how to introduce myself, since nothing was really positive in my life?

[Kristen]

I'm a strong single woman who has no parents since I was 16 years old, I imgrated and received education here, but I'm doing well in life. I met a very nice and cool french guy, and I think that he's interested in me. I don't know how to tell the truth that I'm such a girl! I am someone less than normal I think, since I grow up on my own. and someone I dated previously even thought that I'm cheap and looking for someone rich in life. that's not me. Even if I'm cheap, I'm still a wild princess seeking love and happiness in life.

Maybe I think about this issue too much, I only met this guy once and now he's back in france, we have contact on fb but only once a month, but I feel that he's interested in my profile. Now I miss him more and more. Should I tell him my heart for him and my special background, if I should, so in which way? telling it naturally and pretended not hurted and strong. what would he judge me as..? I have the feeling to do whatever I can for love, even in case to learn french or move to France, but should I tell all these to him,or it's too early to tell?

it's close to his birthday now, I do plan send a post card to him, if it woulodn't push him further away? since we do not live in the same country. but I felt extremely happy with him.

I'm 30 now and single, have career and friends. but I need love, and happy and my own family,
thanks for hearing, looking forward to any ideas,
thanks for answering my question, 'luckily' once upon a time, I was sufferred with 'depression', but now I'm recovered without medication, but I'm not an emotionless robot. But I guess that I am guar coating myself in most cases, on the other side, someone wouldn't feel I'm trusty then, since I'm sugar coating my own stories. it's delimma, but I don't wanna lose this great guy...thanks for answering with your smart ideas.

 

[JanStolz]

Far from being "less than normal" you've proven yourself a stong, capable individual able to survive on your own. Don't be ashamed of your past, it wasn't anything you did, it was circumstances. Shrug your shoulders. "It happened." Its time now to think of the future and leave the past where it belongs.

 

[Joshua H]

Only you can come up with that answer. You focus too much on negativity and must look on the positive side of life.

 

[Bored Goblin]

you introduce yourself as "Hi, I am Karen"

you do not talk about hardships from your past - people find such stories boring and depressing (unless you turn them into a joke)

if you start a relationship, you should tell the guy about your past once, so he knows. And never mention it again, or he conclude that you are prone to depression.

 

[Hi Hello]

But I see a lot of positiviness from you and your life. You are not less than normal. A lot of people grew up abused, left out, some even can't get over what happened and you seem strong, not less than normal.

Start with simple questions, still showing that you are interested in the french guy. If all goes well, keep going, if he shows interest. It is definite to send him a post card, it shows that you care and want him in your life. And then you can slowly tell him what you think. Don't worry if for whatever reason it doesn't go right. If he doesn't show interest, there are a lot of others who would appreciate your love.

He is far away, is he going to come back