To ask or to not

[Jeitari]

I went for a massage and the asian lady was very good but no extras. She did not pull away (well not instantly) when i rubbed her leg when it was near my hands while i was laying face down on the table.

There was no offer of extras from her and underwear was to be left on at all times (rule by MP when i entered room). No front massage of legs or chest.

Should i enquire next time and come right out and ask? or leave well enough alone and if it happens it happens?

 

[dolphin]

you won't know if you don't ask. don't be scared =D worst case, it doesn't happen.

 

[ESS-93]

Yeah, or go to a place you know will offer extras.

 

[~abby~]

If she didn't pull away, my guess is that extras could be available on repeats.

Given that the house rules are to leave your gitch on, I wouldn't ask upfront. The answer probably will be "no". May have to wait for the offer.

 

[postie272000]

Maybe she was afraid you might be LE. Did she ask questions like "Have you been here before", and if you say yes, then "Who did you see?", or "Is this your day off from work?"

Sometimes if they don't know me they will ask where I want to be massaged at the end, and then ask me to take their hand and actually put it on that place. (I wonder if that is an absolute defence against LE?)

I haven't been to any spas, Asian or otherwise, that require my underwear to stay on, so either she was afraid you are LE, or they are an ultra-straight RMT establishment. (I've been to many spas that were strictly no-extras, in which case they just put a towel over my naked butt and kept it in that area when I turned over.)

In any case, I always ask before I try to touch, even when it is obvious that the spa offers extras.

There have been some places I was sure were totally straight that, when I asked, I got hand release and once in a while being able to touch their butt or back only over their clothes. But again, I asked first what was allowed, and they were not shy in saying what was and what was not available.

Another hint as to what is possible is when, near the end of the massage, they do very light touch massage, almost tickling, with some attention to your butt and scrotum underside before asking you to turn over. If that doesn't happen, I assume there isn't much extra available. Nonetheless I still ask, and the odd time get very limited extras.

Anyways, if you're interested in going back, maybe they'll be more comfortable having seen you once before, and may offer extras, or be receptive to your verbal requests.

Also, a slightly oversize tip after the first or second massage, say $20 even though you didn't get any extras, may pave the way to a more interesting session next time.

 

[Pompal 09.]

This reminds me of a post by Squash500. He went to an Asian spa. The very small breast lady kept her clothes on. There was a language barrier so Squash pointed to his cock and made a "north-south" motion with his hand.

 

[Yaqub H]

Always ask..If you got to rub her leg and she didnt pull away or say no then my friend Im sure extras are there..What have you got to loose???
On the flip I always try a leg or but rub and ask if they do anything else...

 

[Meilien]

My suggestion would be..unless this place turns you on and it's more that you want, then there are hundreds , if not thousands, of places that within minutes you know that your gettin it

 

[Babak Kratosbbm]

You can always ask but be prepared for disappointment. The 'underwear on' rule seems to me a pretty clear indication that it's completely legit. Never heard of a pro-underwear place that offered release. But try disrobing to the buff next time and asking her to massage the butt cheeks because of sore muscles there. If no hint of a release after that, then you have your answer for sure.

FD

 

[Haruhi-X]

She never asked if i was here. She moved near my arm and i started rubbing her leg then when she moved to the other side of the table she was right beside my arm again (could be just the area she needs to do the massage but maybe she didnt move away instantly cause she was surprised?)

After the masssage, she took the hot towel and cleaned my back and legs of the oil then said ok you can get dressed now and left. Now I am slim and not bad looking so i am sure its not my appearance. I dont have any huge abnormalities (all fingers, toes, etc). I dont know if i am suppose to be sore the next day or not as the massage was aggressive (my first one)

 

[Hot Revolver]

Imagine you're her: Is some silent guy sneaking his hand up your leg anything you'd welcome? Except as an overture to open a cash conversation?

Silent question; silent answer. NO.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with openly asking for the upgrade you want. If you do it right off the top, you may even leave cost free. If you wait until you're really wondering if she'll ever get to the point, then you'd better be enjoying the straight massage you've bought.

When both parties are on the same songsheet—pick your place properly if you're tongue-tied—the thigh-slide opener may be a OK move, but otherwise, it's kinda creepy. At least ask, "Please tell me if I do something you don't like"

 

[Pompal 09.]

Good Advice Oldjones. Never quite thought of it that way.

I will be a bit more proactive in dialogue next time. And ask upfront.

 

[thejanith]

And if there is a language barrier, use sign language like Squash500 did. Hee, hee, hee.

 

[Ohms Lawyer]

What's the downside of asking, beyond being told, "No"?

 

[KarinaGia]

A very wise man once told me: "you should always give people the opportunity to say no."

 

[blue-eyed brunette]

A broken nose and bloody lip? Hee, hee, hee.

 

[Kayt5]

A wiser man told me: "It is better to ask for forgiveness than permission". Hee, hee, hee.

You do know that women are taught from childbirth that the default answer is always "NO!".

 

[Month]

But if you know how to ask the right questions, you'll almost always get a yes!