I saw his FB chat; did he have sex with another girl???!! Help me decide...?

[Davey Eggers]

my bf & I got back to our home country after living in the uk for the past year. Weve been together 7 yrs- we met in high school and have both only ever been in this 1 relationship.

I know I shouldnt check but my bf chatted to this girl from uk on FB the day after we got home for 4 hrs straight, from around midnight (our time) to 4am. It wasn't just one post every 5 mins either-it's totally constant-like 3 or for exchanges per minute. I printed it out & it was 27 pages!!!! They don't talk dirty, a little flirty but mainly just catching up stuff. They seem to get along really well, annoyingly. Shes moving from Uk to China & he said to her TWICE that she should come to visit in Australia. He asked her if she has skype and ended with "will speak soon xoxox".

I had serious problems with him hanging around with this girl in the uk. I think they had a real thing for each other. In the chat, he mentions that he went "balls deep on her as s" and later she says she hopes "this time he keeps it in his pants".

Qus:
1) Did they have sex? Or is this just banter?
2) Does he have feelings for her?
3) is 27 pages/4hrs excessive? IT WAS CONSTANT.
4) is it ok to be chatting her during those early hours?
5) What should I do?

 

[Lara B]

yes yes yes no and dump him

 

[...]

you posted this yesterday and got quite decent answers...

It's as though people like to relive the moment every day. Don't self destruct. You don't need to confront him with a question but a clear accusation, "balls deep on her ass", "this time he keeps it in his pants". Now if it wasn't her ass it was someone elses and sure as hell not yours.

Kick his ass out or you move out - cut contact and move on.

 

[Shaliya White]

Yea they had to have sex what else could that mean?
If they talked for that long constantly then there's some kind of feelins or connection there.
And no its not really cool that they were tlkin at those hours.
You could A: confront him
B: just wait and see if she comes up again and then confront him.
C: say nothing and continue being hurt n lied too....

 

[Farah]

yes
yes
yes
no
and BREAK UP WITH HIM ASAP!