how do I tell my fiancee she needs to lose weight?

[Angelina]

How do I get my fiancee to loose weight ,I don't want to just come out and tell her,but she has put on a few pounds and its kinda of a turn off.

 

[BING]

Join a gym together.

 

[brownboy]

touchy subject
Asking her if she wants to see a solar eclipse and then handing her a mirror might be the wrong approach.

 

[Mr Frazier]

Go for long walks every day.

 

[ex0tic_barbiie]

Take her to lunch and ask her if she would like 3 or 4 double cheese burgers.

 

[Satan Claws]

Whatever you do, don't start making a "beep, beep, beep" noise if she's backing up. :gasp:

Perhaps a "Wide Load" sign on her car? :tongue:

Oh dear, it seems that muscle relaxers make me a little mean. Sorry.

I agree that exercising together is a great idea. Tell her you're concerned about your girlish figure.

Good luck, it's a minefield. :shock:

 

[arcticpuppet.]

or tell her a few more pounds and we can have a 3 sum?

 

[Emilie]

She knows she's getting fat. Odds are that pressure from you won't help any. If you feel like you wouldn't want to be married to her at her present weight or if she gains any more weight, then you probably shouldn't marry her. If you're not that shallow, go ahead and try one of the exercise together plans, but don't expect it to have a high probability of working.

 

[hot potato]

omg, I've been sitting here trying to decide how to word that exact thought.

Although I don't agree it's shallow, it's just real life. How many guys are in this hobby because "she was perfect except for the sex"? You have to be honest with yourself about what you can live with longterm.

Passion matters in a marriage, and it's hard enough to maintain when you're with someone you find really hot. When you're not, well, welcome to massageplanet.

 

[Callisto]

She'll only get bigger, it doesn't work the other way around.

 

[320x200]

Tell her she is getting fat and we will be talking about your ex.

 

[Jazzie Moon]

See above for some good advice. BUT do yourself AND HER a favour. If a 'few pounds' is causing you concern-wrong woman, wrong age (you) wrong time.

If you have a marriage date you can be pretty sure she is ALREADY frantic about the 'few pounds' herself.

WTF were you going to do when she gets pregnant?

 

[HLEK87]

I think if her gaining a few pounds is making you second guess getting married then you are definitely not ready to get married. Marriage should be for life and over the course of that both your bodies are going to change. If it bothers you now then your truly not ready for marriage.

If you still want to get married I would suggest doing some fun activities to get in better shape together. Also don't forget sex can be a good work out :great:

 

[ChrisPark]

Hate to ask but here goes anyways:

-How many pounds is a few pounds? How much are we talking here?

- How tall is she?

-How old is she?

 

[Old Mister Happy]

how do I tell my fiancee she needs to lose weight?


You don't... There is NO WAY to tell a woman she needs to lose weight. In fact- there is no way to tell ANYONE to lose weight.

That is a personal choice and one that only the individual can make.

Taking that one step further- you can't tell anyone what to do... You can't change people- they have to want to change themselves, and eventually they will, or just accept defeat.

Harsh reality... get out of the relationship now. You are not ready.

 

[nitwig//0]

Pokerdude!! That's an awfully negative way to think. I'm skinnier today than the day I married Sentry. It may not be prevalent but it can happen.






I completely agree that with CG that you can't change people. BUT you can help them and encourage them to do so. You might say that you've noticed that YOU have gained a few pounds and you would love her help losing weight then you two could join a gym, get a wii fit, take an excercise class together or hot yoga. You could also say your doctor recommended YOU lose a few pounds for your health. And you could make it a game, ie the person who loses the most weight that week gets the sex they want (ie only BBBJ, only DATY or a fantasy session) or the loser has to do a "chore" for the winner (ie go shoe shopping, watch Monday Night Football etc.). If you do it right, it could work in both of your best interests and bring you two closer. Good luck!!

 

[Beryl 0.2.1/Ubuntu 9.04]

You tell her that you would like her to lose some weight in the same conversation that you tell her you hang out on a escort/john internet site.

 

[bobjohnson]

: maybe she is asking this on some women forums " My fiancee is hanging around escort boards, what can i do for it?"

 

[Angel Eyes]

I concur with CG on this. I have been told to loose weight by friends, family, strangers, coworkers, and 3 doctors. It did nothing but make me feel worse about myself. It wasn't until I made the decision to loose weight that I did.

It's not an easy decision, and it's not a temporary one, it's a lifestyle change. Some people find it easy, some find it hard, and others find it impossible. But ultimately, it is up to the individual to make the call, not someone else.

 

[jimmy_mankoo_86]

CG I totally agree with you.