I had a gentle introduction to BDSM not long ago and was very pleasantly surprised. I'm not into pain either, nor what I consider to be extreme things such as nipple clamps, etc. I don't get humiliation, either.
I was at a party hosted by a dom who took me through what was available and was more than happy to dovetail for me. My fascination was primarily with being blindfolded and tie and tease. I lay face down blindfolded and she used a paddle to ht my buttocks, nothing hard or painful at all. That didn't do anything for me one way or the other but when that was followed immediately by stroking with a brush, I found that tremendously erotic, but then I do enjoy sensuous touch and that certainly was very sensuous.
I'm pretty much a compliant personality sexually and would like to explore further the aspect of being dom'ed, in particular being tied and blindfolded and made to eat out the lady (I love face sitting). In fact, very much the type of service enjoyed recently by Mal99 (someone I know Reviewom LBB) with Eve of Chester. There's a great Review on LBB that's worth looking out for and that's been a clincher for me in my decision to see that lady in the new year. Also worth saying is that I find the sight of a lady wearing latex/rubber to be very erotic.
As I say, my experience was with a dom who actually combines those activities with traditional sexual escorting activities, a mix that seems to be relatively unusual in pure dom circles. The BDSM scene covers a very wide spectrum of activities and I was very pleasntly surprised by my experience so far and would want to take some "baby steps" within my boundaries/interests.