Greetings all.....

[Markie]

So often it aint funny...

 

[cathima]

yeah, i forsee some problems in the future. ill deal with it when it comes.

 

[Selliah]

How would you think about in getting out a relationship such as that, when a girl is too attached and you really don't want to hurt her feelings? Cross your fingers that she would be rational about it?

 

[DevinL]

The problem is I am in a situation where I can't afford to dwell on her (i.e. two HUGE firefights last night), yet that is all I do. It is not that I am suspicious of her or anything like that. I read too many nightmare stories on here of how these relationships don't work, and too few success stories. That should probably tell me something...lol. To date that I am aware of she has not lied to me. She has not asked for any money. And has only said sweet and nice things to me. She has quizzed me on when I will return, and I feel that is more her being afraid I am b.s.ing her and will not come back. She has also quizzed me on when I can return to stay. Unfortunately that would not be until June. One thing that does bother me is too little contact with her. Her English is not very good. We communicate great face to face, but a phone call would be an effort in futility and we both know it. I get an email religiously every Sunday from her. She went back to her hometown for a bit and there is no internet massageplanete, so she admittedly phones a friend and has her email me. Bottom line, I have no reason to believe this isn't the real deal. So I guess I have to convince myself I must accept my fate, if she is there in Feb. waiting for me, great. If she has moved on some where else or on to another relationship so be it. There lies my conundrum (my $5 word for the day), how do I do this? As for stating what bar she works at so the BM's can go pay a visit.....lol....I don't think so.

 

[Pants On The Ground]

OK tell you what.. When you find out let me know.. Then there will be two of us

In truth god knows.. In matters of the heart all bets are off and all guesses are wrong.. I hate causing any heartbreak but I also prefer having regular girls (notice the 's' at the end) to one nighters.. So this is a common problem for me..

Basically I just try to be totally honest all the time.. If a girl asks if I have a GF I say "yes many, would you like to be one" gets a laugh and your still talking.. With my main live in girlfriend (I tried not to let her move in but she is a real good welder) I have basically got to the seforum.xxxe where she knows I am a dog and do not intend to be faithful, she wants to stay and be monomous to me, so I just tell her if she asks me questions and I tell her not to ask, she knows the answer.. She seems cool with that and I can play on the side just not with her mates and always rubbered up..

If she does not like those rules she knows where the door is.. Sounds hard but it seems to be working for us.. She is not the jealous type (she even met another one of my GF's and they got on great.. She came home and told me that the other girl was real pretty with a nice personality, "I can see why you like her" and conversation over !!!!) and in all other respects I look after her great.. Plus if she thinks I am straying she puts in extra effort to make sure I am never walking around with a loaded gun basically its looking pretty good from where I stand..

 

[DAYZII]

LOS...intersting relationship. If I had a live in, I would most likely be monogamous. For me to have a live in there would have to be very deep feelings at the minimum. Otherwise, in my humble opinion, what would be the point of the live iin? If the live in is just for sex, you can get that anywhere.

 

[w/e child]

Theres all this laundry too

Seriously, I tried (like hell) not to let her move in and she does still have her own room and |I attempt to keep the amount of things of hers in the house to a minimum.. But she is like an octopus.. You prise of one leg and another 7 are wrapped around you..

Basically I was 100% monogomous with one girl for years and even when first arriving in Thailand never ****ed around and never missed it.. Without her I enjoyed playing about and its not something I am prepared to give up for this girl.. I am still hurting for my lost wife and am not an an emotional seforum.xxxe of recovery to feel or want to feel love..

This girl does make me feel good and has a very up and lively personality and I like her a lot.. So this setup just seems to have evolved out of my refusal to do the 'expected thing' in a relationship, I just do as I want and try not to cause any heartbreak along the way. I guess it will end in some wreck or other at some point but we seem to understand each other and shes the only person I feel any need to justify myself to.