Some tips and advice incase you want enjoy your domestic help , these tips helped me that does not mea it'll work for everyone.
- First only get involved if you live alone and in another city from your family or rather far away from your family and relatives.
- To start off with don't hire a maid who already works in the building/area.
- Usually their look is low cut blouse revealing their back , navel incase she's wearing saree and she doesn't look very shy or reserved.
- By the way they look you should come to know if they live in a chawl, 1bhk , 3bhk or bunglow . I cannot help decipher this as well , I'm assuming you can atleast do so much.
- Ask a lady you come across like the way I described randomly, ' Aapka cooking ka kaam hai nah ' ? Something similar to those lines. Or something like dabba service ka kaam
- Don't straight away ask if she's a kaamwali or anything like that. Cooking is always a safe option.
- Some will say no straight away and walk pass. Others will definitely talk and continue the conversation .
- She might say stuff like 'Sirf cleaning ka kaam' etc ...incase she actually does.
- Make sure you're atleast attracted to her on some level.
- Continue the conversation and ask if she can travel to this place for work, so and so is the work, the salary etc.
-It's always a good idea to hire someone who does most things around the house.
- You'll have to give her higher than the usual amount and try to woo her in the beginning .
- When she actually comes over, don't straight away open the door in your underwear trying to seduce her. There's a reason you're on this forum .
- Be Sweet, kind , good in the beginning few days. Refrain from flirting straight away.
- If possible try to be a bit more generous in the beginning few days in the form of 'advance'
- That'll definitely gain her trust.
- Only indulge in slight flirting after a 1-2 weeks .
- Even after that the flirting should be very subtle, stuff like you don't look like a mother of 2, you look very young to be a mother, Red saree looks very good on you ..etc
- Please don't do stuff like roaming shirtless at home, or watching porn while she's working etc.
- The most important/key thing is to see how receptive she is , if she's uncomfortable you'll know straight away . If not, she'll too be more vocal and friendly. Honestly the first few times you talk, you'll know it straight away.
how
- Eventually as you know and learn more about her, she'll open up and tell stuff that are bothering in her life ( eg- family expenses, kids school fee, drunkard husband, health ailment etc )
- Do help her accordingly , it'll pay off in a certain way incase you know she wants to and is genuinely . Only experience will help gauge this and you'll know accordingly.
- From here on make sure the flirting increased a tad bit and be more vocal .
- Considering she doesn't mind , make it known how you find her attractive but considering she's married you cannot say anything etc .. along those lines
- Eventually things will progress and i'm assuming you can do the rest.
- One thing is extremely important is to help when there's a crazy amount of desperation ( Emergency need of money)
PROS/CONS
= Coolidge effect comes into play and the novelty wears off. First few times will feel good but eventually you'll want something new.
= Considering she doesn't want anyone to know and privacy is there , you'll be on the safer side
= Paying a little extra will lead to get most of work done in the house and even you'll attain satisfaction .
=Try not to jump on her straight away, make sure she knows you respect her.
= Considering most of the work she'll be taking care off , she'll spend more time in the house. Which is greatly beneficial to you
Hope this helps!