sharing of information

[bih1995]

Be careful about with who you are sharing pieces of information. It can bite you back. I was exchanging information with a well-known member of this board about masseuse, place, services...etc. I regret that. If somebody is a longstanding member of this board, it's not mean you can trust that person.
I will not go into details about what happened. It will not be appropriate to do that here.

 

[Ian8]

If a member here did something shady with information you shared then that information should be shared with the community. It’s the only way to keep people honest.
you don’t need to go into detail.

 

[bih1995]

If a member here did something shady with information you shared then that information should be shared with the community. It’s the only way to keep people honest.
you don’t need to go into detail.

I did PM. I revealed some information about somebody and the place. On my next visit, I wasn't any more welcome there. I know it's him who said something for personal gains.

 

[cali99]

Be careful about with who you are sharing pieces of information. It can bite you back. I was exchanging information with a well-known member of this board about masseuse, place, services...etc. I regret that. If somebody is a longstanding member of this board, it's not mean you can trust that person.
I will not go into details about what happened. It will not be appropriate to do that here.

you learned a good lesson..
now going forward, trudge your road to happy destiny!

 

[Albertaman]

Be careful about with who you are sharing pieces of information. It can bite you back. I was exchanging information with a well-known member of this board about masseuse, place, services...etc. I regret that. If somebody is a longstanding member of this board, it's not mean you can trust that person.
I will not go into details about what happened. It will not be appropriate to do that here.

There are two types of breaches in trust. One is the accidental kind. The other is wilful, and the kind that should be publicly posted.

An example of the accidental kind is where we might share the total cost of services with a provider (one that we've known for a very long time). The other member then posts a review 2 months later with their experience, and cost, but also mentions that some clients may be getting same service for $xxx, which turns out to be $80 less than the current total fees. The provider may only have two clients at that old rate, and is pissed off at this information going public. The reviewer made an error but they did not realize the consequences.

The wilful ones are to be avoided. Just because a poster has been around a long time does not mean anything. They may have specific affiliations. Or they maybe playing the white knight (CAF style. Or they want to damage some businesses, and promote another. Best advice is to build the PM rapports over a long period of time. Go slow, and over several years you may have a small handful of trusted contacts. The ones who respect one on one confidentiality. They don't distribute privately shared information. As for people who just pm from out of the blue asking for details, I rarely respond. People need to offer some value in exchange, not just information that they gathered from 2 year old threads.

Yes pm is a very valuable tool, but go slow, and use over time to establish creds.


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[welldunn66]

bin1995, if the person who ratted you out have ruined your gem, and future visits, then maybe it's time to expose them here for for others. Like a PSA. It may ruin their trustworthiness and status as long time member that they need to rebuild all over again with a different profile.

 

[Thickandsweet]

There are two types of breaches in trust. One is the accidental kind. The other is wilful, and the kind that should be publicly posted.

An example of the accidental kind is where we might share the total cost of services with a provider (one that we've known for a very long time). The other member then posts a review 2 months later with their experience, and cost, but also mentions that some clients may be getting same service for $xxx, which turns out to be $80 less than the current total fees. The provider may only have two clients at that old rate, and is pissed off at this information going public. The reviewer made an error but they did not realize the consequences.

The wilful ones are to be avoided. Just because a poster has been around a long time does not mean anything. They may have specific affiliations. Or they maybe playing the white knight (CAF style. Or they want to damage some businesses, and promote another. Best advice is to build the PM rapports over a long period of time. Go slow, and over several years you may have a small handful of trusted contacts. The ones who respect one on one confidentiality. They don't distribute privately shared information. As for people who just pm from out of the blue asking for details, I rarely respond. People need to offer some value in exchange, not just information that they gathered from 2 year old threads.

Yes pm is a very valuable tool, but go slow, and use over time to establish creds.


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Sage advice!

I have to admit, after reading posts for awhile, you may feel quite familiar with a person prior to contacting. The slow progress of info is a very good idea, amd establishing a repoire is good before sharing very key details.

As with any good sharing, developing trust over time is very important.

 

[bih1995]

Sage advice!

I have to admit, after reading posts for awhile, you may feel quite familiar with a person prior to contacting. The slow progress of info is a very good idea, amd establishing a repoire is good before sharing very key details.

As with any good sharing, developing trust over time is very important.

Yes, you are right and thank you for advice.

 

[MassageFan22]

Yes, you are right and thank you for advice.

If I might add, if you know the person you sharing information about always asking them first what they are comfortable with having shared.