Visiting Private addresses.

[Lion Ate Lamb]

As rule, I don't visit private addresses for people that I don't already know. I have made the odd exception, but normally it is a no-no for me. Hotels or B&Bs are fine, but I don't feel safe visiting someone's house if I've never met them before.

Thing is, when I was fairly new to this business I had a couple of bad experiences at private houses, so now I would just rather not do it.

I've never had a bad experience for an incall, nor for an outcall to a hotel... but am I just being paranoid?

 

[Gary C]

Not at all, better safe than sorry.

 

[Frank.[=]

Agree.. never ever private homes/flats/apartments!!

 

[Cramle]

Im intruiged, why not?
Im probably being naive, is it the risk of the wife being home or something?

 

[Pompal 09.]

Are u serious?

 

[jeffrey]

I totally agree with what your saying. When I was escorting and I was just starting out I went to a private address and to be honest it was very scary and I didn't enjoy it at all. It was messy, in a very dangerous area of somewhere I've never been before and it was an all around bad experience but it taught me a good lesson.

When it comes to doing this profession you have to go with what makes you feel safe.

P.S. Its good to be back.... sort of.

 

[ratatouillewoo]

Covenant, it's sometimes difficult to appreciate, as a man, just how vulnerable a person can be walking in alone into an unfamiliar environment. You don't know who or what is going to face you. It's not the first escort who has been attacked, sad to say. Or a customer starts getting aggressive or won't take "no" for an answer. It's one reason why some ladies prefer to work in a parlour environment, at least help is at hand, if needed.

A similar scenario for any lady working on her own actually, whether in an apartment or whatever. I'm pally with a couple of Asian ladies who offer massage services and I was relieved for their safety when they said they always make sure that both are around in the apartment when there is a client present on the premises.

Also, experience helps you develop that "sixth sense" when taking bookings, that something doesn't "feel right" talking to the client on the phone.

Those of us who are respectful and polite don't appreciate just how many nutters there are out there and how scary they can be. As I said at the outset, better safe than sorry. The legal situation regarding "parlours" is one of the things that makes my blood boil, as the law makes it illegal for more than one girl to be on the premises - so the alternative is working alone in an a less safe environment! :-( At least in Manchester, we have a more enlightened police attitude where parlours are tolerated as long as there is no illegal activity, such as trafficking, drug use, under age girls, money laundering, etc.

 

[Gerry C]

Spot on Anorak. Especially the legal bit about the law actually making it less safe for women by the ridiculous emphasis on not working together.

Prehistoric.

Paddy

 

[Pompal 09.]

Well, I will tell you what my two bad experiences were, just so you know.

The first one, I was very new and green and a bit naive I guess and this guy wanted all the action to be in the living room, and he was fairly "hands off" and wanted to watch me perform for him. But I had to stay on a small fur rug, whether I was standing, kneeling, lying down or what ever. Which is all fair enough, I don't mind !!! But towards the end of the session it became obvious to me that he kept glancing to one side... what the heck was so interesting over there? Why did he keep doing that? Well, that was where his desk was, with his PC on... and the screen was off, but when I saw the unit itself, the power light was on. I am sure he had a web cam on me and I was either being broadcast or recorded, so there is probably a video of me "performing" out there somewhere

So following that I became very diligent at checking for cameras (never found one!).

The second one I went to a very nice looking semi in what seemed to be a lovely area, was let in by the client and shown into the living room where there were four or five other guys waiting. I made a hasty retreat despite them trying to convince me to stay and saying that it would be a fantastic "party"... I needed a change of underwear by the time I got back to the car! Not at all funny. They weren't violent with me and none of them actually tried to stop me Reviewom leaving, other than begging and offering me more money... nothing physical, but it really put the wind up me. I mean, what if they had?

So that was that for me.

No more house calls.

But I thought I would ask here as I do turn down a lot of work because I won't visit private homes, so I just wanted to get the views of the good people here... was I just unlucky? Am I being unreasonable?

Reviewom the answers so far it seems like I am best to ere on the side of caution.

This is a dangerous enough business without being reckless!

 

[Indian Dude 713]

Maybe you were unlucky TB, but neither episode was what could or should reasonably expect.

The first simply isn't on - filming without consent is a total no-no. Try that in the RLD in Amsterdam and you'd get your head kicked in and rightly so.

The second could have been potentially horrendous and you did right to get the hell out of there sharpish. Everyone has the right to know what they're getting into and the scenario that faced you was scary to say the least. If they were genuine then they were naive and not thinking of how you would react. Most WGs will not allow a GB unless they know some/all of the participants or unless there is some "security" present.

 

[crabbypatty]

To be fair, I don't know that I was filmed because I didn't conReviewont him at the time... I would if it happened now! I'd take an axe to the PC!!! Well, I don't actually carry an axe with me on calls, but you know what I mean



Yea, absolutely. I've done a few parties, and they can be great fun if that is what you are expecting and you have some idea of what the ratio of girls to boys is! My favourite ever was me plus three other WGs (real girls, not TS), one of whom I had worked with quite regularly before and have continued to work with since, and just the one guy... Luxurious, top class hotel room with champagne flowing and chocolates a-plenty! Fantastic way to spend an evening

I'll happily do a party especially if I know at least one person and feel safe with them or if I can bring my minder, but to just walk into a room full of guys... fuck... what did they expect? Really Party on! (not)

 

[IWonder]

never actually minded private addresses, was hotels i hated about outcalls

 

[Pompal 09.]

Reading through these posts is very interesting and many will never see the issues faced by the ladies. To be Reviewank Trinny, you are of course always right to follow your instincts and make sure your not walking into something nasty, so as far as I am concerned you are right not to visit private homes if you feel unsafe. Also, the otherside to this is for the guys to as many don't see that it's just as dangerous for them also if they have never met the person before. I will be really honest with everyone, I've always arranged outcall bookings and never visited a lady as an incall except for two occassions and this article opened my eyes. It's slightly different as it sounds like the person was a street girl who took the guy back to her flat, but can we really be certain...

http://www.thisishullandeastriding.co.uk/news/Addict-jailed-life-cutting-throat-man-setting-body/article-2365017-detail/article.html

It can be just as dangerous for the mp.net too...

 

[Campong T]

i dont mind doing outcalls Reviewom Bristol as its local to me but when im on tour its rare that i will do an outcall to much hassle and i dont know the area

In bristol i tend to know where im going and the good and bad area ( not tht there are many) but i get the guys to take a photo of a recent bill with the address and date on it ( they can block out there name) so that i know that it a genuine address ) they do this using there mobile so it only takes a few minutes so i dont get the timewaster this way

 

[ranting_woman]

Just joined this forum and thought I would chip in on this post. (In fact I did reply earlier but it did not appear – not sure if I cocked up or there is a time delay. Apologies if it appears twice)

I agree going to a private residence can be dangerous for an escort – just like it can be dangerous for a mp.net going to an in-call unless sensible precautions are taken. When I first started chatting it was with street walkers in Manchester and you needed to have your wits about you if you were not going to be robbed, beaten up or both. I think never quite knowing what was around the corner or down the alley was part of the attraction but I now stick to in-calls for a better all round experience (out-calls are not an option for me unless I’m staying at a hotel).

As for escorts and out-calls – one WG told me how in her early days she once met a guy and went with him to a house and once inside several other guys quickly appeared. She was not as lucky as mentioned in previous posts and she was gang raped, beaten up, robbed and abandoned miles Reviewom anywhere some hours later. She probably did not think of herself as being lucky, but at least she was not killed. I think when you get many men together in a situation like this a pack mentality takes over and they do collectively what they wouldn’t do on their own.

Stories like this sadden me as WGs are no less deserving of respect than anyone else.

 

[shebang]

I totally agree with all the comments regarding safety, no client or escort should put themselves at risk for the sake of a punt or a fee.

A regular of mine told me once she won’t do outcalls to private addresses unless she has seen the client several times on in calls first, and even then only in certain parts of town with some areas she would not visit at all.

As for LLs reminder for clients it’s a good point, we men tend to think we can deal with most situations, but we should always be careful.

 

[Supermom]

As I only do outcalls I do visit private homes. There's always a risk though I have never once felt threatened on an appointment. Now I'm more experienced I think the idea of doing incalls and being at a fixed address Reviewightens me more now! I guess it's just what you get used too, I can imagine on the flip sde someone who only does incalls would think outcalls are scary.

 

[TerribleTaylor]

And this is exactly why I like the AdultWork website. The feedback system is a real bonus. I feel a lot more comfortable seeing a guy for the first time if he has lots of positive feedback, and I know (because clients have told me so) that guys feel safe coming to see me because of all my positive feedback and field reviews.

(could I get any more links into this post? ... nothing like a good bit of self promotion!!!)

I do appreciate that people have fake profiles with fake feedback, but I think with a bit of experience they are actually quite easy to spot.



Yea, that is exactly my position.



That is really sad... quite horrid actually, and probably the second biggest fear any WG must have... the biggest, of course, being the the unthinkable. Poor girl.

 

[arielle_ya]

Yea, I guess that's true.

As time goes by you get quite used to sussing people out on the phone and when these incidents occurred I was very new and green, so perhaps I would be better at avoiding danger on outcalls now that I am more, err, seasoned?

The thing that prompted this thread was that just lately I have had quite a few requests for outcalls to private addresses, specifically Reviewom the AdultWork website, and most of them I have felt would be fine, but I've stuck to my position and turned them down anyway. I am just wondering whether I am being unfair... most especially on guys who seem to have genuine profiles and good feedback.

 

[?V??us?]

Visiting a private address for both WG or mp.net is never a very good idea unless you know the person you are meeting very well and you trust them 100%. You should always arange to meet at a hotel until you are familiar with each other.

Reviewom my own personal experience i can tell you it's just as dodgey in some ways for a mp.net as it is for a wg. I rang one particular wg a few months back and she told me to meet her at her home in Salford (an area i don't know very well). When i got there the house was almost empty with a portable tv on a stool and a matress on the floor. I felt realy on edge Reviewom the get go and i should have trusted my gut and just left but being a bloke i was thinking with my cock and i handed her the envelope containing the pre determind sum.

No sooner had i handed it over she told me to take off my shoes and settle down on the matress, She was just going to "Revieweshen up". About a minute later the Reviewont door flew open and a man claiming to be her husband (pshh) strolled in demanding to know who the hell i was and what was i doing alone with his "wife".

I said i was a Reviewiend and i didn't want any trouble, i'll just leave. I'm the kind of guy who would do pretty much anything to avoid a physical conReviewontation so i just got the hell out of there and jumped on the first bus back to Manchester.

Ofcourse by the time the bus had gotten a few minutes down the road and my nerves had eased i realised to my shame i had been scammed and that those two low lifes probably do that shit over and over.

So yeah guys and gals the moral is unless you're certain, book a hotel room