I like the way this thread is crafted, trying to smoke Violet out and get answers to a question with a dubious premise. One guy has an opinion that she is "distant" based on his subjective interpretation of her mood one day out of the year, then like a political tabloid story, she is all of a sudden AWOL, burned out, not responding like usual, etc, etc, etc. Could it be just as plausible that everyone's perception is wack? And that like all the rest of us, the holidays are busy as hell for her too? So let me add some fodder for confusion...I saw her recently and she was sexy as ever, doing well emotionally & just fine otherwise!