do you consider cheating

[eldridan]

do you consider going to rub and tugs cheating on your partner?

 

[michelenergy]

Yes.

 

[Pompal 09.]

It's never cheating unless you get caught . (I'm only kidding.) Seriously? I think it all depends on the two people involved. If I'm getting naked with every Joe Smoe that comes through the door and my bf is O.K. with it (like with my situation with a**hole), then no, it's not cheating because he knows about it and is O.K. with it. But if I had a bf and he didn't know about my job and I'm going behind his back and getting naked with everyone, then yes, it is cheating. Why? because he doesn't know about it. And if he knew about it, he might choose not to be in a relationship with someone like me. Our relationship would be based on a lie. That's why I never bothered lying to any of my bfs about what I do. The only bf I DID lie to was the one I was with for almost 7 yrs. But he lied to me first. When I first met him (at a MP), he fell in love / lust with me right away. He kept on asking me out. I wasn't looking for a bf at that time so I kept on turning him down. He kept on asking me why. Finally, I told him that I know most guys are jealous and they would not want a whacker gf and sooner or later, they'd have a problem with their job and they'd want her to leave the business and I can't leave this business because that's my way of making a living. He kept on insisting he's O.K. with my job... he's not going to make me quit, that I could continue working, etc, etc. So finally, I decide to go out with him. About six months into our relationship, he started bugging me to quit my job. EVERYDAY, we were fighting about my work. Finally, I got fed up, told him I've found a telemarketing job and I'm quitting massage... and I found a different spa to work at the next day. Do I consider this situation cheating? No. Why? Because I feel he fooled me into a relationship with him in the first place. If he wasn't going to be O.K. with my job, then don't pretend that he was. If I had known how he'd be, I would never have started a relationship with him in the first place.

So in answer to your question... Do I think it's cheating if you're going to a SC, MP, SP? It is if your partner doesn't know about it.

 

[Chad_1_1]

no because i dont have a partner but i might be still be part of the equation if the mpa or sp has a partner so maybe

 

[humblepie]

No the bowel movement info isn't important because whether you tell her about it or not she knows it is going on. Obviously she's okay with that.

As for the sister, if she's attractive then your wife probably knows that as a hetero man that you wouldn't kick her out of bed for eating crackers.

In other words your wife has some idea about those two things but will be completely blind sided if one day you tell her about hobbying.

How do you justify it in your case as not cheating exactly?

At this point I just want to say that yes I hobby, no I'm not seeing anyone and yes I believe if someone is married and wants to go that's their business.

 

[Blood Python Fanatic]

I would say if your wife or girlfriend was withholding sex (and not because she's in a coma, like one thread I remember) and you had an uncomfortable build up of sprem on your lower spinal column and so went to an MP and had the stressed relieved well i don't think there's anything to feel guilty about. You should be able to discuss it as easily as you would an RMT massage.

But instead of seeing an MP maybe you should investigate why your mate is not satisfying you any longer.

 

[Kittie Nya! Nya!]

If I performed daty, lfk and Italian/Russian on you're GF and then got a happy ending from her would she be cheating on you?.......ummm ya.

 

[ODP]

Secret relationship with Tothy = Paradise

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[Ontario Loyalist]

Don't worry. She's probably cheating on you also.

 

[toilltoft]

Women in the biz often say no. But I think that has to do with putting the customer at ease.

But yes it is cheating. I'm guessing you were hoping that people would say no its not cheating so go for it.

Some might argue that its not the same intimacy but at the end of the day it is intimate. You are touching or being touched in a way that goes well beyond anything casual.

 

[Boo Boo Kitty]

yes it is cheating

 

[Pompal 09.]

Different if you have an open relationship. Something tells me the guy who started this thread doesn't have one.

 

[Random R]

I think the answer is simple - if you feel you are cheating it's cheating. If she feels cheated then it's cheating to her, but in actual fact if you didn't feel you cheated on her then she wasn't cheated, unless you are cheating yourself into thinking it's not cheating. Regardless, if you aren't going for an R&T you're likely cheating yourself. On the other hand, if you're going for an R&T and she's not paying for sexual intimacy with a less significant other you're cheating and arguably "being cheated".


... as Bailey's tailor said "we all and up as worm food".

or as another wise man once said ... Embraced, the lovers desperately try to fuse their insulated ecstasies into a single self-transcendence; in vain. By its very nature every embodied spirit is doomed to suffer and enjoy in solitude. Sensations, feelings, insights, fancies - all these are private ... etc

/pool (currently selling tea on ebay)

 

[Tinkerweed]

If it wasn't cheating we'd all have trouble getting appointments with our favourite ladies.

 

[Giacomo]

Pool what was the number one rule of business?

Don't dip into the stash. Keep drinking that tea and you'll have the metabolism of a hummingbird.

Correct me if I'm wrong but are you trying to tell the guy that in all probability he is cheating on her and himself?

 

[Molly Smith]

Sure, I'd consider a hand or blowjob from someone other than your partner as cheating - even if no feelings are involved.
It's interesting to see where most people draw the line, would fondling a stripper's breasts cross it?
How about grabbing your neighbour's fully clothed ass while slowdancing?

 

[Charli]

definition of cheating!!!!

adulterous, cheating(a), two-timing(a)

"not faithful to a spouse or lover; "adulterous husbands and wives"; "a two-timing boyfriend"

so what does "not faithful" mean - that will vary for each person.

For me I don't think so!!!

 

[Clampinon]

Who cares??

 

[kaiy2k]

It is really cheating if you have an emotional attachment.... if you have that, beyong just the physical, then you are really really cheating then.

On their own, emotional is worse then physical, but the two often get intertwined.

Many people cheat physically, and it is not really such a big deal..... but you get to the emotional.... look out.

 

[Xeriena]

I always thought cheating had to involve some emotional aspect with someone other than your mate. Getting a blow job from an SP is not cheating. Being in love with your wife's sister, even if you never consumate, is. It's really all about emotional availablity. If you're available to someone else for a relationship then your cheating.

Of course I'm blessed with extremely flexible morals that allow me to rationalize just about anything.