Relaxation for Tense Clients
"If they seem otherwise able to relax and breathe deeply,except when you work the neck and surrounding muscles, try talking them into breathing deeply while counting the inhale and exhale concentrating on the count being the same for each. Then tell them to increase that number each time, with each breath. Count with them, encouraging the positive progress while your hands lay firmly but gently in all areas of thier neck, asking along the way when you feel possible restrictions if this is a pain area. Try lightening your pressure on thier inbreath and increasing pressure on the outbreath if possible on the adhesions or restricted tissue. This allows you to know thier tollerance to your pressure while helping them gain trust in you. It has worked several times for me, and I have worked alot of chronic headache people referred to me by neurologists and primary care physicians. Neck pain and headache clients do not give up thier heads easily! It can be slow, be patient!
If the client has a hard time relaxing in general, tell them the before mentioned breathing and counting exercise, have them do it in the session for as long as it takes. If you begin a massage with the client in prone position, try full body rocking. Shaking the sacrum with full hands and pressure in a very fast and firm movement, rhythm is important! This, over a few mins of constant rocking will make anyone relax. It also allows you to identify some holding patterns to which you can address in the massage.
These techniques have proven effective for me for about 7 years. Remember...PATIENCE!!"
Posted by Laura Tatro
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"I worked with a corporate bean counter boss who, at the end of an intense work day, could not let go. She'd admit that sometimes she was still crunching numbers.
I'd catch her at it and whisper "minus thirty five thousand" ...or "that's not a credit...yikes! that's a debit"...she'd grin and warn me "red line that!"...but I'd get a little more of the "let go" in the neck muscles that we both were after.
One lunch break I checked my book and saw her penciled in that afternoon. I walked to the nearby Camelot Music to the Infant section and picked out the most soothing "Mommy" voice singing lullabies.
She was prone on the table when I started the tape. Her shoulders jiggled with laughter and she looked up with wry look that meant...Oh Pleeeease!
I protested "What? I chose it just for you."
Folks, that kind of personal attention has its merits.
She shook her head, smiling... but her body actually noodled out as she was lullabied into the land of Winkin Blinkin and Nod, as I worked.
What holding? I had to coax Ms. Up-and-at-Em off the table at the end of the session.
She laughed that it was my fault...it worked! Her face looked so youthful and free of stress. Almost a new person! So I gave her the tape, "Carla, get some good sleep tonight."
I actually got a hug!
Gina"
Posted by gutehands
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"A slightly different approach to the tensing that clients do sometimes is called "paradoxical intention". Because the tensing is often unconscious and therefore a client can be unaware of it and embarassed by having it called to their attention, I have begun asking them to see if they can make an area MORE tense and then release a tiny bit of the tension. This follows the idea of PMR (progressive muscle relaxation) where the verbal instructions are to tense, tense, tense an area and then release it."
Posted by ymdw2004
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"I have a little trick that works most of the time with those clients who have not responded to other attempts to help them relax the head and neck when working with client in supine position: I teach the client to relax their head and neck by showing them the difference between tense and relaxed...place your hand across the clients forehead to provide a bit of resistance and ask client to lift their head and resist against your hand for a few seconds. Then instruct them to release or relax their head and let it rest back on the table. Repeat this a few times and explain that when you're resisting, you're TENSE; and when you're resting, you're RELAXED. Soon they will be able to recognize the difference on their own and you won't have to deal with the "holding." This technique can also work for other areas of the body such as arms or legs, for example. Just do some contract (with a little resitance) and relax exercises. Some may need a little "refresher" from time to time. Try it and let me know how it works for you and your clients. Hope this helps."
Posted by CanadianRMT