Is anyone going sarging tonight. I am planning to go to Night@N@LE again tonight to meet my muse. I would be glad if i can join anyone as i really waste a lot of money if i go alone.
First of all - do
NOT go back to Nightingale. That girl is
NOT your muse... please repeat that to yourself as many times as possible until you start believing that statement. That girl sees you for the sucker you are (please pardon the tough love buddy, but you need it). You will not get the GFE experience you are seeking with that girl. From your description, I am a pretty sure who that girl is. Did she give you one of the following names: Kavita, Suhana, Saloni? Check her number on Trucaller... probably shows up as Kavita Rajput. Stay away from her, She is a shark/vulture who will chew you up and spit you out unless you suddenly undergo a 180 degree transformation overnight and become more assertive. You need to set boundaries in any relationship, specially the paid ones. There is no harm in being a good guy, but do
NOT let the bar girls walk all over you. You are paying for their time and services, so you should lead the way.
Again, please don't take offense, you asked for help here and that is exactly what I am trying to do... help you to cut your losses and prevent you from compounding your mistakes.
Secondly, you need to reset your expectations as far as DB girls are concerned. They are only in this for the money, no matter how nice they may seem. Their main focus is your wallet and how to empty it while doing the bare minimum on their part - specially on the first few meetings or until you build up a good rapport with them where they
respect you as a person. You are currently setting yourself up for failure because of your unrealistic expectations from DB girls.
Thirdly, I would advice you to get familiar with SBs and DBs (other than Nightingale) that have a more relaxed/friendly atmosphere where you can relax without worrying about picking up a girl. Go to one of the SBs discussed on this thread - Sneha, Mayur, Kishore, Sunil and Sai Darbar. Sit with some of the popular SB girls recommended here. Since you are not interested in sex with the bar girls, focus on enjoying yourself in the SB. Flirt with them, fondle them, kiss them, grope them and as a result give your self confidence a boost. You can do all of this for around Rs 500 per girl.
Then, move on to some of the popular DBs (not pickup joints) discussed on this thread like Rasna, Cabana, Love, Akshay Palace, WhatsApp, Deepika, Laila etc. Again, focus on having a good time in the bar without worrying about asking the girl out. If you like dancing, dance with the girls in the DB - you can easily do that in Rasna, Cabana and even Mayur (1st Floor DB section) and Kishore. It is much cheaper than taking them out to a regular nightclub. You will end up spending less than Rs 2000 for all this fun in most of the DBs I named above.
Finally, when you gain some experience and self confidence, you can move on to the next level - OBs, where you can find classier girls (some of them fluent in English). The cost will be higher, but when you build a rapport with a girl in a OB (which may require multiple visits and potentially lots of spending), you can take them out dancing, dining etc. This experience is not cheap and may cost a total of between 10k to 40k over multiple visits.
Lastly, I repeat... do
not return to Nightingale until you gain some experience in this SB/DB game. The waiters/coatwalas and girls at Nightingale are probably the most money minded of all the bars in Navi Mumbai. That is definitely not the place for a newbie, unless you are going for "entry" (i.e. sex with a girl from their bar in their designated lodge).
I would advise you to read the last 20 pages of this thread. There is a wealth of information and tips from experienced mongers that can save you a lot of heartache and disappointment. Visit these bars with the correct expectations and I am confident you will have an awesome experience over 90% of the time.