Awkward ask, premature?

[CaliKev]

I have been on this page as a view for a month or so now and have done a lot of research but never seen this.

I know lots of people (if this is the case won’t answer; but PM would be awesome too).

I have only got indulged in this “hobby” 3 times now. Went to well reviewed ladies from this site. I am 30. Normal guy, normal sex life (I’d say average at sex??).

On my first massage after reading all the reviews I was basically pre cum oozing 10 minutes into the massage, on the flip and rub I was fighting every urge to not explode before she even started the motion.

The next 2 times I also was fighting back the urge within 20 seconds of them just oiling it up.

All 3 times I finished ~30 seconds or less. All 3 girls played it off like “Ohhh you must really like me” or “don’t worry this happens lots” “must have been a good masssge”

Has anyone else experienced this or still experiencing this? Again, I am not a virgin or like this normally. I have never had an issue of premature or anything in my sex life or even on first dates/hook up’s.

The last time I felt like the $60 tip was not worth it as she was basically just moving the LG into position to oil it up and I exploded.

Looking for any advice on if you dealt with this, has anyone J/O before going?

 

[Romero001]

………..I have only got indulged in this “hobby” 3 times now. Went to well reviewed ladies from this site. I am 30. Normal guy, normal sex life (I’d say average at sex??).

On my first massage after reading all the reviews I was basically pre cum oozing 10 minutes into the massage, on the flip and rub I was fighting every urge to not explode before she even started the motion.

The next 2 times I also was fighting back the urge within 20 seconds of them just oiling it up.

All 3 times I finished ~30 seconds or less. All 3 girls played it off like “Ohhh you must really like me” or “don’t worry this happens lots” “must have been a good masssge”

Has anyone else experienced this or still experiencing this? Again, I am not a virgin or like this normally. …………

You are not alone. I had this issue on occasion in my 20’s/30’s. It has happened to the best of us. I would suggest it is nerves and excitement. I remember once in my 30‘s, a lap dance by a stripper grinding on me and I exploded mid dance.
It will get better as you control your nerves, apprehension and excitement. Until you can control these urges, may I suggest you rub-one-out just prior to seeing a provider. This should put you in good stead to enjoy the massage, tease and action that follows.

 

[Sun&SandMan]

I have been on this page as a view for a month or so now and have done a lot of research but never seen this.

I know lots of people (if this is the case won’t answer; but PM would be awesome too).

I have only got indulged in this “hobby” 3 times now. Went to well reviewed ladies from this site. I am 30. Normal guy, normal sex life (I’d say average at sex??).

On my first massage after reading all the reviews I was basically pre cum oozing 10 minutes into the massage, on the flip and rub I was fighting every urge to not explode before she even started the motion.

The next 2 times I also was fighting back the urge within 20 seconds of them just oiling it up.

All 3 times I finished ~30 seconds or less. All 3 girls played it off like “Ohhh you must really like me” or “don’t worry this happens lots” “must have been a good masssge”

Has anyone else experienced this or still experiencing this? Again, I am not a virgin or like this normally. I have never had an issue of premature or anything in my sex life or even on first dates/hook up’s.

The last time I felt like the $60 tip was not worth it as she was basically just moving the LG into position to oil it up and I exploded.

Looking for any advice on if you dealt with this, has anyone J/O before going?

Stick it in a vice, crank tight and hit it with a hammer. It will behave after that!

 

[Rubmegood]

The last few years I've been using a silicone cock ring. I know, I know, the perception is that only guys with ED use cock rings but it has other benefits as well- like helping you last longer: What Are Cock Rings?

 

[Mebad2018]

I find that my little yellow pill makes it harder and it stays hard longer.

 

[Rubmegood]

I find that my little yellow pill makes it harder and it stays hard longer.

??? Whats that got to do with OP's question?

 

[Deleted member 104635]

Sounds like you are far too easily impressed by women.

Close your eyes and picture her all wrinkled up like a geriatric grandma.

Writing that made my dink shrink.

 

[Sun&SandMan]

I have been on this page as a view for a month or so now and have done a lot of research but never seen this.

I know lots of people (if this is the case won’t answer; but PM would be awesome too).

I have only got indulged in this “hobby” 3 times now. Went to well reviewed ladies from this site. I am 30. Normal guy, normal sex life (I’d say average at sex??).

On my first massage after reading all the reviews I was basically pre cum oozing 10 minutes into the massage, on the flip and rub I was fighting every urge to not explode before she even started the motion.

The next 2 times I also was fighting back the urge within 20 seconds of them just oiling it up.

All 3 times I finished ~30 seconds or less. All 3 girls played it off like “Ohhh you must really like me” or “don’t worry this happens lots” “must have been a good masssge”

Has anyone else experienced this or still experiencing this? Again, I am not a virgin or like this normally. I have never had an issue of premature or anything in my sex life or even on first dates/hook up’s.

The last time I felt like the $60 tip was not worth it as she was basically just moving the LG into position to oil it up and I exploded.

Looking for any advice on if you dealt with this, has anyone J/O before going?

Just go and see Annie at Strathcona, put tooth picks in your eye lids to keep em open. Make sure the bright lights are on. You will not have any fast action problems but you will certainly get a work out, trust me!. Ha

 

[welldunn66]

Hmmmm, I think it's nerves and the rookie fresh xxxcitement of xxxperiencing something new. Believe me, it's not your dick and ass that is the critical sex organ. Its your brain. Your brain needs to be trained to hold off cumming prematurely.
Do this first to see if it helps for the next session: do a "pregame warm-up play with yourself" an hour or so before appointment, shower and get freshen up. Then get in your car to your appointment. Hopefully this will help you calm your nerves.

 

[Albertaman]

What's between our two ears is clearly the real sex organ. So for now your program tells you that being oiled up on a massage table is seriously exciting. Actually not such a bad thing. It also means that you have fortunately connected with masseuses that "click" with your senses. Far better than being touched by therapists who have zero impact on your senses.

If seeing a therapist whose presence next to you or her touch automatically gets you horny, just jack off before you head out to see her in order to enjoy a more controlled arousal.

As others have suggested, you could try visualizing a granny etc. If the therapist is hot (per your brain wiring) I don't that will work. Pheromones work their magic regardless of visualizations.

If all else fails, just head out to Calgary for a massage. All the aged masseuses will curb your natural urges and you will last forever.




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[turts]

Another thing…

Talk to your therapist. I’m not ashamed to. Let them know and the good ones will be careful and try to help you go longer. Not just at the beginning, but during too. If you want her to slow down or completely stay off for a moment speak up! They know if you have a good time you will come back! I’ve had some bad luck with jackhammer ladies tho…they don’t slow down no matter what you say…

 

[luvsluvsmassage]

i really think its just a 'new' kind of thing. also, some of the ladies use lots of oil. if you're excited about the entire experience, and then they hit two strokes with that oil, i've had plenty of quick poppers. but it also happened a lot in my early days of the 'hobby' too. i used to do things like jerk off before. once even i jerked in the shower, thinking i'll get a nice long one on the table. ended up not being able to stay hard and ruined it. after a while i realized that i was too focused on the moment. i thought i needed to make it last as long as possible to feel like i got "my moneys worth". I started to acknowledge that i'm paying for the whole experience. if that means a great build up and i'm gonna cum early, then the last thing i want is to spoil that moment by getting in my own head and being disappointed in myself. so i just let it go, let it happen, love it. if it happens quick or long, just make sure you enjoy it.

 

[Samson23]

Like you, I've had no problem in this regard for most of my life, but there have been a few times when this annoying issue cropped up including recently. I'm not sure if you've tried Daisy at La Bella, but she is very gentle and builds up slowly. She's been a safe bet for me when dealing with sensitivity issues. That said, I'm sure many providers would be happy to acoomodate you if you want them to take it slow. It is an anxiety/nerves issue. You will get over it, but I'm sure it's frustrating.

 

[Mebad2018]

I find that my little yellow pill makes it harder and it stays hard longer.

The same thing " your" cock ring has. Just a suggestion .

 

[Qster]

This reminds me of a couple of years ago, during the pandemic, my girlfriend moved in with me and I had bare sex with her the first time; the last time was many years ago when I had a sugarbaby. I lost it within seconds because I was so worked up between the ears. It never happened again once the novelty wore off. Like a couple of guys had said above, and I agree, it is probably all in your head because you are new to the hobby.

PS: yellow vs. blue, I am the blue pill kind of guy; I hate the day long headaches associated with the yellows.

 

[Bob the Knob]

Any time I had bare sex the first time with a new girl friend I would pop within the first minute, but luckily stayed hard for a decent second round two

 

[Wills_willie]

You might want to try legit massages for a bit where there is no expectations. This way your body and mind can relax and just enjoy the therapeutic experience. This might help you calm your brain and control the sex thing that resides in all us horn dogs.

 

[Outlaw]

This reminds me of a couple of years ago, during the pandemic, my girlfriend moved in with me and I had bare sex with her the first time; the last time was many years ago when I had a sugarbaby. I lost it within seconds because I was so worked up between the ears. It never happened again once the novelty wore off. Like a couple of guys had said above, and I agree, it is probably all in your head because you are new to the hobby.

PS: yellow vs. blue, I am the blue pill kind of guy; I hate the day long headaches associated with the yellows.

I agree about the pill and I last paid 23 and change for 8 tabs generic at Costco.

 

[Deleted member 104635]

As I read all these replies it now make sense why I have met so many women that were civilians along with dancers, MPA's and escorts who bitched and complained about two pump chumps and three stroke jokes in their regular lives.

It's the very fact that you don't have to last long enough to give a woman an orgasm to get her pregnant as to why the world is overpopulated.

Way to Omega...

 

[ObiWanPotato]

I don't know if sensual Jen is still around. I kinda lost track after she left the west end. she is easy to communicate with and has some edging techniques the might help. Just be honest with her about it before you even get your close off.

I never met Annalise Lane but I feel like (based on reviews) she would be very understanding and helpful.
I just dont think you will get much help from most AMPS due to language