That elusive connection...

[kyliexkryptonite]

I hobby only once a month or so, and when I do I look for a woman who is a bit older, perhaps a MILF, with an easy-going relaxed attitude.

Today I had just such an encounter. She wants to remain anonymous, so I'll not post her contact information.

The high points of the time we spent together was her two orgasms, and my single spasm. But what really was great was her attitude. She was mostly focussed on MY pleasure, and so when I expended a bit of extra effort in DATY she was a bit amazed at her sudden and unexpected orgasm. She was a flusher... her skin flushed and turned a pretty pink...

Her second "O" happened when I used the two finger technique, inside her. For those of you who are not familiar with this you can see a demo here:

http://www.redtube.com/15878

It was the first time I've tried this and it worked very well....

Over all we spent a great 2 hour session together and I am a happy guy today.

So, why am I telling you this? Well, it has given me encouragement that there are SP's out there who really do care about what they do, who are not jaded into mechanical faked responses, and who are able to "let go" with a stranger enough to enjoy the mutual pleasure.

I will continue my search for another such encounter and I hope you guys find it as well.

 

[Melanie M]

Well ?????

Not much of a useful review about Miss Jane Doe I guess

 

[Soul~Mantra]

Good call olayda :great:

 

[Pompal 09.]

Too bad she wants to remain anonymous. Would pay high price for the show.

 

[dwoodall]

I know... but I can tell you a bit more about her....

She's a semi-pro... only takes a client once in a while... she has a 9 to 5 job.

She's mid forties and fairly big... definitely not a barbie type.

In setting up the appointment with her, I exchanged several emails with her... discussions regarding what we both like, how we arrange to meet, etc. And those emails obviously helped her feel comfortable meeting me, and vice versa. I knew going in that she was a BBW and although that is not my usual preference, I decided to meet with her anyhow because of her attitude... and it turns out I was right.

For those of you who would still like to meet her, send me a PM with some sort of contact info and I'll pass it on to her. I cannot guarantee she'll respond... she's very skittish and only works as a SP part time.

Will I repeat? I think not... I prefer to not repeat... experience has taught me that its not a good thing for me to become attached to a SP. So, I will continue my search and if I can I'll be happy to share reviews here.

 

[manx_sue]

Heh heh.. smitten??? well, that has been my history, but not this time... my encounter with her was all about the sex and although I came to respect her and enjoy her easy orgasms, I did not become smitten...

I guess what I appreciated most about her was that she approached the encounter with a relaxed attitude... in fact she blushed a few times... so she is definitly NOT jaded by the business. In fact, I suspect that she is quite happy to pick and choose her clients, and then engage in a happy romp between the sheets...

 

[|Gordon| |Freeman|]

Yay! I'm so glad you've come to that conclusion! It's very true, and it does take some hunting. You might want to ask this lady who her friends are as she likely knows other women of similar mindset.

Also, give yourself some credit for how well the date went. Even a woman who is thrilled to be in the business and at ease enough in her body and mind to be able to reach orgasm with someone she's just met, still requires a fun, easy going gentlemen who can make her feel comfortable.

It doesn't matter how wonderful a provider is, if the gentlemen seeing her doesn't let her be herself, or makes her uncomfortable with his attitude or a failure to take pride in his appearance, or a lack of kindness and social grace - he wont' have the same experience you did.

 

[Black orchid]

But I would say, its not 'elusive' in the GTA at all. Just takes a little bit of research and the good prep communication you did. For sure it helps to be flexible about age, body.

(And what LS says also)

 

[Heather H]

Hello pretty lady....

 

[Islamia]

Agreed and well said Lauren.

A big part of the connection is the partner you are with and you can't downplay your role in it Danolo. If you had dictated the terms to her she would not have been able to relax and be herself (though it sounds like she may have declined the date) the connection is important and both parties contribute to that.

 

[stung4ever]

Reading the boards you see gentlemen who have never really had a bad experience, and then you read ones who have claimed to never had a good experience. It's hard not to picture one as charming and excellent company who can seduce the panties off even the most jaded provider, and the other as a problem child that would make any woman (including a wife) a clock watcher LOL

My best friend and I joked about creating a line of "Hooker Sympathy Cards" ladies could send to the wives of miserable clients to express their sympathy for being married to him. Fortunately, there's no successful market for such a product

 

[Gabriella M]

My evil side approves of this :666:

 

[TonyWithLove]

Yes Kyra and Lauren... its true... I AM a wonderful guy!

Care to trade orgasms????

My rates are very reasonable..

 

[mikedemolay]

I've given this whole issue of "connection" a lot of thought over the years, and although its not a foolproof definition, I have found that usually the best connection comes from women who are mature, easy going, and self-confident.

That usually points to a woman of some years, typically over 30, although I don't rule out the 20's...

It also usually indicates a woman who has some time and experience in the business... and yet who has not become jaded and mechanical... I'm not sure yet how to distiguish that characteristic... In fact the woman I met, decribed above, did not have a huge experience, so perhaps experience is not a major factor.

And then there is that, as yet, undefined quality that demonstrates self confidence... I suspect that this quality is in low measure among many SP's.

How do I find it?

Well, I met the woman above on CL. But I don't recommend that source for hobbyists seeking maturity.. there's just too many youngsters selling their perfect bodies and their vapid minds. But I continue to watch CL and read...

I mostly observe what they say and do on forums, here and "other" places. Usually after a few postings a woman is revealed.... I'm currently getting close to my next encounter with a woman who posts a lot and I suspect may provide an exciting time.. hopefully for us both!

And, of course, my choices are also determined by my limited budget... there are several SP's who I suspect would rattle my teeth and my spirit, but who remain outside my budget... Ah well...

 

[LAkers Fan]

I just make 'em giggle til they fall down helpless!:

"If ya can make the birds laugh, ya got it made."

*1966. Dont know if it was in the Jude Law remake.

 

[Quizzard]

When I started in this scene, it was to be able to sleep with women I would never have a chance to in civilian life. I quickly realised that this was pretty shallow and unsatisfying, and since then have looked for that rapport Danolo talks about.

This shift in outlook has actually paid off in spades. I've made some wonderful friends inside the industry, where we'll hang out in our private time for drinks and talk, one girl in particular has recently helped me rediscover a part of me I'd completely locked away. That rapport is extremely important.

 

[cheshirekat260]

There's a lot of SPs that I know that have orgasms with the partners they are with.
I'm one of them, I figure I might as well, we're there anyways. Hehehe.

I do have orgasms with most of my clients.
You can usually tell if I'm laughing hysterically afterwards...
That seems to be my fall-out symptom from an orgasm. Haha.

I don't fake it, some of us love what we do.
That's what makes everything so much better, when both parties are loving the luvin'

 

[venky]

Sounds good, Sara, but you are in T'Bay! Move to Toronto immediatley, please.

 

[Brit K]

I'm In Ottawa right now, heading back to Tbay, only to relocate here to facilitate my travel.

I'll be planning a tour for the fall sometime, first East, then West I think... Toronto is definitely close enough for me to add to my Thunder Bay, Ottawa Roster.

I'll be in Toronto on Sunday, lol 2 hour layover, as I fly Porter Air.

I love Porter!!! *(They give you free food and beer!) LOL!

 

[corinthians]

Its a little soon for me to venture out into the wilderness, seeking that elusive connection, but.. I seem to have made a decision to try again...

I have a date tomorrow with a well reviewed lady, who i hope will rattle my cage a bit.

I'll be sure to post a review here and let you folks know how it went.