Awkward ask, premature?

[daty869]

Agree with the comments about the brain being the biggest sex organ, I’m 57 and have been sexually active since I was 18 with few short periods that I was single or without a fwb relationship. I get massages weekly and have sex at least once a week with my wife, (as an aside at 2am and 7am today) and would say that I’m doing well at my age. There is one MPA that I have been seeing for about 5 years on and off and for whatever reason I cannot control myself with her, the usual routine is I massage her/daty then as soon as she touches me I explode. I have done the same to at least 100 other women and never an issue and in my prime (mid 20’s) could last 5 hrs and orgasm 4 times without losing much stiffness.
To the OP - relax and enjoy what you pay for. After 3 games of golf I was still over 100, took a few years to break 80 …..same principle, enjoy the practice.

 

[Kawailuvr]

Jerk off before your next session
Go to the sex shops and buy STUD 100
Problem solved

 

[Samson23]

I don't know if sensual Jen is still around. I kinda lost track after she left the west end. she is easy to communicate with and has some edging techniques the might help. Just be honest with her about it before you even get your close off.

I never met Annalise Lane but I feel like (based on reviews) she would be very understanding and helpful.
I just dont think you will get much help from most AMPS due to language

Sensual Jen is still going. She's got an ad on LL most days. She's far north central near the henday.

 

[Yegboy]

I have been on this page as a view for a month or so now and have done a lot of research but never seen this.

I know lots of people (if this is the case won’t answer; but PM would be awesome too).

I have only got indulged in this “hobby” 3 times now. Went to well reviewed ladies from this site. I am 30. Normal guy, normal sex life (I’d say average at sex??).

On my first massage after reading all the reviews I was basically pre cum oozing 10 minutes into the massage, on the flip and rub I was fighting every urge to not explode before she even started the motion.

The next 2 times I also was fighting back the urge within 20 seconds of them just oiling it up.

All 3 times I finished ~30 seconds or less. All 3 girls played it off like “Ohhh you must really like me” or “don’t worry this happens lots” “must have been a good masssge”

Has anyone else experienced this or still experiencing this? Again, I am not a virgin or like this normally. I have never had an issue of premature or anything in my sex life or even on first dates/hook up’s.

The last time I felt like the $60 tip was not worth it as she was basically just moving the LG into position to oil it up and I exploded.

Looking for any advice on if you dealt with this, has anyone J/O before going?

I have this problem too. I tell all the masseuse about how sensitive and quick I can come and ask them to take it really slow. Most of them understand and help ease the pressure.

 

[jzburner]

Rookie excitement is tripping your trigger prematurely! Just wank one out, right before you go, the second round of the day will be delayed a little.

 

[Bsmalls1]

Most ladies don't allow you to pop twice so this is a bad problem to have

 

[Albertaman]

Communicate in advance and plan for an early session release and then a second one later on. This will resolve your problem.

We all have varied refractory time lines, call it re-juice time. But in a 90 minute massage session, two rounds is a good way to enjoy a quickie and then a long one. If it is a FS type relationship, the older providers may not be as thrilled about the second longer round. They prefer the clients who are done quick (and don't like deeper penetration... hence the techniques to keep it to 2" deep pleeeese).

In the case of special YMMV mutual attraction based sessions that are structured around 2 hours where you spend as much time with reverse massage and Daty, a third round would guarantee no premature releases. Take the time in 2023 and find that special one that works with you.


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[Eastcoastdan]

A couple of things.
1) I have never spent time with SensualJen but I have with Annalise Lane, and I agree with ObiWan that she would be a good choice. I am sure she would work with you and your situation. She's very good at what she does.
2) I will offer an alternative to some of the other good suggestions. It does take some practice. Start by thinking about what your body is going through when you cum before you want to and compare that to having a moment of anxiety. They are virtually the same in that they activate the sympathetic nervous system, which is the fight, flight, or freeze response. So if that is not what you want, the opposite of that is to activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for relaxation. The best way to do that is to do deep, rhythmic belly breathing. Think about how people who meditate breath, and they are in a deeply relaxed state. The next part may sound counter-intuitive, but you also need to get out of your head. No thinking about Grandma, sports, or dead kittens. Focus on the sensations in your body. Learn where you are in the arousal cycle. Are you at a 5 or a 7? Part of cumming too quickly is that it sneaks up on you and all of a sudden it's too late. By focussing on what you are feeling, you will learn to have enough notice to do something about it. In the meantime, your breathing and relaxed state will naturally prolong the event anyhow.

When I get a massage, with or without extras, or am in a sexual encounter, I am focusing on everything that is happening in my body. Once you get used to it, it happens naturally. That, combined with the breathing, puts me in the driver's seat. It allows me to be fully present and not disconnected trying to think about other things. This is key in partnered play because your partner can tell you are not all there. By being disconnected, you miss out on experiencing all the pleasure you could otherwise.

There is more to it than that, but when you practice the above, you will see results quite quickly (but not too quickly!).

Good luck.

 

[Sun&SandMan]

I have been on this page as a view for a month or so now and have done a lot of research but never seen this.

I know lots of people (if this is the case won’t answer; but PM would be awesome too).

I have only got indulged in this “hobby” 3 times now. Went to well reviewed ladies from this site. I am 30. Normal guy, normal sex life (I’d say average at sex??).

On my first massage after reading all the reviews I was basically pre cum oozing 10 minutes into the massage, on the flip and rub I was fighting every urge to not explode before she even started the motion.

The next 2 times I also was fighting back the urge within 20 seconds of them just oiling it up.

All 3 times I finished ~30 seconds or less. All 3 girls played it off like “Ohhh you must really like me” or “don’t worry this happens lots” “must have been a good masssge”

Has anyone else experienced this or still experiencing this? Again, I am not a virgin or like this normally. I have never had an issue of premature or anything in my sex life or even on first dates/hook up’s.

The last time I felt like the $60 tip was not worth it as she was basically just moving the LG into position to oil it up and I exploded.

Looking for any advice on if you dealt with this, has anyone J/O before going?

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