Secret hobbying

[squirrelhunter1]

Why do you hobby knowing that if your SO discovered it you would loose everything?
What makes seeing any escort or MPA worth loosing your relationship? Or does the fact that you hobby mean you really dont care about the relationship anyway so being discovered is really ok because you just dont care ? Ive tried to understand the thought process here. Knowing my SO may hobby makes me question everything about us.

 

[luvnewpussy]

Are u a Male or female , because it depends on who your SO is to understand the logic. We are wired differently and one will not understand the other species "logic"

Let's me try to explain
When Men fuck other women - no emotional connection is needed

When Women fuck other men - they need a emotional connection

So for a women to have a affair she needs to have a connection. Over the course of time she must allow him access to her to connect. This takes planning and preparing. So When a women fucks around it is more insidious. More deceitful Since she must give herself mentally first before she opens her legs (or mouth)

Us men do not need that emotional connection , if her legs are open we will get turned on , it is instinct driven vs emotional driven , yes it feels good , yes some girls make you feel special but for the majority of men, we can fuck multiple women on the same day no problem , women are not naturally wired this way.

The ratio of men who actually leave there spouse because of how good the other girls pussy was is slim to none. We just enjoy the fucking part that's its. If she has other attributes that's great but the main attraction was to get to fuck her. That's why you initially spoke to your now girlfriend or spouse or wife it was just so you can fuck her. Then you noticed she had other attributes you liked so you stuck around. Fucked her some more and you are here today.

Women work the opposite way , they notice the attributes first before they "allow" you to fuck them. So it is a game of convincing for us men.

The Universal law :
Men give money and resources to women there interested in. Women give time and emotions to the men there interested in.

Here is a example...
Let's say you fucked another girl (with a condom) and your spouse found out , which girl would she be more upset at .

Girl A - civilian
Regular girl

Girl B - escort
SPA or MPA

See my point , if your SO finds out you have fucked someone else yes she will upset but if she knows no additional exchanges where involved she will accept the apology. Ie...flowers , hanging out , lending her money etc this can be accepted if she was a escort .

If she was a civilian your SO would think you are hanging out and giving her your resources which would be considered more disrespectful and hurtful. She would not think the same if it was a escort . She would think you just paid her and that's it .
See women care about who else you are helping besides them vs wbo you are fucking .The problem is guys don't know when they crossed the line, ie..buying escorts stuff, I have no problem if u want to treat her , but buy 2 bouquets, drop one off to your spouse, wife girlfriend, then to your fuck friend. As long as your not restrictioning money and resources your SO will not be worried about things. It's when these things are removed from your relationship your SO will see this as a red flag and begin to wonder why.

My point is if your in a relationship fuck working girls not civilians. Easier to ask for forgiveness with ESCORTS , Don't remove money and resource from your SO world. That's a red flag and she will dig deeper to find out what's going on and why.Finally This is apple's and oranges , men fuck other girls because it is instinct driven for women it's not.

Yeah I should write a book. I know .

 

[King_legit]

Are u a Male or female , because it depends on who your SO is to understand the logic. We are wired differently and one will not understand the other species "logic"

Let's me try to explain
When Men fuck other women - no emotional connection is needed

When Women fuck other men - they need a emotional connection

So for a women to have a affair she needs to have a connection. Over the course of time she must allow him access to her to connect. This takes planning and preparing. So When a women fucks around it is more insidious. More deceitful Since she must give herself mentally first before she opens her legs (or mouth)

Us men do not need that emotional connection , if her legs are open we will get turned on , it is instinct driven vs emotional driven , yes it feels good , yes some girls make you feel special but for the majority of men, we can fuck multiple women on the same day no problem , women are not naturally wired this way.

The ratio of men who actually leave there spouse because of how good the other girls pussy was is slim to none. We just enjoy the fucking part that's its. If she has other attributes that's great but the main attraction was to get to fuck her. That's why you initially spoke to your now girlfriend or spouse or wife it was just so you can fuck her. Then you noticed she had other attributes you liked so you stuck around. Fucked her some more and you are here today.

Women work the opposite way , they notice the attributes first before they "allow" you to fuck them. So it is a game of convincing for us men.

The Universal law :
Men give money and resources to women there interested in. Women give time and emotions to the men there interested in.

Here is a example...
Let's say you fucked another girl (with a condom) and your spouse found out , which girl would she be more upset at .

Girl A - civilian
Regular girl

Girl B - escort
SPA or MPA

See my point , if your SO finds out you have fucked someone else yes she will upset but if she knows no additional exchanges where involved she will accept the apology. Ie...flowers , hanging out , lending her money etc this can be accepted if she was a escort .

If she was a civilian your SO would think you are hanging out and giving her your resources which would be considered more disrespectful and hurtful. She would not think the same if it was a escort . She would think you just paid her and that's it .
See women care about who else you are helping besides them vs wbo you are fucking .The problem is guys don't know when they crossed the line, ie..buying escorts stuff, I have no problem if u want to treat her , but buy 2 bouquets, drop one off to your spouse, wife girlfriend, then to your fuck friend. As long as your not restrictioning money and resources your SO will not be worried about things. It's when these things are removed from your relationship your SO will see this as a red flag and begin to wonder why.

My point is if your in a relationship fuck working girls not civilians. Easier to ask for forgiveness with ESCORTS , Don't remove money and resource from your SO world. That's a red flag and she will dig deeper to find out what's going on and why.Finally This is apple's and oranges , men fuck other girls because it is instinct driven for women it's not.

Yeah I should write a book. I know .

Well done explanation that real men understand and something even a Simp could grasp would it be safe to assume you watch fresh and fit? Because there are a lot of Simps here who could use the red pill

 

[curvluvr]

Are u a Male or female , because it depends on who your SO is to understand the logic. We are wired differently and one will not understand the other species "logic"

Let's me try to explain
When Men fuck other women - no emotional connection is needed

When Women fuck other men - they need a emotional connection

So for a women to have a affair she needs to have a connection. Over the course of time she must allow him access to her to connect. This takes planning and preparing. So When a women fucks around it is more insidious. More deceitful Since she must give herself mentally first before she opens her legs (or mouth)

Us men do not need that emotional connection , if her legs are open we will get turned on , it is instinct driven vs emotional driven , yes it feels good , yes some girls make you feel special but for the majority of men, we can fuck multiple women on the same day no problem , women are not naturally wired this way.

The ratio of men who actually leave there spouse because of how good the other girls pussy was is slim to none. We just enjoy the fucking part that's its. If she has other attributes that's great but the main attraction was to get to fuck her. That's why you initially spoke to your now girlfriend or spouse or wife it was just so you can fuck her. Then you noticed she had other attributes you liked so you stuck around. Fucked her some more and you are here today.

Women work the opposite way , they notice the attributes first before they "allow" you to fuck them. So it is a game of convincing for us men.

The Universal law :
Men give money and resources to women there interested in. Women give time and emotions to the men there interested in.

Here is a example...
Let's say you fucked another girl (with a condom) and your spouse found out , which girl would she be more upset at .

Girl A - civilian
Regular girl

Girl B - escort
SPA or MPA

See my point , if your SO finds out you have fucked someone else yes she will upset but if she knows no additional exchanges where involved she will accept the apology. Ie...flowers , hanging out , lending her money etc this can be accepted if she was a escort .

If she was a civilian your SO would think you are hanging out and giving her your resources which would be considered more disrespectful and hurtful. She would not think the same if it was a escort . She would think you just paid her and that's it .
See women care about who else you are helping besides them vs wbo you are fucking .The problem is guys don't know when they crossed the line, ie..buying escorts stuff, I have no problem if u want to treat her , but buy 2 bouquets, drop one off to your spouse, wife girlfriend, then to your fuck friend. As long as your not restrictioning money and resources your SO will not be worried about things. It's when these things are removed from your relationship your SO will see this as a red flag and begin to wonder why.

My point is if your in a relationship fuck working girls not civilians. Easier to ask for forgiveness with ESCORTS , Don't remove money and resource from your SO world. That's a red flag and she will dig deeper to find out what's going on and why.Finally This is apple's and oranges , men fuck other girls because it is instinct driven for women it's not.

Yeah I should write a book. I know .

Well said.

 

[Deleted member 79939]

Are u a Male or female , because it depends on who your SO is to understand the logic. We are wired differently and one will not understand the other species "logic"

Let's me try to explain
When Men fuck other women - no emotional connection is needed

When Women fuck other men - they need a emotional connection

So for a women to have a affair she needs to have a connection. Over the course of time she must allow him access to her to connect. This takes planning and preparing. So When a women fucks around it is more insidious. More deceitful Since she must give herself mentally first before she opens her legs (or mouth)

Us men do not need that emotional connection , if her legs are open we will get turned on , it is instinct driven vs emotional driven , yes it feels good , yes some girls make you feel special but for the majority of men, we can fuck multiple women on the same day no problem , women are not naturally wired this way.

The ratio of men who actually leave there spouse because of how good the other girls pussy was is slim to none. We just enjoy the fucking part that's its. If she has other attributes that's great but the main attraction was to get to fuck her. That's why you initially spoke to your now girlfriend or spouse or wife it was just so you can fuck her. Then you noticed she had other attributes you liked so you stuck around. Fucked her some more and you are here today.

Women work the opposite way , they notice the attributes first before they "allow" you to fuck them. So it is a game of convincing for us men.

The Universal law :
Men give money and resources to women there interested in. Women give time and emotions to the men there interested in.

Here is a example...
Let's say you fucked another girl (with a condom) and your spouse found out , which girl would she be more upset at .

Girl A - civilian
Regular girl

Girl B - escort
SPA or MPA

See my point , if your SO finds out you have fucked someone else yes she will upset but if she knows no additional exchanges where involved she will accept the apology. Ie...flowers , hanging out , lending her money etc this can be accepted if she was a escort .

If she was a civilian your SO would think you are hanging out and giving her your resources which would be considered more disrespectful and hurtful. She would not think the same if it was a escort . She would think you just paid her and that's it .
See women care about who else you are helping besides them vs wbo you are fucking .The problem is guys don't know when they crossed the line, ie..buying escorts stuff, I have no problem if u want to treat her , but buy 2 bouquets, drop one off to your spouse, wife girlfriend, then to your fuck friend. As long as your not restrictioning money and resources your SO will not be worried about things. It's when these things are removed from your relationship your SO will see this as a red flag and begin to wonder why.

My point is if your in a relationship fuck working girls not civilians. Easier to ask for forgiveness with ESCORTS , Don't remove money and resource from your SO world. That's a red flag and she will dig deeper to find out what's going on and why.Finally This is apple's and oranges , men fuck other girls because it is instinct driven for women it's not.

Yeah I should write a book. I know .

U are best
This is genius

Let's me try to explain
When Men fuck other women - no emotional connection is needed

When Women fuck other men - they need a emotional connection

 

[Deleted member 79939]

The problem with the first response to the OP is that it is contradicted by the behavior of most women in the sex trade. You really think those women need an emotional connection to their clients? Not at all. And the boyfriend's of the sex workers - do you think they care? Maybe some, mind you...

Anyhow the point is.. it's a good first question in the OP. I think most men, in reality, are thinking with their penises, not with their brains. They haven't gone through the mental exercise of the tears, the shouting, the courtroom, the custody, the settlement, the lawyers... they just think "it'll be okay"... in my case, I hav the added belief that my wife wouldn't care that much. but who knows...

I think there is also an element of self destruction to it. Men are soldiers. We are prepare to die for dumb causes.

Nice ...
Very philosophical

Let's me try to explain
When Men fuck other women - no emotional connection is needed

When Women fuck other men - they need a emotional connection

 

[Deleted member 79939]

Are you telling me that when a female sex worker has sex with her client, she has an emotional connection? Can we get a sex worker to chime in here please? What are YOUR thoughts when you are taking a load of cum on your face or in your gash? Are you thinking, why won't this guy commit???

I guess maybe if you go to the same MPA every week for several years, and then stop going, there will be some emotional pain there... but is that a female thing...

Except for that story about the one guy who was banging the old asian MPA and they were talking about how he'd buy her a house in Richmond Hill.... ffs where is that thread, I laugh every time I think of that... I think an MPA isn't that attached...

Even women in long term relationships... at the end of the day, they just want their cuckold to take out the garbage, clean up their mess, yada yada...

All massage ladies want the emotional connection
They want to see u once a week

 

[shakenbake]

All massage ladies want the emotional connection
They want to see u once a week

Emotional AND economical, I say.

Seriously, I have befriended many MPAs and SPs in the years I have hobbied. That is human nature.

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[Deleted member 79939]

Emotional AND economical, I say.

Seriously, I have befriended many MPAs and SPs in the years I have hobbied. That is human nature.

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yes, E & E
emotional , because they are like that
economical, because they are like that
they want both
the whole cake too

 

[UsefulIdiot]

Why do you hobby knowing that if your SO discovered it you would loose everything?
What makes seeing any escort or MPA worth loosing your relationship? Or does the fact that you hobby mean you really dont care about the relationship anyway so being discovered is really ok because you just dont care ? Ive tried to understand the thought process here. Knowing my SO may hobby makes me question everything about us.

There are so many reasons partners decide to risk their relationships for sex and intimacy outside of a relationship. There is the Chris Rock argument that people are selfish to the extent that they can get away with it. In this situation there is no deception, both partners know what is going on, that is the arrangement they agree to. One of the partners may not like it but agree to it in order to keep their relationship. In other cases both partners are more libertine in their attitudes, sex is fun and a part of life and not a sacrosanct compact between two people. I had a coach once who was a real alpha male. He made no pretensions of fidelity and would often have women stay over where he and is common law wife lived. He kept doing this and she stuck around and had children with him. A friend from my team started showing me naked pictures of his girlfriend. I realized he was inviting me into a threesome (not for me thank you). In cases where deception is involved there is the thrill of getting away with something, the game of making secret arrangements, all the things done to cover tracks and the novelty of being with new partners. And then there is resentment or unfulfilled need. For the first couple of years with a partner love is a drug that allows you to see what you want to see and ignore obvious problems. The drug wears off, but now you have history together and you care about each over. One or both partners stop trying that hard, needs go unfulfilled, resentment grows. This is the case for me. That sexual gymnast I married started to lose interest two years in. She is ten years older than me and started going through menopause a few years after we met. I still love her and we have a good life together. Six years in sex stopped all together. When I told her how I felt she told me to go have sex with other women, just make sure she never knew about it. It was ten more years before I acted on this. So far I have only seen sex workers, had no girlfriends, avoided seeing former girlfriends and kept an emotional distance from the few regulars I have. To be clear I am not happy with this, but it does keep me married. Before I stepped out of the bonds of partnership I felt really resentful. Beyond sex I really miss simple intimacy. In the beginning whenever I came home my wife was excited to see me, would greet me at the front door with a hug and a kiss. Now it is just my dog that is excited when I come home. I guess for me the real question is why am I still there? Maybe that is a question you also need to answer.

 

[Deleted member 79939]

There are so many reasons partners decide to risk their relationships for sex and intimacy outside of a relationship. There is the Chris Rock argument that people are selfish to the extent that they can get away with it. In this situation there is no deception, both partners know what is going on, that is the arrangement they agree to. One of the partners may not like it but agree to it in order to keep their relationship. In other cases both partners are more libertine in their attitudes, sex is fun and a part of life and not a sacrosanct compact between two people. I had a coach once who was a real alpha male. He made no pretensions of fidelity and would often have women stay over where he and is common law wife lived. He kept doing this and she stuck around and had children with him. A friend from my team started showing me naked pictures of his girlfriend. I realized he was inviting me into a threesome (not for me thank you). In cases where deception is involved there is the thrill of getting away with something, the game of making secret arrangements, all the things done to cover tracks and the novelty of being with new partners. And then there is resentment or unfulfilled need. For the first couple of years with a partner love is a drug that allows you to see what you want to see and ignore obvious problems. The drug wears off, but now you have history together and you care about each over. One or both partners stop trying that hard, needs go unfulfilled, resentment grows. This is the case for me. That sexual gymnast I married started to lose interest two years in. She is ten years older than me and started going through menopause a few years after we met. I still love her and we have a good life together. Six years in sex stopped all together. When I told her how I felt she told me to go have sex with other women, just make sure she never knew about it. It was ten more years before I acted on this. So far I have only seen sex workers, had no girlfriends, avoided seeing former girlfriends and kept an emotional distance from the few regulars I have. To be clear I am not happy with this, but it does keep me married. Before I stepped out of the bonds of partnership I felt really resentful. Beyond sex I really miss simple intimacy. In the beginning whenever I came home my wife was excited to see me, would greet me at the front door with a hug and a kiss. Now it is just my dog that is excited when I come home. I guess for me the real question is why am I still there? Maybe that is a question you also need to answer.

dUDE, you are cool, but i don't know what the fucked you are talking about ?

 

[UsefulIdiot]

dUDE, you are cool, but i don't know what the fucked you are talking about ?

When you start your first adult relationship you will find out that things can get pretty complex. And to repeat myself, love is a drug whose affects diminish over time. Reality catches up to you.

 

[Deleted member 79939]

When you start your first adult relationship you will find out that things can get pretty complex. And to repeat myself, love is a drug whose affects diminish over time. Reality catches up to you.

not in the olden days
this new world is bad
the olden days on Mayberry was the best and most respecful.
these ladys love being treated with love
nowadays, there is no love
just hardcore massage

 

[Amelia Young]

I repent that cuckolding can no longer be a secret hobby. Since a large number of people prefer such entertainment. there are dedicated resources. For example, such as by this link, where people can find like-minded people, exchange experiences, photos, stories.