Why guys visit wl's?

[jimbeam958]

Hi guys and gals!

had an interesting tho somewaht disruptive9!) visitor in the chatroom wondering why clients visit wl's.

Anyway coz he/she was a bit negative, KA< Royce and the other sensible people who were on the site chose to prettty much ignore s/him and they went away relatively quickly.

Anyway, at the time I made a point that a number of the clients who visit me (esp on a reg basis) do so coz they are widowers or have wives in nursing homes (some of them are quite elderly), have wives on medication which seriously lowers their sex drives (their wives that is!) or don't need the hassle/expense of dating.

So I was interested in how many people are in this situation and what u all thought??

Not trying to be contentious but am interested in promoting issues-based topics of discussion.

Luv.

C xxx

 

[blondforeva]

Hi Carly,

The reason why I choose to visit a WL, is based on the fact that I don't go out on alot of dates. I think this is the result of constantly working night shifts, especially over the weekend. I've done the dating thing, and it never works out for me in the end. I've been on RSVP for a long time, and I got to know this particular woman through phone conversations and on MSN Messenger. I won a really nice dinner package through work, and being the guy I am, thought that this would be a great opportunity for a first date. We had a romantic dinner on the river, and alas we just didn't click, but it was hard to do since she bought along a digi camera, and acted like a tourist! :? It also took her a few weeks to tell me that we "just didn't click" and there was no chemistry blah blah blah, and that she started going out with her best Reviewiend.

Dating can be expensive, and a hassle, and it's something I just don't need in my life at the moment. For me, visiting a WL, you just pay for the good stuff , and not the hassle!

Some guys go to visit WLs for companionship, and for a really hot fuck (my case with Louisa); and some even go to learn some new tricks, so that they can try it on their partners at home!


Cheers

MrBig

 

[VICKI C]

instead why, perhaops it should be why not.

Also sngle,
Not into having sex with people who are intoxicated.
Not into lieing to soemone for sex.
Not into misleading someone to have sex.

Not looking for a relationship, opem to the idea but rarely meet anyone I would consider persuing in that manner.

Condiser myself a sexually curious person, open to new experiences and preferably with someone who is also into what ever we do.

Don't have to worry about the other person's heatlh.

Also date non Wls but on a casual basis only.
Never did visit when married (many years ago) and couldn't see myself doing if ever in a relationship.
Which all sounds good, sensible well thought out.

Now for female's view - Buddy is pure evil in a nice way...
lmao

 

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[bryanhughjr]

Interesting...

Having had a wife, who I loved to the end of the earth, and who is no longer with me or on this earth, I play this game, on occasions, for the pleasure of it, but just cannnot understand anyone who is married to someone they love even thinking about it.

That's not meant to be as rude as it sounds, 'cause I know a lot of the guys on this site are married and have their shit together and are cool.

As Royce often says - merely calling it as I see it. To me, and based on what I had, anyone who is married and is in love and is looking here or any where for something else, is just being greedy or kidding themselves.

OK, bit heavy , I suppose, but I see escorts (don't use that "WL" thing because I detest acronyms), because I am not in love and, being a boy, occasionally need to pretend that I am, and have fake GFE which leads to me (usually) getting my rocks off.

Perhaps I'm a dreamer, but anyone out there who is married and in love and paying (or not ) to do rooting elsewhere... I just don't understand it.

And, the corollary, of course, is that if you are married and not in love -what the hell are you doing still there????? You only have one life.

Thus endeth the sermon. (But it is what I believe)

 

[Rebekah05]

Well put Buddy

I must admit Buddy put it well. That is part of the reason that I visit WGs. Also I find it hard to talk to girls. I am a person who is a tad bit of an intravert in the real world. Alot of the pressure is taken off. And I can be my self around a WG than I can a regular girl. I don't know if that says alot about me. But there you go.
Yours Colin The Hun :twisted:

 

[Heaven Cant Wait]

Great thread starter Carly !

Well, my fellow brethrens have already covered a heck of a lot of ground and brought forward some very true and interesting issues/dynamics for the average man living in this millennia !

For those who don't know me or know of me, I've been an active "mp.net" for the last 15 plus years. As it has already been mentioned, we all seek the company/services of a W/L for various reasons and I must admit when I first started seeing them, it was to more to get skilled up in the sexual pleasure department more than anything else. But in my case, with age came wisdom as I quickly realised ( lucky me ) the sex wasn't enough to fill an empty void within me.

Since those early days mpter my separation with my girlReviewiend, I've been on the road so to speak and will welcome any chance at establishing a permanent meaningful relationship with a woman. I possess a warm and open nature and tend to be a social person, I mix well and can communicate with almost anyone at any level. I can virtualy walk off the street and into a job interview and GET the Job with the way I come across and present myself. This is all worth nothing to me at the end of the day when it comes to relationships when the opposite sex aren't open or receptive to you as a person that you are ! In the real world, women that I meet don't trust me because they have already been "so damaged" by previous partners, liars, ex's and cheats that they think I put on this act of being the nice guy when I just am who I am !

So, until the day that a woman accepts me for who I am and into a relationship, I will continue to find emotional comfort, sexual pleasure, shared intimacy and companionship in the arms of a lovely working lady.
When and if that day ever occurs, you will all be made aware of it by my noticable absence Reviewom this forum.

I owe working ladies a great deal of thanks for providing me with my required dose of emotional support, without them I would have ended up being yet another statistic in someone's new's story. I take my hat off to all those wonderful gals out there, you know who you are !

Well, that's me yet again calling it how I see it !

 

[Henna]

Well Gandalf... I am sooo glad you feel compelled to impart your moral values on us. Have you ever heard the expression "you don't know what you don't know"? You may think "calling it as you see it" gives you the right to insult others... you'll understand if I do not.

I have a partner who I love dearly. She was my lover... but still IS my best Reviewiend. Unfortunately, medical problems have destroyed what used to be a fantastic sex life. Yet since this trouble has developed, our relationship has grown stronger in ALL other areas... and it was already strong beforehand.

So in your perfect world Gandalf, my only two options are to either spend the rest of my life celebate... or end a relationship with a woman I love and who loves me. I'm sure she would be wrapped to find out the reason I thought we could no longer live together was because some people think me using a surrogate sex partner is morally wrong.

Perhaps Gandalf, you could've stuck to the topic and just tell us why YOU visit ladies rather than including why you think some of US shouldn't.

 

[abdelhadi2000]

Einstein

Hi Carly,

Here is my reason and I'm sure no one would need to be Einstein to figure out why I and I'm sure most married guys visit working ladies.

Because they arent getting enough at home.

It is really as simple as that. Now the reasons myself and other married guys arent getting enough at home may be immensely varied, and I'm not going to go into the details here. I have gone into the details several times with and without my wife at marriage counsellers though.

And for the record, if I relied on my marriage for my sex life I would only have sex once a month, if I was lucky. And if I didnt initiate things, it would be a lot less often than that. Having sex within a marriage can sadl, end up be just a huge hassle. Just the opposite of having sex with a nice professional lady.

I have often ranked my sexual outlet in terms of Reviewequency.

A bottle of baby oil and Mrs Palmer comes up first any month or year of the last couple of decades.

Professional ladies come up second, and sadly, for many of the last 10 years, my wife has come a distant third.

And as for Gandolfs comments, I can see that Reviewom the perspective of your marriage, that sounded very fulfilling, you cant understand others who are in marriages that arent fulfilling.

I agree with Sticks that it isnt for you or anyone else to judge anothers marriage or what they should do with it. I have my reasons for having stayed in my marriage in the past and for staying in my marriage still. And I am happy with those reasons.

I am very unlikely to stay married ad infinitim though, as a time will come when if the marriage is still unfilling in a very significant way, then I will leave it. But Gandolf, there are other factors, and things often just arent as simple and straightforward and black and white and easy and rosy and consistent as your marriage may have been.

You are very fortunate to have had, what sounds like, a very good marriage.

 

[Jesica]

Hi Carly

My situation is exactly like sticks and I agree with him in every way.
Due to my wife receiving medication to combat cancer she no longer can have sex.
mpter putting up with this for around 13 years I found WL's and have been seeing them for the past 3 years.
I just happen to think that there is more to marriage than sex and I still love my wife very much and personally wouldn't have any other partner.
I would like to thank all the WL's for their services, you are a great bunch of ladies.

 

[Random Hangman]

Why guys visit w/ls, well i'm 23, goodlooking, have a damn hot blonde girlReviewiend, previously engaged to another hottie, i spend thousands yearly on this industry, now somebody tell me why i visit w/ls and then we'll both know! i guess it's the4 variety factor.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Hi Carly

As the others have expressed the only reason for me is lack of Reviewequency. My wife and I work shifts and hardly see each other and when we do both are so tired we just go to sleep. I therefore am horny during the day and when she is not home. The lovely WLS of Brisbane take care of that need for me. I love my wife very much and have no desire to leave her and when our desires and times together do coincide then it is fantastic.
It is an old story that I hope will change with time. Do not forget also the forbidden Reviewuit factor

 

[bubbleyumm]

A comment too far....

Yeah, with hindsight and a little more thought, some of that was sermonising and not in the spirit or purpose of the forum.

Will not recur, and genuine apologies to those annoyed.

 

[veraks]

Gandalf. i hear you and respect to you...

Brooke...x

 

[Danny Boy]

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