massage...because my body has been aching and I've been getting crazy headaches lately.

Plus, girls...he doesn't shower the sweat off before we have sex, last time he said "I'm too lazy, I'll do the work, you don't have to touch me that much, don't u like me when I'm hot and sweaty?" LOL

I know. So what should I do? SHould I make up an excuse? I just don't want him to get mad...

 

[Luna Leigh]

Make a light joke about him showering, or suggest you do it together. I'm pretty sure he'd like that.

If you don't want to have sex, tell him that. What is a relationship if you can't be honest? Although you do realize that sex actually relieves headaches.

 

[U235]

buy him a ticket to thailand-they got lots of sexy thai ladies that do a wonderful job-and i dont even play soccer

 

[Zane]

Tell him: "I dont wanna give you a back massage"
Its your life, you can do with it as you please. You dont have to do anything you dont want to do.

 

[?Haylee Marie?]

Just try to keep his mind off of it. Do something he enjoys.. besides sex,and massaging. ;]
For example say he likes, soccer, turn on something on tv with soccer or something.
Hope this helps. ?
I'd kinda like him, hot and sweaty.... >.>

 

[Zebra Print]

let him read this question.

 

[M?tthew]

I think, you're making that whole story up.

 

[lovexyou]

noo dont make up some lame excuse, just tell him the real reason (your body hurts or whatever)
he should understand..

 

[J MartiniGuy]

Just be honest and tell him you don't feel like it. He'll get over it. Perhaps you should also comment that you prefer that he shower first too.

Best regards.

 

[Lara B]

i think ur bf only exists in your own mind

 

[Rising Sun - Nekyia]

Annoying for you that this has become a tradition, because it will be harder to break a routine. It should be something you both enjoy doing and it doesn't sound like you like it that much, or at least to do it that often.

Tell him that you want to keep it special and are not feeling well. If he gets angry at you for that, well that's not a good sign for the health of the relationship. You should also tell him that you're not so interested in his "hot and sweaty" and that she should take a quick rinse. It's only 5 minutes after all and he can shower in the bleachers right after the game. (I haven't yet seen a gym without some sort of shower.)

Also, tiger balm and Deep Cold, products specifically made for muscle aches, are better for aches. Tiger balm you can find in most pharmacies that sell "Chinese" medicine or herbal supplements.

He's telling the truth about the adrenaline high.

 

[Old Man Rathbun]

Find a replacement for the day.