jonathan st.thomas
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Ok...I am again giving thought to "indulging" in aspects of the hobby beyond strip clubs (which I actually haven't been to in quite awhile...perhaps not in as much as a year...at least not apart from visits with out of town guests).
Based on the feedback from other subject matter experts in various threads at various times, I have sort of determined that escort encounters are not for me.
Yet, I find myself in a bit of a...dilemma. I am (again) going to make a passing effort at semi-monogamy as a result of some recent events in my life, which means I will need to find a source for "distraction" at times like these when my GF is out of commission, so to speak.
I am thinking the MPA thing might work. I am anticipating it being a bit more "at arms length" than an encounter with an escort, and as a result, I am less likely to be disappointed with not being able to really get the know the person, spend extensive amounts of time with them, etc. Plus...and no...I have no rational defense for this line of reasoning...I feel like it would be less of a violation of my latest attempt to give the person I most care for the type of relationship I know she actually wants (ie, it is less like cheating). If she found out I went to an MPA she'd be pissed as hell, angry, and probably would dump me. If she she found out I went to see an escort she'd be crushed and mortified.
So...with that said...
Can I get some recommendations on a place to go / MPA to see for my first time?
I am not looking for anything "extra"...just your basic rub and tug.
I would very much prefer that the person be very sensual, versus either mechanical or wild. I am looking for a nice...slow...gentle...easy...pleasant experience...with a nice, slow, easy extended "finish". Tantric, almost.
I honestly do not care what the person looks like beyond "attractive" and in reality I am more likely to "connect" with someone older versus younger, and more "average looking" than someone who is completely self absorbed in their good looks.
Lastly, while I do not think myself "cheap" value matters. I have concluded one of the reasons the escort thing wouldn't work for me is I would just be....frustrated? at the notion of that kind of outlay for something I typically would not have to pay for...I rather spend that money on a nice leisurely fine dining experience with an attractive woman than for the privilege of sleeping with her. By the same token...if the outlay for my first foray into the MPA world leaves me thinking "I can't believe I just paid that much for a hand job", then I will have buyers' remorse.
Any and all assistance appreciated....
Based on the feedback from other subject matter experts in various threads at various times, I have sort of determined that escort encounters are not for me.
Yet, I find myself in a bit of a...dilemma. I am (again) going to make a passing effort at semi-monogamy as a result of some recent events in my life, which means I will need to find a source for "distraction" at times like these when my GF is out of commission, so to speak.
I am thinking the MPA thing might work. I am anticipating it being a bit more "at arms length" than an encounter with an escort, and as a result, I am less likely to be disappointed with not being able to really get the know the person, spend extensive amounts of time with them, etc. Plus...and no...I have no rational defense for this line of reasoning...I feel like it would be less of a violation of my latest attempt to give the person I most care for the type of relationship I know she actually wants (ie, it is less like cheating). If she found out I went to an MPA she'd be pissed as hell, angry, and probably would dump me. If she she found out I went to see an escort she'd be crushed and mortified.
So...with that said...
Can I get some recommendations on a place to go / MPA to see for my first time?
I am not looking for anything "extra"...just your basic rub and tug.
I would very much prefer that the person be very sensual, versus either mechanical or wild. I am looking for a nice...slow...gentle...easy...pleasant experience...with a nice, slow, easy extended "finish". Tantric, almost.
I honestly do not care what the person looks like beyond "attractive" and in reality I am more likely to "connect" with someone older versus younger, and more "average looking" than someone who is completely self absorbed in their good looks.
Lastly, while I do not think myself "cheap" value matters. I have concluded one of the reasons the escort thing wouldn't work for me is I would just be....frustrated? at the notion of that kind of outlay for something I typically would not have to pay for...I rather spend that money on a nice leisurely fine dining experience with an attractive woman than for the privilege of sleeping with her. By the same token...if the outlay for my first foray into the MPA world leaves me thinking "I can't believe I just paid that much for a hand job", then I will have buyers' remorse.
Any and all assistance appreciated....