can't introduce my boyfriend to my parents!! :(?

[Tara]

so I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 20 years old, we've been together for about 5 month , but my parents have noo idea of his existence. because I have a VERY strict parents and they don't really want me to date now (they are afraid I will have sex with a guy, which I already have)..but the question is if you guys were in my boyfriend shoes would have you breakup with me because you couldn't meet my parents?? is that a big deal in a relationship?

 

[Big D]

You my dear are a liar and a fraud. You admit to both in your question. You are a liar because you have been dating for 5 months and told your parents you haven't ben. You are a fraud because you are playing the "good girl" for you parents and being the "slut" with the boyfriends. Unless the sex was really good I'd leave you because you are untrustworthy. If you act this disrespectful and deceitful to your parents, how soon will it be before you treat me the same way? I have yet to understand why a teenager ( you are nineteen) thinks they understand life. They haven't lived enough yet. You should respect your parents. You cannot see it because you are so focused on "me" but they are trying to protect you because they know your character, and they are right.

 

[BeautifulDisasterr]

if I were a guy, I would question the fact that you haven't introduced me to your parents yet, and wonder if you were even serious about being in a relationship with me. However, it depends on the guy. But, your 19! It sounds to me that you need to sit down and have a talk with your parents.At 19 you can move out, its past the legal age to have sex, you can drive, buy a car, buy cigerettes. Explain to your boyfriend why you haven't introduced him to your parents yet, and then perhaps invite your family to a family meal WITH your boyfriend, and tell them there. Good luck! ?

 

[Toad Girl]

Wait. How old were you when you slept with a guy for the first time? Lets say 16. So you have been doing things behind your parents backs for 3years(thats just an example...)

 

[Ashley]

yeah just say that your dating some one and your relationship is getting more serious and that they should meet him. 19 is to old to be keepng a boy secret..your not 10

 

[Peter T]

No. But you want to be mature. Might wanna pick mom or dad and break it to one of them gently. Mature adults don't hide their bf\gf from their parents. You don't want him to think you're immature or ashamed of him.

 

[Tod Noname]

i wouldn't just cause of that. and you should talk to your parents you are old enough and they need to understand. say to them once they find out "if ever" that you are going out for more than 5 months and it has been going alright.this would bring a more closer realtionship with you and your family and your boyfriend.

 

[Fixxer]

First of all, he will not breakup with you if he really loves you!!!
If you know your parents are that strict, than don't bother introducing your boyfriend, at least for now!
If it's not a big deal for your boyfriend, don't worry about it!

 

[dramatic_monkey]

Unless he's planning on having a really seriouse relationship with you I doubt he'd make a big deal out of it. But even if he is planning on that I'm sure that you can explain to him that after some time has passed that you'll be able to introduce him to your parents but just not yet. Either way don't worry even though I don't know the guy or anything about your relationship I doubt he'd break it off. Good luck babe

 

[Antst]

Well, plenty of people don't introduce friends and boyfriends/girlfriends to their families because of various family problems. It is OK to tell your boyfriend that there are issues with your family, so he won't be meeting your family anytime soon.

But I think it IS a major problem that you are 19 (an adult) and you are STILL letting your parents tell you whether or not to date. Do you realize how ridiculous this is? How can it be possible for you to have an adult relationship when you are not ready to be an adult? You are going to need to make adult decisions about things like whether to get married, where to live, where to work... No man will want to do everything for you.

So I think it is time for you to start taking a stand with your parents... Good luck.

 

[Skye Boysen]

it depends is he a family kind of guy or not so much? and youre 19. youre an adult. you can go to jail, and make your own decisions. sounds like you need to have a talk with your parents.