My new husband sends private chat messages to women on Facebook.?

[Tara H]

Not only does he send private chat messages to women, he also adds women who have been mean to me and who I have told him I did not approve of. What do I do?
I confronted him about it, deleted the people I had problem with, and then he added two of them back. He also added one of them to my Facebook page. So, I just went back in a deleted them again. The messages I had found were not sexual or anything but I still thought it was wrong bc I would never do that to him.

 

[Loving Life Now]

confront him and do marriage counseling..or leave him..

 

[Goodnessmercy]

1.he doesnt care about you.
2.he is capable of cheating on you.
3.how can he disrespect you?
4.he is a jack ass he has to respect your wishes.go ahead text someone he doesnt like and make him taste his own medicine.

 

[Krystal]

Um, he obviously has a shady side that you need to get to the bottom of quickly. I mean, to the point of needing to pretty much tell him to delete the girls on his facebook that you have problems with. my boyfriend started sending inappropriate texts to two girls via the phone last year when we hit a rough patch. we both saw counselors and worked everything out but i told him until he deleted his so called "friends" from facebook there was no way i would work on being with him. he understood that it was disrespectful and deleted them and hasn't spoken to them since. if he loves you, he will understand that it's disrespectful. if he doesn't he is hiding something and doesn't truly love you.

 

[Mel]

Have you confronted him about it? If I were you I would not be putting up with it. I would be kicking him to the curb.

 

[Darcy]

Sounds like he has something to hide and there are trust issues.

Either get into counseling or get out and move on.

 

[allornothing]

Tell him to stop or f - off. you don't need anymore stress in your life. this is just being mean and in a way controlling.

 

[Sabra]

One word, here again: Annulment. He made a vow to you then immediately showed you that he didn't mean a word of it. It will only get worse and more abusive and humiliating from here. You don't deserve that. He's really not at all the man you married, so get rid of him and go find the man you married. I know how humiliating this must be, and I can relate to your pain.

But you don't have time to get mired in that. You must take action. Immediately consult a divorce attorney, a real go-getter. Make sure hubby doesn't know you did it. File for a separation, have all the locks changed, and have his stuff waiting for him on the front lawn.

Write him a text, once all this is done; maybe something like this: "Gee, thot we were married but I must b mistaken. Don't worry, I guess it was just a misunderstanding. Have a nice life."

Don't respond when he comes pounding out the door. If he pounds for too long, call 911.

You can keep control of this situation, and extricate yourself, or you can surrender to it and say goodbye to all your self-esteem, your dignity, and the love you thought you had when you married him . I'm sorry it wasn't true. But I want you to come out on top in this situation. He is the one who made a mockery of your marriage, and that makes you feel just as low as it gets.

So, don't let him do to you financially what he has done with his fidelity.He cheated on you. He left the nest, at least in intention. The one who is left gets the house.

He doesn't appreciate you; therefore, he doesn't deserve you. He's a pig.

And you are not.

 

[AFroDite]

Though it would be NICE of him to delete the women you find objectionable, he doesn't seem to want to cooperate. So in the grand scheme of things, just chalk it up as infantile Facebook drama he is engaging in and leave it alone. He has a ways to go to be more mature. I sympathize with you until he gets there.