Is my dad giving me a back massage wrong?

[Casey Taylor]

i don't remember how old i was i think maybe 14 and i asked him and he did and i don't think it was sexual but i can't remember that far back and now im beginning to think it was totally wrong and illicit, and i remember a part of me was sort of testing him, whether he was like that but he stayed on my back and im just worried please help tell me im not sick and it wasn't abuse???

 

[babyz32123??? ? ? ??]

its your dad of course its ok ! and u were 14 so you still are young to him so as long as he didnt fondle with your boobs its all right.

 

[mel h]

If it was just a back massage there's nothing wrong with it. If he was doing other things, or has tried other things, then there'd be a cause for concern.

 

[Jaded Ruby]

Why do YOU think it was weird? What was it about the experience that made you think it might have been illicit? Was he starddling and stroking you and not settig clear boundries, when you needed him too, was he fonling your shoulders and your hips and lettiing his hands linger in places you wish they didn't? Are there parts of the experience you "tuned" out because it really made you uncomfortable? If there are...you should talk to someone about it. Did something happen with someone else that is just making you question experiences with EVERYONE...even innocent ones...and your just not sure if yo know the difference? It's okay to talk to someone about that too. If you don't want to talk to your mom, or sister or someon close..because you don't want to shake up the "family" until you get your bearings of what's what and what's real....then DON'T. But if your Dad ISN'T kosher. If something DID go down....even if he didn't full out try something but he just bad with boundries.....then be aware of it. Talk to someone about it. Everyone get's dealt some crap cards in life....But what you do with them and how you play them will determine what sort of woman you grow into. believe it or not you have ALOT of power and choice in the matter. Even if you can't control, change or predict what other people will do.....you can Control, and choose for Yourself what YOU will do! Stay safe and Love yourself...Everything will be fine.

 

[Tobi]

LOL he's your dad of course it's ok.