is it wrong that i dont like my husband to chat on line with single women?

[Honey]

My husband found a site on his phone called "skout" some kind of singles chat line. It looks like a line-up of desperate women. Anyway, he chats with several women online, all seems to be innocent, but i dont like it. I think he should be spending this time with me, talking to me, his wife for the past 21 yrs. I guess hes bored with me, or hes feeling old. Dont understand whats going through his mind?

 

[Mysterious Person]

Um no I would be mad.
Go yell at him.
Haha jk but you defs need to talk it out with him because he's definitely in the wrong.

 

[Cecita]

no its not wrong at all. of course he has to spend this time with you. try to find activities that both of you might enjoy!!!

 

[LJKN]

Sounds to me that although the chat may seem benign, the fact he feels has to go on a singles site and chat to other women is not. Im sure he would not like it if you were chatting to single men online. Maybe he likes the bit of 'risk' he gets from chatting to new women.. I suggest that you do the same, find a singles site and have some 'innocent' conversations with other men, when he finds out how it makes you feel he might be inclined to stop.

 

[TiROLean]

you forgot to turn caps-lock off.

and you don't have to worry, when he's going to use internet slang at you at he turns blue and grows a mustache is when you need to start worrying.

 

[15acbarnett]

tell him straight up, try to get that spark again, maybe its gotten boring

 

[nicky]

nothing wrong with that!! I'd be pretty pissed to find out my husband is chatting with other women online! let him know it bothers you!

 

[Chris Hansen.]

He's probably tired of you yelling at him

 

[blark b]

please easy on the caps.

sounds like your husband is missing something in his life. perhaps real life female friends? it doesn't sound right for him to be chatting for no apparent reason to other female strangers online unless he does feel a void in his life. i don't think he should be doing this but try to figure out why he is.

21 years being with the same partner can be daunting. i wouldn't blame it all on yourself, he's not bored with you, he's bored with his life. you just need to give him incentives to get off the computer. there's many indirect ways to seduce him in that way. just be creative cause it does sound like he bored of something. changing up the norm always brings a little excitement to the field.

so try the indirect approach first. don't convict him right off the bat cause he might just get defensive and will start an argument.

 

[Schmoolie]

Honey, you are so right it is ridiculous. It is an addictive habit and it is dangerous. Throw some medication or alcohol into that mix and your man will end up destroying you life his life and anyone elses that matters. I've seen this played out a hundred times. If you want to save your marriage you need to call him out on this up front and honestly. Tell him Schmooli said so.

 

[Sam Kents]

absolutely not! that's unacceptable, i would be so mad if i were you.