How do Boyfriends/SO's/even husbands of MPA's live with what their GF's/SO's do?

[Gamer12]

Very nicely put, Paul ...

A man can share his toys but not his women just like a women can share her clothes and cosmetics, but not her man ...

 

[the world of danger]

Well thats my situation exactly....so i have no problem with it!

 

[8 In the corner]

Sure you could say it would do well for your esteem becasue this MPA/SP chose you after seeing all these guys. But then you also gotta think about why she is with you?...maybe she actually likes you....maybe you are the only half decent dude that is willing to put up with her occupation (which couldn't be too good).

Personally I wouldn't think that a guy has low self esteem if he can't deal with her seeing a lot of guys. I think its actually quite normal. Lets not forget here, women in general tend to confuse sex and or sexual acts with love and affection (mind you I'm not saying all girls are like that but they are far more apt to that than a male is). Being an MPA/SP they are putting themselves somewhat at risk and are more or less playing with fire because they are offering these services. So, sure its just a job 95% of the time but what about that 5% where she may feel a little more for a client??? Is that a situation that is really all that far fetched? No. MPAs/SPs are only human are they not? So what then; when her job becomes a little more than just a job that one time and you're left there with your dick in your hand shit out of luck? Any MPA/SP that can sit there and tell you "its just a job" 100% of the time is bullshitting. They are not in a position to ensure a claim like that.

Bottom line, you become an SO with an active MPA or an SP, you are going to lose.....however you want to look at it...you lose

 

[Alana]

What is this rambling all about?



Not sure why S.S. sounded so offended when someone chose to turn down a hypothetical date from Cameron. I would have turned her down too based on what I read about her - a well reviewed MPA with a nice bod and fake boobs done well. So who is Cameron to you, S.S.?

 

[ShortcutHerbal Goody]

The same thing happens in an office environment. Everything in life is transitory; it is just a question of time. "Enjoy the moment! Live life!" and stop hanging on too tightly, or you'll realize that you are clinging on to nothing at all in the end. We can never completely have another person, so just enjoy what you've got and when it is over, enjoy the next moment; be the moment 30 min or 30 years. I like Poolie's philosophy. http://www.massageplanet.net.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=31221&perpage=9&pagenumber=9

 

[Lis]

Ahhhhh...the refreshing taste of honesty.

However Paul, I still hold to my theory...That being once the male ego is quenched with the championship winnings of the girl being exclusively yours, the real challenge [for the ego] would be to dismiss the past. You know, that ridiculous hunt [the male is supposedly on] for the "virgin" and all...Certainly a much better dilemma to deal with than the whole sharing notion for sure. Just best to ensure the ego is fully in check prior to having kids, that's all.

Kkarn/

 

[Sid Vicious]

You are comparing apples and oranges. Working in as an MPA or SP is not quite like any other job....it is very different, to say the least. In an MPA/SP environment they are knowingly getting into an industry that has a sexual aspect. And as a result they have to be able to embrace the fact that they are at a much higher risk of emotional attachment due to the sex factor. Its an additional risk on top of the fact that shit happens. I guess you can say its like an occupational "hazard" that can and will work its way into your personal love life. This is not present in most other every day jobs.

I have a run of the mill office job and nobody gets within a meter radius of each other......next to no additional risk there.


as for the rest of your statement "Enjoy the moment, live life".....I wish reality was that simple....theres always gonna be a little catch 22.

 

[While Quantities Last]

....It's the christopher columbus syndrome.....

we all want to be the first to discover new territory...

...in this case the mound of venus....

 

[Dan M]

In my situation I am fine with the dancing business, even lap dancing and a little mileage. But, its to hard 2 get a straight answe from ur mate when you ask if they're doing more; escorting! I've had susoicions and hope its not true, but have been lead 2 believe that this may be the case. How can I be sure that she is or isn't? I just want the truth; wouldn't freak just want the truth. I might even learn to like it lol

 

[Vishak]

Dyna, I don't know you neither have we exchange any messages or posts, but one thing I can tell you is that sometimes the truth hurts ...

Maybe your partner is lying to you only because they love you. Sometimes, I guess it's better not to know then to know the truth ...

 

[Live4love]

The stuff Stiffcock was saying sounds like something that was fed to him. Like hes dating an SP/MPA and that was the nonsense they put in his head in order for them to have their cake and eat it too.

Evidently he ate it up with a knife and fork.


I'm not trying to offend you Stiffcock, I'm just saying what I see.

 

[Namibnat]

Barry-O (and gang)

This topic has been discussed many times before but since you're new to the board and maybe to this hobby let me tell you a few things at the risk of boring the veterans.

I'm 34. There was a period of about 10 years in my life when I dated, lived with and just hung out and became friends with a bunch of dancers. (Just got caught-up in that crowd) NEVER have I met a girl in this business (and I have met many) that genuinely liked her job for any other reason than the money and the flexibilty of being able to work whenever thay want to. So whether you think it's nonsense or not, 99% of the time (I'll get to the other 1% in a second) that's the way it is when you pay for sex or companionship.
You are seen as a $100 bill as soon as you walk into a massage parlour (that includes myself too)

Now the other 1% of the time is when there is a genuine attraction between you and the girl (we are all human) and it develops into something more than just a business transaction.

Now let's get to the "dating an MPA" part. Unfortunately what YOU're being "fed" is the sweet nothings in your ear when you're in the room for your half an hour about how different you are, and how nice your body is and how big your dick is etc. What you are told about your body, personality and dick size outside the MP in your MPA's own bed is more likely the truth unless you are the Oh Henry type. (I don't mean any disrespect I will PM you O Henry). I haven't been in that kind of a situation YET. That is, If I take a girl out, I always pay for everything but I have never "supported" any women other than my wife YET. Yes that is a loud yet because what happens tomorrow, nobody knows, Cameron may ask me out still

Here's my situation. I'm married, I cut down considerably on hobbying about a year a go, then completely when I started dating /seeing one of the select few MPAs that I used to see. We see each other once a week sometimes once every two weeks. She is a great person, we have a great time and have become good friends.

I'm not intimitated by the fact that she sees a number of other men every day why? because i'm not weak. I'm not afraid to go with temptation because I know I can control myself. The"don't get involved with your MPA or SP" crowd is really afraid of getting used for money, being cheated or getting played. Like I said in my earlier post, prime sign of weakness and low self-confidence.

For the record I would not marry or have children with an ACTIVE MPA or SP , I don't like sharing my wife either as I believe in marrying only once, commiting only to one person.

Dating is supposed to be fun, you like to have fun with your SP or MPA, why don't you like it outside their "business world"
Is it because you can't have it???

 

[little B]

Well said Sarge.....

 

[Bill P]

Sarge I may be new to this board but by no means am I new to this hobby, believe me! I've experienced a lot which is why I'm saying what I'm saying. I'm not pulling this stuff out of a magical hat.

If you're saying that it is only a 1% chance of hooking up, then let me ask you how so many guys (that I could actually name inculding myself to a certain degree) had been invovled with SPs/MPAs on a higher level. After reading massageplanet.net archives extensively It doesn't seem to be that uncommon. That shit happens.

As for dating an MPA/SP, why would someone have to be weak if they didn't like that???? What if that person just doesn't like to share anybody he is somewhat involved in?...that makes him weak?...who wants to get played, used or conned? that has nothing to do with selfesteem, thats bullshit and apparently I'm not the only guy around here that thinks that. I'm sorry SGT but it may be a job because they are getting paid, but its a little more than just a job....lets not fool ourselves here, its not like they are serving breakfast at Denny's. Not only that, you just contradicted yourself.....you'll share your MPA girlfriend because youre "not weak" but you won't share your wife? wouldn't that make you weak by your definition?


As for dating an MPA/SP....don't even try to test me on that subject son becasue thats a battle you will lose. I've been invovled with active SPs/MPAs/Dancers. But I had sense enough to not get carried away with it....financially or emotionally. We had fun and that was it....I was able to walk away with everything intact. The only time I would say to stay away from an MPA/SP is if you have no self discipline or emotional control.....which most people don't have.

 

[Hoadly]

Barry O,

I don't get it. First you say someone fed me the stuff I posted to have their cake and eat it too which sounds like you're against the stuff I said, then all of a sudden you've been there done that.

From your post it sounds to me like the furthest you've gone with a SP or MPA is a repeat visit. If you've gone further like you say, then you have shared too. If you think dating an MPA/SP is a battle you will lose, then my friend, you have lost before (unlike what you say). I haven't lost YET that's why I think it's great. Again that's a big YET, I don't like to talk big.

As for my wife, to me she is wonderful, beautiful, a great mother, everything I could want, I spoil her (she deserves it) and would not share her. I would be sad for myself but happy for her if she found someone better. You can't say that a girlfriend is the same as your wife. No one starts dating a girl already knowing he will marry her, your feelings for a woman develop so strongly that you do the ultimate commitment, marriage, and that's when I draw the sharing line.

Please don't start with the "why do you cheat on your wife if she's so wonderful" line, we all know (at least I do) that we are horny pigs.

 

[Princess Minx]

Barry,

There are also a few people on the boards who exagerate their situation. Sarge is not one of them.

S

 

[uchaboo]

Yes Sarge what you said sounds like something that was fed to you to keep you tame and controlled in your relationship with an SP.

As for me. yes I've been invovled with SPs/MPAs. But notice that I said I was involved with them TO A DEGREE. these girls were nothing but a fun time for me and by no means was I their "man" nor were they my "girlfriend". Under NO circumstance did my involvment with them impede on emotions nor did it hinder me picking up and having fun with other girls. I kept them at a distance and had a good time with them....and in the end I was able to walk away with a cokacola in my hand and a smile on my face.

And don't start up with me trying to question my involvement with an SP/MPA. Like waht I said, thats a battle you will lose. I have had my involvement with SPs/MPAs and was able to keep it as a favourable situation for myself. Dude, your tone implies that you think you are a special case just because you are dating an MPA/SP? don't make me laugh. Youre not a special case you are a statistic. SPs and clients hooking up is by far not a new concept happens a lot more than you would like to think so give it a rest.

As for the girlfriend /wife thing.....you can't assume that everybody thinks the way YOU think. Just because someone has a certain title you can't assume that it will ensure certain things. Maybe YOUR wife is more important than your girlfriend....maybe its the other way around for someoen else. Maybe someones German Sheppard means more to him than his own father...who knows....People change and shit happens.

Anyways I'm done with this...you have you beliefs and I have mine.

Good luck in whatever you do sarge.

 

[Prodigy]

This thread is still going?

Oh well...seeing that I still haven't ventured out for some fun-fun [locked here in my office] perhaps I'll comment again...

I think a revision of my thoughts are necessary after reading/pondering over S. Stiffcock's post...

In a situation where a man has a dedicated/loving relationship with a wife and even kids and has no intentions (consciously or subconsciously) of altering that world his "emotional tank" should be carrying the right type of baggage for him to only take/allow the surface offerings a relationship with an SP (aka: sex & fun). Sound reasonable?

So...If the guy is happy at home, why is he dabbling in this at all? Well...guys will be guys! And, I would suggest that a happily married man having an SP as a Sex-Friend would be much healthier than a typical affair, say between co-workers (for obvious reasons). You watch the Sopranos? While it was common practice for Tony to have his many SP's on the side, the only time he seemed to have trouble on the home front was during the affair with the Mercedes Girl - got all messed up emotionally...

However, this once again feeds into my theory about; "playing your own game". In the scenario where a guy who is emotionally full already starts to date an SP, who's playing who?

Kkarn/

 

[Emily B]

YOUR tone sounds like bravado. Compensating are we?



Finally something sensible! We all will believe what we want to believe anyway.

Cheers



We all want to be sexual conquerors and yet have no one despoil our "possessions".

 

[Engel -]

She has had a tatto removed on her right hip, it used to be a playboy bunny, but their is a ver visible scar there. She has blonde hair past her shoulders, reside in Barrie and likes to drink red wine preferably. Recently had surgery on her eyelids,