Hi,
I am in a big trouble friends right now. ..
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Just want to get out of this situation without hurting the girl sentiment.
First of all, believe it or not, this whole situation is your own mind playing tricks with you. As someone else also pointed out, you have subconsciously placed this girl on a pedestal. Your heart and mind are not willing to accept that she might be a completely different person compared to the image you have of her.
A lot of us, whether we care to admit it or not, have fallen into this moh-maya jaal of our creation at some point in our lives either with girls or other possessions (cars / gadgets etc.). Once we "get" what our heart desires, the longing fades away gradually.
I believe this is the same girl whose face our "friend" would forget and had to visit the bar a few times every week. You need to convince yourself that this girl may be nice to you, but in the end she is just another bar girl (albeit a nice human being) who plays with customers imagination to get them to spend money on her.
The only solution to this issue, believe it or not, is to
sleep with her at least once (perhaps a few times). Moving to a different city will only make your life miserable. This was verified when you went to the USA for a month and couldn't get her out of your mind. Running away is not a viable solution.
Sleep with her and a few other girls on back to back days. Eventually you will find another girl that is just a sweet/nice to you. hopefully that will help prove to you that there are a lot of bar girls that can provide the same experience without screwing with you mental peace and normal daily life (professional and person).
Summary -> please fuck her OR make love to her nicely... whatever... just do it !!!
P.S: I am never ever rude with any bar girls / working girls, even when they are obviously scamming me. I always deal with them with a smile on my face and humor in my words. I make it clear to them that I understand their games and am not falling for any of that shit. From your posts, it appears that you are probably the same. Stay true to your nature and deal with this situation head-on. There is absolutely no need to change your behavior. Will power can get you out of this situation.
Trust yourself.