I went onto my girlfriend's facebook and she was chatting up other guys...

[lochshot]

...calling them "sweetie" "lovely" etc?!? She left her facebook logged in at my house, I went out and came back later, went on my computer and looked at facebook, she was at her house having a conversation with another guy and they were being so flirty, it hurt me so much to see this and i really don't know what to do! She will be mad at me for "snooping" on her facebook but what the hell? Please help someone.
She wasn't "joking with friends" the guy was asking her if she would end it with me and stuff, I am so mad but i really don't want to bring it up with her.
She knows the guy in real life, I am sixteen and so is she, we have been in a relationship for a year 3 months, I think I love her. When the guy said this she responded "ohh shh you can't answer that" When I seen this I had mixed feelings, I expected something like "excuse me I have a boyfriend" I mean it's a comment that doesn't really show any emotion, I don't know what to think..

 

[Rachelle]

First, you are correct, it wasn't right to snoop.
Secondly, some girls are just naturally flirty. Maybe she didn't even realize how flirty she was acting? Or maybe they were joking around? I joke with my friends....

 

[Mayan]

hello, something similar happend to me when i first was with my girlfriend. i told her if i can use her and she said yeah and right on the front she was texting a guy calling him sweetie, gorgous all of thats bull.
i was furious and she got scared and then blamed me for looking at it when i told her it was right there when i unlocked the phone. she then appologized when i said "so if i were to communicate with another female in the same manner it would be ok?" then she said no and sorry.

firstly, i dont konw if this is a new romance or marrage. me and my girlfriend have been together so long. like 4 years but this was long ago and now we fullly trust eachother.

if you are in love and know its going somewhere you must confront her and tell her its not right.
you didnt really snoop she didnt sign out. i know you shoudlnta have read and kept going but its not your fault that you couldnt help but read after seeing such pain.

it hurts so bad. she cant really be mad at you considering what shes done. also you failed to mention if she knows him in real life or shes just flirting with a random guy from austraila (assuming your not from there)

if its a real life person then its more severe yet the other type isnt okay eitehr.
basically. tell her this
"you left your facebook unsigned out, i was going to close it when i seen you were talking to a guy flirting." let her know that it hurts and that she knows it wouldnt be fair the other way around. tell her not to talk to him and to delete him and any guy she talks to like that. if she stumbles or tries to get out of it then tell her that you must not be the most important guy to her.

girls liek attention but you dont want her to lose her heart. tell her also that from now on you guys have to do this together. i dont mean always going thru eachotehrs stuff but right now me and my gf dont hide anything
we dont snoop but we always use eachotehrs things so doing something like that would only lead to getting caught.

 

[R_Marino]

Do not assume that just because the dirty man was tempting her to leave you, that it was her will too. remember if you can, who started the conversation. She might have been emerely responding to the chat/message thread. Calling a guy ' sweetie' and ' lovely' is not flirty. Those are words a sister says to someone who is like a brother to her. Do not assume that her intentions are the same as the guy who wanted her to leave you. Also consider how she responded when the guy asked her to leave you. Have a hard think about these things to figure out whether you are just being overly sensitive or whether it is necessary for you to take action by discussing the matter with her.

Good Luck