Tintin makes a good point here!! How many times have you had a girl going down on you, then she rises up, moves forward a bit, you think she is moving perhaps to kiss your face or chest, then all of a sudden, she has got your d*ck in hand and is shoving it in her pussy. Lying back relaxed and enjoying the pleasure, you find yourself very suddenly thrust into having to make a quick decision. Making the right decision under the circumstances requires tremendous willpower and discipline which is not so easy to summon when you have just been totally relaxing, enjoying pleasure, letting your mind go, and are probably also under the influence of alcoholic beverages. And it is, unfortunately, often taken as an insult by the girl if you stop the show by insisting on getting a condom. If you really like the girl a lot, and don't want to offend her, then that makes it doubly hard to make the right decision.
I've thought about it and the solution is to pull out a condom when you get to the room and say, "We will use a condom, OK?" and get clarity on that. Of course, that is not very romantic, but perhaps necessary.
This brings up another issue. What about HIV education among BGs? The fact that many of them are having unprotected sex means to me that maybe they don't fully understand the risks and consequences of unprotected sex. Isn't part of the solution, that much more and better educaton needs to be provided for the BGs. So many are fresh from the countryside. They need to be educated better, and I think they need some system of continuing education that gives them constant reminders of the danger which they too often ignore.
JayBee