what would you do?

[~luvs 4ever!~]

Disclaimer: This may or may not have happened.

You're getting to know a woman romantically and she tells you she's thought about becoming an escort. This wasn't a fantasy/passing thought at 18. This was recent.

Do you continue to date her?

 

[Raga]

Ask for your cut. At least 40% goes to you :666: :go:.






Seriously, did or did it not happen to you?

 

[Q & A King XXII]

I'll ask you a question: How fast can you run?

 

[Gwennie B]

Ok, there's a few things that's disturbing about even asking:

1) you do know you're on an escort review site right?
2) so, what you're saying by asking is: it's ok to fuck them but not care for/date them?
3) So, if you would be hesitant to date her, do you think she'd be hesitant to date you if she knew you saw escorts?
and most of all:
4) You're basically determining on whether or not to date someone because of what they THOUGHT about doing? Not that they actually did it or anything but just the THOUGHT?

And to answer your inane question:
Would I date her? Sure as hell would because I base my decisions on what type of a person she is, not what she's thought about doing, but on what she does. Deeds speak.

Would I date her if she used to be an escort? Sure as hell would. In fact, I've had this discussion with escorts who talked about retiring and possibly her past slipping out. I said "the beauty about dating an ex client is that you never have to worry about them finding out about your past".

WOuld I date her if she currently worked as an escort? Sure as hell would although I would put the caveat on that I wouldn't get too attached or emotionally involved until she quit the biz.

And finally: if you have a problem with a woman working in the business then you should also have a problem seeing escorts because to think otherwise would make one the biggest hypocrite on the planet. There is NO difference between being an escort and seeing them.

 

[Summer]

She thought about become an escort in the past? As in BEFORE you two were romantically involved?

Is she STILL thinking about it?

If not, then thank her for being honest with you and carry on with your relationship, it is of no consequence what she did BEFORE you met. (Same story as past relationships, how many lovers etc.) What business is it of yours what she did in her past???? (Let alone just THINKING about it!)

Oh... and what tboy said!

 

[Hannah Iced Over]

If you can live with it, why not?.

 

[BeYoNd It ALL...{{2.2.0}}]

Hey,

1) you do know you're on an escort review site right?

Yes.

2) so, what you're saying by asking is: it's ok to fuck them but not care for/date them?

I'm not saying that at all. In fact, I've found myself in at least two situations with escorts where we were seeing each other "off the meter".

3) So, if you would be hesitant to date her, do you think she'd be hesitant to date you if she knew you saw escorts?

I wasn't hesitant nor did I hesitate. It just caught me off guard. Who brings that kind of thing up on a date?


and most of all:
4) You're basically determining on whether or not to date someone because of what they THOUGHT about doing? Not that they actually did it or anything but just the THOUGHT?

I didn't determine anything based one what she "THOUGHT" about doing. I asked a simple question. I thought it would be interesting to discuss.

You automatically assume that by asking a question about the situation that I may have dumped her, thought of her negatively or automatically disrespected the women on this board and industry. In reality, I have nothing but respect for the women in this industry and treat them as such.

My date's topic of conversation did catch me off guard because who talks about that sort of thing on a date? Did I judge her? No. Why? Because I see escorts and know that everyone has their story. I've dated a "working" girl before (x2) and would probably do it again. BUT, this is not to say I have doubts about dating one again simply because it does get complicated.

I was just wondering what other people have to say.

 

[Ronan]

You have to be honest with yourself and with her, continue the relationship if you're both okay with being together.
If you decide it's too much and move on, try to support her decision anyway.

Good luck.

 

[huang]

More importantly it's 'just a thought'. I think about doing lots of things... This is a 'cross that bridge when you come to it' moment. Just be honest with yourself and her if she decides to do it.

HERE'S MY BIG SUGGESTION: If she's having that fantasy, get her to play out that fantasy with you. It would be hot.

 

[Pompal 09.]

So, that's all well and good, but why not include that in the original post? Why give only half the story?

The way you wrote your post indicated to me that you had negative thoughts on the issue just by what you included and excluded. Plus now you say it wasn't hypothetical, it was actual. Why not say THAT?

The way questions are asked are a precursor to what your answers will be.....

For eg: You could have posed your question:

I was on a date with a young woman (or whatever) and she brought up the subject that she had considered being an escort. Now I have no problem with that since I have dated escorted before but I was wondering what you all thought on the subject. Would you have a problem with it?

That way, you give us all the information about the situation, your thoughts on the matter, and then pose the question.....

(sorry, don't mean to turn this into English comp 101)

 

[valet dabess]

Personal opinion...

I could not date anyone in the business as I am a one woman man and expect the same from my partner, (unless of course she is in to the occasional threesome). I expect the same from my partner. As for dating an ex-escort, sure, why the heck not.

 

[Crimson]

LMAO, as soon as you said may or may have happened!
Dissey, I'm gonna have wild and crazy hanging from the chandlier animal sex with your girlfriend! Then, I'm gonna write a review! :na::great:

 

[barbell100]

Just make sure you check that weight restriction limitation first eh!

:na: :go:

 

[SuperBeth]

If she won't put out unless you take her out for dinner or buy her something then she is already living the "dream".