Women Seeking Male Massage

[Sun&SandMan]

I thought I would start a thread for Women seeking therapeutic or other + massage services from a male provider.
I don't think a thread has been started for ladies to enjoy some occasional therapy + touch connections on this site.

If you are curious this could be a place to get free safe massages after DM's with a potential casual provider, just be clear on what your initial boundaries are and what your interested in.

 

[massagereviewer]

I thought I would start a thread for Women seeking therapeutic or other + massage services from a male provider.
I don't think a thread has been started for ladies to enjoy some occasional therapy + touch connections on this site.

If you are curious this could be a place to get free safe massages after DM's with a potential casual provider, just be clear on what your initial boundaries are and what your interested in.

Great suggestion theoretically,
however women will agree to various massage services initially until they feel unhappy with the outcome and then label their frustration as
"inappropriate touching" by
the masseuse!! Women are
quite different this way, so be wise and protect yourself if this
venture intrigues you.

 

[Sun&SandMan]

Great suggestion theoretically,
however women will agree to various massage services initially until they feel unhappy with the outcome and then label their frustration as
"inappropriate touching" by
the masseuse!! Women are
quite different this way, so be wise and protect yourself if this
venture intrigues you.

That's why I Indicated:
" just be clear on what your initial boundaries are and what your interested in."
To ensure both people are on the same page.
I am sure occasional frustration and need for a safe extra meeting is not just for 50% of the population. LOL

 

[Rubmegood]

Somehow I get the feeling it would be a totally different 'ball game' (no pun intended...) for a man to work in a semi-legit place and offer 'extras' the same way the ladies do. If a guy gets an offer, "You want massage- 'here'?" and doesn't want it he'll probably just shake his head and forget about it. But if the reverse happened I suspect a woman would go all "Karen" about it and maybe even call the police.

But I don't know why it couldn't work. We all know that the universal signal for extras from a SP is to lay nude on top of the drape. If women adopted this signal things could go quite smoothly.

 

[Sun&SandMan]

Somehow I get the feeling it would be a totally different 'ball game' (no pun intended...) for a man to work in a semi-legit place and offer 'extras' the same way the ladies do. If a guy gets an offer, "You want massage- 'here'?" and doesn't want it he'll probably just shake his head and forget about it. But if the reverse happened I suspect a woman would go all "Karen" about it and maybe even call the police.

But I don't know why it couldn't work. We all know that the universal signal for extras from a SP is to lay nude on top of the drape. If women adopted this signal things could go quite smoothly.

I am sure finding a spa with an un-booked room could easily be rented for a couple hours for a private massage.

 

[bigbill]

A woman hoping for a man at any sort of legit place to cross boundaries and give her a sensual massage is going to be disappointed. There are some guys on Locanto offering "massages" for women, but they're just horndogs hoping to engage in some form of sensual massage for free.

My GF is an extremely sexual person and her and I have a very "liberal" relationship with regards to sex. She has lots of encounters with other men and I have my happy-ending massages and it makes life very interesting. She loves a sensual massage, but would never try to turn a legit massage into a sensual one for the same reason we guys should NOT be doing that either: it's sexual harassment of a professional person.

It's like seducing your personal trainer or fitness class instructor- something my GF has done quite a few times. Don't get sexual in the professional setting. She ends her training session with "want to get a coffee" and when the professional interaction is over, then the seduction game can begin.

She has visited a well-known semi-legit (very semi, lol) establishment and had several massages by women there, and one was a complete dud, the other helped her a little while she got herself off, and the third one gave her a very happy time to end her session.

There are areas of Europe where there are male providers that service women, as women there are more likely to pay for sensual services. There's a "spa" in Lisbon we've been to a few times that have a roster of male staffers and they offer couples massages where you can have two women staff, two male staff, or one of each.

 

[Sun&SandMan]

A woman hoping for a man at any sort of legit place to cross boundaries and give her a sensual massage is going to be disappointed. There are some guys on Locanto offering "massages" for women, but they're just horndogs hoping to engage in some form of sensual massage for free.

My GF is an extremely sexual person and her and I have a very "liberal" relationship with regards to sex. She has lots of encounters with other men and I have my happy-ending massages and it makes life very interesting. She loves a sensual massage, but would never try to turn a legit massage into a sensual one for the same reason we guys should NOT be doing that either: it's sexual harassment of a professional person.

It's like seducing your personal trainer or fitness class instructor- something my GF has done quite a few times. Don't get sexual in the professional setting. She ends her training session with "want to get a coffee" and when the professional interaction is over, then the seduction game can begin.

She has visited a well-known semi-legit (very semi, lol) establishment and had several massages by women there, and one was a complete dud, the other helped her a little while she got herself off, and the third one gave her a very happy time to end her session.

There are areas of Europe where there are male providers that service women, as women there are more likely to pay for sensual services. There's a "spa" in Lisbon we've been to a few times that have a roster of male staffers and they offer couples massages where you can have two women staff, two male staff, or one of each.

Bigbill,

I think you may be missing the theme of this thread. I posted it as a place for woman to be able to safely and privately connect for a happy or other + massage from a private male masseuse "within her comfort boundaries". Of course both people need to click with each other and be open with expectations, safety and security. Kind of like a FWB thing.....
2 hours of stepping out of her normal life routine for a bit of excitement and occasional side stress relief with no responsibilities. Guys can simply pick-up the phone and text a number of specialty spas,..... for women its simply not available.
You are correct: "A woman hoping for a man at any sort of legit place to cross boundaries and give her a sensual massage is going to be very disappointed" in North America.

 

[Albertaman]

You guys are missing the underlying facts. Loads of differences (upbringing, religion, social conditioning and biology driven behaviour differences.. trillions of available sperms but few eggs). The search for pleasure is more muted than the search to avoid suffering and pain among most of the population. Even if women ended up with huge income gains, don’t think the primary differences will disappear. Just look at Tinder. Tens of thousands of women, 45+, 50+,60+ still looking for their ‘long term’ partner. Their idea of pleasure is mostly very different. There are always exceptions, but that is the minority.


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[Sun&SandMan]

The primal need for safety and long term security is a huge barrier for a lot of women, but underlying that is frustration of not being sexually satisfied or gently touched and caressed by a man.
The need for long term security always trumps short term pleasure for women. i.e. as Albertaman pointed out tens of thousands of women, 45+, 50+,60+ still looking for their ‘long term’ partner.
That is why web sites like Ashley Madison are so successful, its a venue for them to step out with lower risk impact to a long term secure relationship. (They can have both).
The FWB thing only works until one partner wants more, then it gets very messy.
Interesting .... another member previously pointed out, men don't pay for sex..... we pay them to go away after.

 

[Reluctant]

Interesting .... another member previously pointed out, men don't pay for sex..... we pay them to go away after.

It's a fun quote and I get the implication, but it's such nonsense... I'm pretty sure we're paying for the sex part.

If they wanted to hang out for a while after, I'm sure I wouldn't complain.
Plus, they're not gonna have sex with you if you don't pay. The 'going away after'... yeah that part is gonna happen regardless.

 

[Albertaman]

It's a fun quote and I get the implication, but it's such nonsense... I'm pretty sure we're paying for the sex part.

If they wanted to hang out for a while after, I'm sure I wouldn't complain.
Plus, they're not gonna have sex with you if you don't pay. The 'going away after'... yeah that part is gonna happen regardless.

Agree with you. The best multi hour sessions are the ones with brief naps together between sessions. Mutual massages and all the rest of the good stuff. No hurry to have her leave. Or to leave.


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[Colten69]

The truth of the matter is EVERYONE desires & craves some TLC
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