Confession

[dreamer]

just like eating, excercising and work, this hobby needs to be balanced with the rest of one's life and moderation is key.

I like the suggestion that one poster made regarding booking weeks in advance. That will allow you to concentrate on other things in life, in the meantime, work hard, excersise, family time...and reward yourself with some "vacation fantasy" at some point in the future. It is up to you to decide what "fantasy" fits your conscience.....maybe you might even substitute it with a great meal with friends, or a trip to the casino(set budget)..or even a weekend getaway somewhere.

Good luck boys.

 

[kdanley]

Hi James, when you are right you are right.
That is why I said the following:

"Generally we think, we will go the "what she doesn't know won't hurt either of us" route"

WonkyKnee, you are right on the money, Balance is the key to most things in life including the hobby. Generally speaking, too much of any one thing, can lead to problems down the road.

 

[Elle]

Absolutely.

No good whatsoever will EVER come of revealing your extra caricular activities to the significant other.

Avoid at all costs.

 

[ScroogexJones]

Just to clarify. I have no objection to visiting mpa's, full service or any type of pay for play. I also tend to agree that most men are not "designed" to be monogomous, love encounters with a variety of women, and need lots of sex. My beef is with guys who say they know all of this, yet still get married or have a SO.

For example, LuckyGary states "To try to deny who we are, or try to force ourselves to be something we are not, I think is a fools paradise." I agree entirely. But, if volume and variety are truly a man's nature, then why get married and commit to the exact opposite in the first place? Unless, of course, you live in Utah.

My suggestion is so that you can reap all of the positive benefits of a relationship - having someone to care for you, sleep beside at night, make your lunches, look after any offspring etc, without living up to your end of the bargain - ie, being a faithful partner.

Wouldn't it be more "manly" and satisfying to admit to yourself that want variety and volume and be open about it even though it might mean that you don't get the fuzzy stuff from a SO?

g

 

[Bee]

Here we have whitestrip with an interesting confession and a series of sometimes insightful, sometimes somewhat confusiing moralistic posts by him and a number of other poster- given this is massageplanet.net the strong monogamist moral tone is little weird- but from a number of low post contributors -feeling guilty for reading and not sharing are we and maybe guilty generally. Then i read further and find whitestrip is having an affair as he is regularly banging his favourite mpa and now know why he is feeling guilty both re significant other and the MPA.

And then I realize I am truly disturbed as my first reaction is to cross reference his posts to find out who she is to see if I can catch her on the rebound session. Sorry could not resist adding some levity to this ditty.