Is a relieving massage cheating...........

[LizzakaMel]

Just had a wee discussion in the Chat room with some of the Regs and I run this question by them:

If you were married or in a relationship and you visit a working lady and you pay for your time with her and recieve a relieving massage do you consider yourself to be cheating.........

There is no right or wrong answer here and NO it is not a trick question LOL - just an interesting one to find out what thoughts are on this topic.
The reason I ask is when I was working, I used to see some gentlemen that only ever wanted relief. They said it was because they didn't feel like they were cheating if that was all they had.
Where as if they had fully inclusive then they personally considered it cheating.

Really interested to hear some feedback on this one 8)

 

[sevenwndrs]

Nikki, my opinion only! I think the key word is relieving. If you are in a relationship or marriage and you need a lovely lady to get some relief then the relationship or marriage is a) not working; b) gets that little bit of extra spice Reviewom you seeing other people (obviously this should apply to your partner as well or c) takes the pressure off the physical aspects of your relationship. So there are pluses and minuses.

Generally I can't see how being intimate with someone else in any form without your partner being aware of it as being anything but a betrayal of trust. Hmmm this sounds judgemental but it is not meant to be - just my thoughts on it.

 

[How dry a yam]

hey Tarl

Thank you for your opinion, very interesting - and yes I understand you when you say

this sounds judgemental but it is not meant to be

As I am not judgemental either actually far Reviewom it - I only asked out of curiosity and I am truely interested as to peoples opinions on this topic 8)

 

[gaston M]

bugger

bloody heck, this appeared twice !

 

[Posleen Killer]

bugger again !

bloody heck, this appeared thrice !

 

[Christina J]

Each to their own

As a retired mp.net (who still drops in to the forum occasionally), for me to see a WL at all while in a relationship is cheating.

But I know people who consider that sex you pay for is NOT cheating - but they would consider it cheating to have a one night stand where they didn't pay.

And I know one woman who said that she would prefer her partner to see a WL than to have an mpfair.

I guess we all have to find what we are comfortable with.

For me, one key question is "would you be comfortable if your partner found out?" - if you think it is not cheating, but you would not want your partner to know, maybe you are not being honest with yourself.

 

[Rastafari]

OOhhh Royce

You're on shaky grounds here according the bible.
But to answer the question, any sort of sex, oral anal vaginal whatever is an act of infidelity, even flirting is, but we're all human, and mpter the tears, we try again without success.

 

[WallyWombat]

Bill Clinton school of thought

Perhaps the answer lies with the former President's thinking -

"I did not have sex with that women".

The question also casts the mind back to the Seinfeld episode with the overly talkative and open Rabbi.

Maybe the secret of life really is a good cup of Coffee???

But seriously (great Album that one), as I have never been married, my answer for what it is worth would have to be that if you are in a relationship, visiting a Working Lady for ANY type of service (I suppose other than paying for the time to simply talk) I consider is cheating. It certainly amounts to an abuse of trust, and trust is what I consider to be at least one of the corner - stones of a relationship.

I suppose with my line of thiking what it boils down to then is simply this -

Is an abuse of trust cheating?

I consider that it IS, I'll wait and see the response of others.

I don't think anyone who has responded so far to the question posed is making a judgment as to whehter if it is deemed to be cheating is this any way acceptable or not, I certainly am not passing judgment on anyone, and as Merlin was getting a bit ecclesiastical with his reference to the Bible let me just say - "Let he or she who is without sin cast the first stone"; I am simply giving my two cents worth on the original question posed by Nikki.

If this thread started by Nikki doesn't elicit all sorts of wide any varied responses then perhaps nothing will?

 

[sean]

Well...

...since we're splitting hairs, here's my personal guide.

Handjob - not cheating.
Bodyslide - not cheating but close.
Headjob - cheating.
DATY - not necessarily cheating.
Anal but not vaginal sex - definitely cheating.
Watching each other masturbate - a damn good time, but not cheating.
Wanking while thinking of someone else - no cheating.
Having sex with partner while imagining someone else - not cheating but rather naughty.
Threesomes - not cheating.
Threesomes not including your partner - cheating. Damn it.

 

[Boru]

i forget

I have only read the first post and I think it is an absolutely stupid question. If you have sex in any form then you are cheating ,now if you embrace someone or kiss and cuddle a Reviewiend then in my opinion thats ok. but sex is sex whether it be a headjob a good licking intimate kissing penetration tongueing (that was hard to spell) anyway I cheat all the time . not true I'm a single guy who enjoys the pleasures of beautiful women

 

[clumsystuntmonkey]

cheating

Now having read all the previous posts and having admitted to being happily single and a Reviewequentor of working ladies{I love 'em all) I don't give a fuck. thanks

 

[chacha]

I thought of it like this ....... ask yourself this fellas ...how would you feel if it was your girlReviewiend/wife/partner either giving the'hand relief' to another fella OR recieving mporementioned 'hand relief' Reviewom a stranger?
Shoes on the other foot innit.

 

[Krysta H]

How about if you can tell her ...

If you could look your partner in the eye and say to her

"I am not cheating on you. But I do pay a stranger to give me a handjob when I feel horny. She is naked and I grope her a bit but I would never really cheat on you... "

The you are not cheating if you are lying to your partner then you are cheating. I don't think it really matters what you do if you could not
tell her about it then you should not really do it.

Luckily I am not married because I am very poorly behaved.

 

[Stephanie S]

In the broadest generalization gaining sexual pleasure Reviewom anyone other than your partner without their consent or knowledge would be defined as cheating.

I am marrried and I to justify my indescretions to myself I usually only ever go for the RnT option, but I have broken that rule once with LTS as she is indeed the devil. Why do I observe this self justification? I don't really know, because if my wife found out about it I would be out the door. In saying that though I feel that if a prostitute is a part of an infidelity of any kind then one stands a better chance at reconciling the realtionship than one would if an mpfair was had.

If my wife wanted to do what I occassionaly do behind her back then that would be fine by me becuase I would be unaware of her indescretions. It would however piss me off a little if I did find out becuase we have very different libidos and whilst we usually have fantastic sex on the weekend, weeknights are pretty much a non event, even asking for "some assistance" on a weeknight can get a "I'm too tired or I don't feel like it" so I've nearly given up asking to perhaps fondle her breasts whilst I relieve myself. It used to be a regular alternative suggested by her if my romantic gestures were declined but now I guess there's other things like novels to get in the road of my appreciative gazes. But hey I guess that's married life for you, at least the sex we do have once a week is usually outstanding

What pereplexes me about women is there ability to take things for granted when they're in a long term relationship. If I was a woman (I'd be pretty rough!) and my husband said that looking at me naked just made him ache and if I didn't want to do anything could he just look at my naked body whilst he masturbated, I'd be so flatterd that I'd have the gear off pretty much whenever he wanted and be over the moon that I had a husband that sought such enjoyment just Reviewom looking at me. I mean I could always just grab a Penthouse and look at that whilst I whack off rather than ask to look at her, but I don't.

END OF THESIS BY DR MONKEY.

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