Swinging has changed radically over the last few years. No longer is it a case of couples randomly swapping with keys in a bowl, but now due to the internet a place where also single people use the resources they have to meet other people for some good, respectful and honest sex.
I started swinging 5 years ago after spending 3 years celibate. I had been trying to find a boyReviewiend as I was under the illusion this was the way forward if I wanted sex, but alas what I got was a lot of hocus pocus and game playing that led to one night stands (which I know it is hard to believe, but I hate) Just as I was about to give up and return to my life of celibacy I accidently outed a female Reviewiend of mine, who told me of this world I had been oblivious to.
I decided to take back the driving seat and I attended a swinging club with another female Reviewiend. I spent 5 hours telling everyone I lived like a nun (which was pretty much true) until eventually I hit the jacuzzi with a guy who introduced himself as a voyour. I had convinced myself that it meant I was safe as he just wanted to watch other people. Needless to say one thing led to another and we ended up having a night of passion in a private room, that finished with a hug and kisses. We remained good Reviewiends for a good 3 years after this and kept in contact via the net.
I have met a fair few people in this way and have discovered so much about myself in the process sexually and mentally. I wouldn't say I was an exhibitionist, although I do know I have a high sex drive. I would also say that naturally I am monogomous and if I were ever to fall in love would not want to share my man. I see swinging as my now, not my future. I'd also like to think it is the reason why I'm so good at what I do, after all... practice does make perfect!
As for marrying while working? No I don't want that. I have a career in another field. It doesn't pay enough by myself (mortgage etc) but put together with another wage I could more than likely live quite happily, if not modestly without feeling the need. He would just have to be fairly open minded and sexually active with me