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1) Sexworkers are a legitimate option for older single men or those married.
Older men are just not attracted to most women their age and normally become frustrated with "usual" older women. Further more, older women are more inclined to be overweight and to lose their physical attraction. Older men have more in common with sexworkers than their "regular" women and enjoy younger slim women.
For others, they are married but that doesn't always bring sexual satisfaction. Many men enjoy variety and millions of married men are sexually frustrated since the wife lost interest or became sexually inactive long ago.
Many men enjoy intimate sexuality with more than one woman. They enjoy different personalities, bodies, interacting sensually with different women which also help them learn good sexual and intimacy skills. Going to sexworkers is far better than an affair and can actually help otherwise love marriages together.
2) Biblically, prostitution is not an issue.
There is clearly nothing wrong for Christians or Jews seeing "common" prostitutes. The only negative reference in the Bible is to the sex goddess prostitutes in the Temples worshiping the fertility gods. It was idolatry not sex that was the sin. Many times "common" prostitutes are mentioned in the bible with no negative inference. Prostitution has always been legal for example in Israel and Tel Aviv is known as the brothel capital of the world. Yet so many ignorant Christians totally distort biblical sexuality based on negative traditions that have no biblical basis. Likewise having many wives and concubines was not wrong. Married man never committed adultery as long as the "other women" was single - not the property of another man. Adultery was a property sin not a sex sin. For extensive biblical study see Prostitution Is Not A Biblical Conflict at http://www.sexwork.com/coalition/christian.html
For many Muslims you marry by reciting certain words. Marriage can be for any length from 1 minute to 99 years. I have heard of sexworkers with a Muslim client who recites the marriage vows with the time limit, so he feels no guilt since he is married to the sexworker for the time they are having sex. For many Muslims this makes the "arrangement" perfectly legal and is permissible since you are married! It is called "mut’ah" or temporary marriages. Prophet Muhammad, as reported in Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim , recommended “mut’ah ” to his soldiers and friends during the Conquest of Mecca. And no verse is found in the Quran to abrogate “mut’ah ”.
3) Prostitutes can make the world safer for women and healthy for normal men.
Rather than encourage rape, or sexual harassment from sexually frustrated men, prostitutes are there for people who have a strong sex drive and cannot find anyone to have sex with or who enjoy sexual variety. For the socially inept man, they cope with all those with confused and repressed sexuality, removing the risk of attack they cause to other women. But most clients are just ordinary normal men, your neighbors, and the man in the Church pew next to you, your children's teacher, your lawyer, or politician. Some of us well adjusted normal men enjoy physical intimacy with a variety of women and it is physically and emotionally healthy for otherwise healthy men.
4) Prostitutes become experts who can offer high quality sex.
If there was not such a negative stigma, most everyone would want to visit prostitutes for erotic inspiration and self indulgence. They provide the chance for new experiences without entering a new relationship which many people find of enormous value at certain stages of their lives.
Prostitutes fulfill all kinds of role: from a quick hand-job behind a carrier bag in the park, to dinner and all night bed companionship to "girlfriend" for a month's holiday.
Some do this with grace and love, others with one eye on the clock and the other eye on his wallet, hoping to steal it. There are sex workers who can actually adapt their mind sets to "fall in love" with each client, in order to give them maximum benefit of the time spent. There are others who despise all clients and play tricks to make them come fast. But there are many who sincerely love and enjoy men and for them it is an ideal profession. These are usually the most successful sexworkers since men can tell their sincere enjoyment of what they do.
5) Prostitution is the oldest profession and should be respected.
Like any other profession - there are the experts, the specialists, the all-rounders, the scoundrels and the bad people who need hounding out. Bad people such as the cash and dash scams ruin the reputation of the industry as to those few that are on drugs, drink too much or just think of men as ATM machines.
6) Prostitutes offer many services often far more than just sex.
Prostitutes call themselves all kinds of names, from whore to therapist; slut to Tantric teacher; hostess to surrogate. Each has their own style but when you listen to what they actually do, most provide approximately the same range of services. They act as listeners (to everyone in pain, including sufferers of child sexual abuse), pacifiers (often of the same), substitute mothers, sisters and brothers, they enact fantasies, dominate to force those who are normally in control in their work and social lives to play submissive; whores may also play sub.
7) It can be a satisfying job.
The fact is that a growing number of women are switching to work in sex rather than in other jobs because they find it gives them more freedom and job satisfaction. You chose your hours, you make more money per hour than most of your friends and you spend your time giving pleasure (and often receiving it too).
Some women who may once have opted for a career in nursing find it more satisfying offering a caring "hands on" service for others’ personal needs. So many people in society have never been touched caringly nor had their emotional needs catered for. Sex work allows caring individuals to offer such services and they often just advertise as a prostitute because this is the easiest way to make a living.
8) Many men need positive social and sexual guidance.
Sociologists recognize that many men pay for sexual gratification and emotional solace because they have not yet learned to find either elsewhere. Many shy, socially phobic and disabled men rely on prostitutes to teach them how to gain a positive body image, seduce and make love. The book Shadow Syndromes by John J Ratey and Catherine Johnson identifies a high incidence of minor forms of Asperger Syndrome in males in Western cultures, which means that they can't respond to normal invitations of emotional bonding and socialization. (Refer to http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/aswhatisit.html for more info on Asperger Syndrome or Asperger’s Disorder).
9) Prostitution enables many women to liberate themselves.
It is not uncommon for women to enter the sex industry in order to establish their own sexual identity. Belle du Jour was a classic example. (In the 1967 classic, Séverine Serizy aka Belle de Jour, played by Catherine Deneuve, is a beautiful young woman married to a doctor. She loves her husband dearly, but cannot bring herself to be physically intimate with him. She indulges instead in vivid, kinky, erotic fantasies to entertain her sexual desires. Eventually she becomes a prostitute, working in a brothel in the afternoons while remaining chaste in her marriage .)
There are many situations where women decide to enter sex work because it seems to be the only way they can throw their sexual repressive background to the wall. They usually have to keep quiet about it and never identify themselves publicly.
10) Prostitution provides a better alternative to starving or stealing.
When a woman is desperate to feed herself and her children and has no other income, prostitution is often the best option for her. One woman is quoted as saying that working as a street worker to provide the money to buy heroin for herself and her partner is better than him going out thieving because he might get a long prison sentence. (For further reference, read Sex Work on the Street, Prostitutes and Their Clients , Neil Mckeganey and Marina Barnard, 1996, Open University Press, Buckingham)
11) Prostitutes educate too.
Prostitutes provide a service where people can learn. A young person can learn about their orientation and how to become a good lover. A couple can experiment with group sex. Isolated people can learn how to become intimate, people can learn to explore their submissive or dominant sides.
12) Prostitutes provide fun.
They offer a service of pleasure. In countries where women are allowed to work together, there are clubs where people go along for an orgy: sex parties with several prostitutes and a group of clients. People enjoy visiting prostitutes for light hearted yet intensely erotic experiences, which may be very difficult to find elsewhere.
13) Prostitution is good for mental health. Comforting sex without ties is excellent for mental health, soothing the nervous system, and helping the client improve their sense of well being.
14) Prostitution can cure problems.
People with social disabilities such as stammerers can be helped to overcome their problems by loving attention and uncovering anxieties. People who have been sexually abused as children often need a lot of patient body work to overcome sexual difficulties and prostitutes are invaluable in this work.
15) Sex Work can be empowering.
People gain personal strength from selling their bodies because their clients worship and admire them, they have as much sex as they want and they defy traditional mores and roles imposed on them. Often prostitutes are extremely healthy, playful, creative, adventurous and independent women.
Older men are just not attracted to most women their age and normally become frustrated with "usual" older women. Further more, older women are more inclined to be overweight and to lose their physical attraction. Older men have more in common with sexworkers than their "regular" women and enjoy younger slim women.
For others, they are married but that doesn't always bring sexual satisfaction. Many men enjoy variety and millions of married men are sexually frustrated since the wife lost interest or became sexually inactive long ago.
Many men enjoy intimate sexuality with more than one woman. They enjoy different personalities, bodies, interacting sensually with different women which also help them learn good sexual and intimacy skills. Going to sexworkers is far better than an affair and can actually help otherwise love marriages together.
2) Biblically, prostitution is not an issue.
There is clearly nothing wrong for Christians or Jews seeing "common" prostitutes. The only negative reference in the Bible is to the sex goddess prostitutes in the Temples worshiping the fertility gods. It was idolatry not sex that was the sin. Many times "common" prostitutes are mentioned in the bible with no negative inference. Prostitution has always been legal for example in Israel and Tel Aviv is known as the brothel capital of the world. Yet so many ignorant Christians totally distort biblical sexuality based on negative traditions that have no biblical basis. Likewise having many wives and concubines was not wrong. Married man never committed adultery as long as the "other women" was single - not the property of another man. Adultery was a property sin not a sex sin. For extensive biblical study see Prostitution Is Not A Biblical Conflict at http://www.sexwork.com/coalition/christian.html
For many Muslims you marry by reciting certain words. Marriage can be for any length from 1 minute to 99 years. I have heard of sexworkers with a Muslim client who recites the marriage vows with the time limit, so he feels no guilt since he is married to the sexworker for the time they are having sex. For many Muslims this makes the "arrangement" perfectly legal and is permissible since you are married! It is called "mut’ah" or temporary marriages. Prophet Muhammad, as reported in Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim , recommended “mut’ah ” to his soldiers and friends during the Conquest of Mecca. And no verse is found in the Quran to abrogate “mut’ah ”.
3) Prostitutes can make the world safer for women and healthy for normal men.
Rather than encourage rape, or sexual harassment from sexually frustrated men, prostitutes are there for people who have a strong sex drive and cannot find anyone to have sex with or who enjoy sexual variety. For the socially inept man, they cope with all those with confused and repressed sexuality, removing the risk of attack they cause to other women. But most clients are just ordinary normal men, your neighbors, and the man in the Church pew next to you, your children's teacher, your lawyer, or politician. Some of us well adjusted normal men enjoy physical intimacy with a variety of women and it is physically and emotionally healthy for otherwise healthy men.
4) Prostitutes become experts who can offer high quality sex.
If there was not such a negative stigma, most everyone would want to visit prostitutes for erotic inspiration and self indulgence. They provide the chance for new experiences without entering a new relationship which many people find of enormous value at certain stages of their lives.
Prostitutes fulfill all kinds of role: from a quick hand-job behind a carrier bag in the park, to dinner and all night bed companionship to "girlfriend" for a month's holiday.
Some do this with grace and love, others with one eye on the clock and the other eye on his wallet, hoping to steal it. There are sex workers who can actually adapt their mind sets to "fall in love" with each client, in order to give them maximum benefit of the time spent. There are others who despise all clients and play tricks to make them come fast. But there are many who sincerely love and enjoy men and for them it is an ideal profession. These are usually the most successful sexworkers since men can tell their sincere enjoyment of what they do.
5) Prostitution is the oldest profession and should be respected.
Like any other profession - there are the experts, the specialists, the all-rounders, the scoundrels and the bad people who need hounding out. Bad people such as the cash and dash scams ruin the reputation of the industry as to those few that are on drugs, drink too much or just think of men as ATM machines.
6) Prostitutes offer many services often far more than just sex.
Prostitutes call themselves all kinds of names, from whore to therapist; slut to Tantric teacher; hostess to surrogate. Each has their own style but when you listen to what they actually do, most provide approximately the same range of services. They act as listeners (to everyone in pain, including sufferers of child sexual abuse), pacifiers (often of the same), substitute mothers, sisters and brothers, they enact fantasies, dominate to force those who are normally in control in their work and social lives to play submissive; whores may also play sub.
7) It can be a satisfying job.
The fact is that a growing number of women are switching to work in sex rather than in other jobs because they find it gives them more freedom and job satisfaction. You chose your hours, you make more money per hour than most of your friends and you spend your time giving pleasure (and often receiving it too).
Some women who may once have opted for a career in nursing find it more satisfying offering a caring "hands on" service for others’ personal needs. So many people in society have never been touched caringly nor had their emotional needs catered for. Sex work allows caring individuals to offer such services and they often just advertise as a prostitute because this is the easiest way to make a living.
8) Many men need positive social and sexual guidance.
Sociologists recognize that many men pay for sexual gratification and emotional solace because they have not yet learned to find either elsewhere. Many shy, socially phobic and disabled men rely on prostitutes to teach them how to gain a positive body image, seduce and make love. The book Shadow Syndromes by John J Ratey and Catherine Johnson identifies a high incidence of minor forms of Asperger Syndrome in males in Western cultures, which means that they can't respond to normal invitations of emotional bonding and socialization. (Refer to http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/aswhatisit.html for more info on Asperger Syndrome or Asperger’s Disorder).
9) Prostitution enables many women to liberate themselves.
It is not uncommon for women to enter the sex industry in order to establish their own sexual identity. Belle du Jour was a classic example. (In the 1967 classic, Séverine Serizy aka Belle de Jour, played by Catherine Deneuve, is a beautiful young woman married to a doctor. She loves her husband dearly, but cannot bring herself to be physically intimate with him. She indulges instead in vivid, kinky, erotic fantasies to entertain her sexual desires. Eventually she becomes a prostitute, working in a brothel in the afternoons while remaining chaste in her marriage .)
There are many situations where women decide to enter sex work because it seems to be the only way they can throw their sexual repressive background to the wall. They usually have to keep quiet about it and never identify themselves publicly.
10) Prostitution provides a better alternative to starving or stealing.
When a woman is desperate to feed herself and her children and has no other income, prostitution is often the best option for her. One woman is quoted as saying that working as a street worker to provide the money to buy heroin for herself and her partner is better than him going out thieving because he might get a long prison sentence. (For further reference, read Sex Work on the Street, Prostitutes and Their Clients , Neil Mckeganey and Marina Barnard, 1996, Open University Press, Buckingham)
11) Prostitutes educate too.
Prostitutes provide a service where people can learn. A young person can learn about their orientation and how to become a good lover. A couple can experiment with group sex. Isolated people can learn how to become intimate, people can learn to explore their submissive or dominant sides.
12) Prostitutes provide fun.
They offer a service of pleasure. In countries where women are allowed to work together, there are clubs where people go along for an orgy: sex parties with several prostitutes and a group of clients. People enjoy visiting prostitutes for light hearted yet intensely erotic experiences, which may be very difficult to find elsewhere.
13) Prostitution is good for mental health. Comforting sex without ties is excellent for mental health, soothing the nervous system, and helping the client improve their sense of well being.
14) Prostitution can cure problems.
People with social disabilities such as stammerers can be helped to overcome their problems by loving attention and uncovering anxieties. People who have been sexually abused as children often need a lot of patient body work to overcome sexual difficulties and prostitutes are invaluable in this work.
15) Sex Work can be empowering.
People gain personal strength from selling their bodies because their clients worship and admire them, they have as much sex as they want and they defy traditional mores and roles imposed on them. Often prostitutes are extremely healthy, playful, creative, adventurous and independent women.