How to go about introducing my son to my boyfriend? help?

[Tiernan Donardo]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half. He has met my 4 year old son briefly, but has never really spent time with him. I really want to introduce them, but I don't know how to do it. They're both important people in my life, but I'm afraid of my son reacting negatively to the fact that I'm gay. So, does anyone have any tips to go about doing this?

 

[Chef Kimi]

I never told my son that my fiancée was my boyfriend or whatever, I just introduced him by his name and he just started hanging out with us little by little at a time, and now my son is crazy about him and calls him Daddy and everything. I don't think you should over complicate things for now, and limit kissing and stuff at first because kids are territorial with their parents. Just have them meet and hang out at first, (we went to Coney Island) go out to eat, etc then he will feel more like your boyfriend is part of his family and less like someone taking away his daddy.

As far as being gay, I think you should just wait for your son to ask you about it and then answer his questions honestly in a simple way. Most of time we as adult over explain things to kids and often when they ask you and you dig deeper you will see how simple of an answer they really want! As he gets older you can explain it to him better, but I don't think he will reactive in a negative way unless that is how you come across about telling him.

 

[Jaamee]

Chances are your son won't really know the difference between gay and straight since he is still so young. Just explain briefly in terms he'll understand, this is daddies boyfriend. He may say something that it's a boy or whatever. Just tell him you know ,and that daddy likes this boy very much. It will probably help your son growing up to know that your gay at a young age rather than to find out when it will be harder for him to truly understand with all the peer pressure going on today. Make sure your boyfriend knows that you are worried about how to tell your son so he totally supports you and helps you make it easier on all 3 of you. Good luck

 

[peter]

lol, just do it.

 

[Matthew]

Well he's still young so if anything, NOW would be the chance to introduce them before he starts going to school and hearing being gay is bad and crap.

 

[Minmi, Queen of Taiwan]

Just introduce him. Don't beat around the bush with it!