Chat At crossroads with hobbying...what should I do?

[Dotanuki]

I understand

During such times, having a "port in the storm" is beneficial

 

[sy barite]

Not sure what point this convo is at as i didn't read all seven pages, but I'm in the same situation as the OP with regard to how I feel about the hobby. I've never really taken a hiatus. I've been doing this since my early 20 regularly and i'm in my mid 50s. I recognize it's increasngly challenging to have an experience that excites me. That's due to a combination of things. At my age the hormones aren't raging as they once did and I know so much about the scene that there are few surprises left. Without planning it, I've just naturally started to have fewer but better quality experiences. I'll pick a girl out (from whatever source) and if there's a challenge to it, I find that ol spark of excitement. The closest thing to the old feeling is when I have success with a girl who is not "on the market" so to speak. I've picked up supermarket cashiers, women shopping at Winners and bored housewives walking their dogs. It's rarer for sure, but at my age it still gives me all I can handle. Looking forward to being a dirty old man.

 

[ppc]

Well, let's just say I'm currently in a situation that I've never quite been in before...crazy times

Good or bad?

 

[krayjee]

Variety is the spice of life. If you are sticking to your old favs only all the time, you will get bored easily for sure. I am now rotating between semi legit and holistic and occasionally with Korean SPs at BBH. Holistic is my least fav thing. Hunting for new gems at semi legit is the game I enjoy the most bcuz I love good massage and have fun trying out my fading charm. To my surprise, it's still working well.

 

[Dotanuki]

I knew a "learn mandarin" was coming! ha ha - and your right! the puzzle has been figured out!
I appreciate your valued advice for sure!


p.s. it's all the faves I'm referring to.. not just one!

With you that was an automatic assumed, others are not as gifted as you.

 

[Dotanuki]

I have found that cash is usually the answer to most things. Be moderately generous to a woman in this field and sooner (or later depending how seasoned they are) opportunities open. For a select few here, reputation preceeds presence and so much finesse isn't required.

 

[ppc]

Variety is the spice of life. If you are sticking to your old favs only all the time, you will get bored easily for sure. I am now rotating between semi legit and holistic and occasionally with Korean SPs at BBH. Holistic is my least fav thing. Hunting for new gems at semi legit is the game I enjoy the most bcuz I love good massage and have fun trying out my fading charm. To my surprise, it's still working well.

Good for you ,, KJ,

 

[Dotanuki]

good points! always be generous when possible!

it is universal when dealing with people who service people. General respect and modest generosity is always a good ice breaker. Overtime it reaps benefits, whether it is server at your favorite restaurant, a barber or a sex worker. Give it 3 to 5 encounters and you'll see what happens. The slow blade goes deep.

 

[BmH6769]

Late discover of this post... I think what OP should do is spice up your sessions with your favs. Bring some toys, scented oil or outfits that might enhance the overall experience. Keep your expectations low when meeting new mpas holi or semi, even the well reviews ones

 

[luvnewpussy]

If your just seeing your favs guess what - its like having a girlfriend. Same ol same ol.
that's what led you to visiting mps in the first place. Having The same pussy.. its gets boorrrrrrring
That's way my "handle" is what it is
The prospect of New pussy will get you back into the groove.

O and there's also a epidemic going on and everythings a shit show. Don't beat yourself up.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

Ironic for me that this subject had come up again. My parts and libido are quite healthy lately but I do not find myself attracted to anyone, just porn. It may be all the social distancing, or a general disgruntlement as the pandemic drags on, or an acquired suspicion of all people I encounter. When the pandemic is contained I will need to learn how to be comfortable with strangers again.

 

[hangul99]

I find i don't miss the hobby at all. I just miss the social interaction.

 

[OG_funguy]

I find i don't miss the hobby at all. I just miss the social interaction.

You mean social interaction with MPAs?

 

[hangul99]

You mean social interaction with MPAs?

No. Social interaction with people in general. Holistics don't appeal to me anymore. I find civie encounters more rewarding. As for massages, i have a few legit regulars i see outside the spa for a more relaxing experience.

 

[xtc27]

Variety is the spice of life. If you are sticking to your old favs only all the time, you will get bored easily for sure. I am now rotating between semi legit and holistic and occasionally with Korean SPs at BBH. Holistic is my least fav thing. Hunting for new gems at semi legit is the game I enjoy the most bcuz I love good massage and have fun trying out my fading charm. To my surprise, it's still working well.

...pretty women have such bad taste... used2 bug me when me= young & handsome... now their bad taste ? I count on it...

 

[RH_Diego]

Can't relate completely, but do know what it feels like to get into a routine. I see what you mean about the surprise factor, like my first time. When massage was happening she suddenly grazed my ball and heart started beating and I went hard. Damn.
Now takes a bit more, but I still get excited when they switch it up.

I'm still a noob so everytime still feels great. But I think maybe you just need to try a different place like many have said and add that risk factor to take you back to day 1.

Get tht it's harder now but post lock down maybe.

 

[BmH6769]

I need help!
this fwb thing I've had for 15 years with this 49 yr old xian milf is driving me crazy!! and sometimes feel bad that I'm cheating on her so to speak..
she's been nothing but wonderful.. Yet, she's still at distance, a caution, a lets see what happens kinda thing and here were are 15 years later.. wont marry or live with me.. but comes over for fun stuff when she wants.. and times when I want too, but mostly hers!
never asks for money, never! she's so shy!!! almost painfully! try taking her dancing, she's a wall flower! do my dirty dancing on her in a crowd of 100.. NO NO..
and she knows and has watched me through 2 girlfriends in the last 10 years. fuck, what is it with her??? why she hang on all these years?

That’s what’s good ‘bout FWB imo, she knows the limit between herself and you. She doesn’t see you as bf or husband material. I don’t think she even care what other ppl you see, don’t beat yourself up with that guilty shit. It’s like, when you wanna get off, you go out and find someone to get off with, she’s the same she just find you there’s nothing wrong with that.
She doesn’t bother you with money or your life, and all these yrs?! Until you find someone to settle down, I say keep her.
To me, you’ve struck gold buddy!!

 

[BmH6769]

she is gold and you are right.. why she sticks with this bad boy, I have no clue except that deep down, I'm really a good guy..
I'm her lover and best friend and we may never tie the knot, but more friends for life... friends with benefits for life..
I do treat her good though.. funny thing happened about a month ago. we took a a walk and during the walk I said we can take another walk next week.. and she jumped in the air a bit angry saying, "I don't want walk'.. and that was her way of saying "I want sex with you" because she will never say those words out loud to me... ha ha

FWB4Lbrilliant indeed!