BE like me mate i send money for my g/f but i am not stupid i know whats going on when i am not there ! i just accept the fact that if it really bothered me that much and i really liked the girl then i would marry her and take her away from the bar, but you have to realise that as long as you have a thai girlfriend who works in bangkok/pattaya/patong/huahin as a bar girl then no matter how much money you send the likelihood is that she will still be going with guys. Not all of them but the overwhelming majority of them !