Man are Idiots Really

[DeborahGomez]

I really do not give a shit if some of you have issues with me posting this. I need some of the woman in open relationships to help me.

We have this neighbour who is 26 and she is nice. Anyway she starts coming to the house at first to talk to me. I tell her Brash and I have an open relationship, I have known her for about 1 year but just hi and bye.

Next thing I know she coming over every second day, she slowly works her way between me and Brash on the sofa, she not my type and she not into women. Ok Brash and her hit it off, no problems with me. Then she starts to turn her back to me and exclude me from conversation, little piss but I understand, I just start doing something else around the house or read. I like when Brash has fun. She over every second day, as Brash comes home Hmmm.... I need my space too.

They are up late one night and I here them going at is on the sofa, not ok it our home and we do things at hotels to keep thing simple. Brash says sorry, fine.

He takes her to B.C for a week does not call and when he comes back I go to clean his clothes to find her g string and other underwear. Pissed already about no phone call and now this underwear shit. I talk to him. Then I email her saying she should have thought about this and it has upset me.

I am very easy about things with Brash open to explore and willing. Now she complains I don't like her. I said he and she are friends and they have a friendship, even before this I was not friends with her. He says she will not continue seeing him if I am not her friend and she feels I do not like her. I pointed out to Brash that this has nothing to do with now I feel, They are both trying to make me be friends with her and she is not even somebody I would be friends with, we have nothing in common.

Long story short I kick the Stupid Idiot out because they are both forcing the issue?
I love him but this has nothing to do with me. Will somebody help me understand why it is important for me to be friends with her when in reality she does not want me around.

 

[LRTownsend]

Brash wants you friendly with her so he can delude himself into thinking his behavior is not rude and completely unacceptable, at best. She wants to pretend to be your friend so he's happy, which makes him much more easily manipulated.

Really, neither of them are acting like a friend to you.

 

[Victor]

You don't get to choose your relatives, but you DO get to choose your friends.

It sounds to me that she inserted herself into your open relationship thoughtlessly and with little regard for how you might feel. How can she expect you to like or respect her? And if Brash violated the terms of your relatinship then that also shows a lack of respect.

I think good relationships a founded on mutual respect.. and if they are not they won;t usually last.

I'm not sure kicking his ass out was the right move... only you know if that was appropriate or not.

I wish you well...

 

[Ms Kitty]

You guys had basic rules that should have been followed.

That's very disrespectful how she treated your open marriage, your man should have set her straight at the beginning.

They shouldn't be making you feel bad about this either, it compounds the problem.

 

[A.V.R.]

I am not an angel and I do have my issues but sharing for me is no problem. I am so upset, I am in pain because of the stress. He does not see why I won't be friends. I said I would be nice to her if she over or go out with somebody when she coming over, I don't mind.
He says what if we go out for drinks all together. I said Why so you both will ignore me. I keep telling him he can see her whenever and take her out even spend a weekend. But No they want me to be friends with her. OMG I told him I am divorcing him. I also told him I am going to ask his mother what she thinks of the issue, she is like a mom to me. He is at a hotel. I feel like vomiting.

It's Beginning To Look A Lot Like Christmas:

 

[Chloepop]

Ohhhhh BOO hoo FUCKING hooooo......

Ever heard the term: if you play with fire you might get burned?

Suck it up, you invite other people into your lives then get pissed when they come in.


You're on here every day about how you've fucked this woman, how you've fucked that woman, how you have an open relationship, Brash is your soul mate, everything is perfect in your warped little world

Then you come in here with THIS shit?

Cry me a river
Build a bridge
and
GET OVER IT

Guess you now have to change your handle to

notsoBlissful?

 

[Khan]

I prescribe 2 hours with your favourite Cupid girl.

 

[glendiva1968]

I tried that with Brash this weekend, at the time he was sorry, did not go well between the pain and him hurting me.:

He is going to feel really stupid when it settles in on him.
I know people make mistakes we all do but you can't force somebody to do something they do not want.

 

[Pompal 09.]

You should have spoken up about your open marriage ground rules when they started fooling around in your home.

It's their move now though.

 

[ryuzog]

Although Tboy is a bit too harsh, this was a train wreck waiting to happen. Hopefully you will pull through it ok Bliss.

 

[NoPro]

We did have rules.But people grow, we grew but I thought the rules where the same. Auggie I have no problems with him being her friend, so on but I have no common interest with her. I do not see why we need to be friends. She told him that if I was not her friend then the relationship with Brash would be over.

I tried really, I am easy ( when my multi personalities don't come out, for tboy, still love you) I think he needs time to think things out maybe a few years. I said I love him and I have know problem letting him go so he can do his thing. I get the feeling he wants everything his way. He is not happy with some friends I have.

Then he tells me an escort told him I bought her an Ipod which I did and she told him I was giving her money if she needs help. I would do it for anybody really. I know he sees this but does not want too. I am not a guy but I am a woman. Why do I need to be friends, for what purpose other than what sillygirl says.

I am not even upset with her as much as him. I was suppose to be first and he already said sorry so if I am to be first why can he not except the answer I gave him. Sometimes it take losing some one that is close to realize what you will be missing. I have choices and if he does not like my choice then move on.

 

[skeptic]

You insensitive prick! Just sayin':na:

 

[Sim - plicimus]

He is right, I am crying and I will cross the bridge when the time comes. I will still be doing women more then he can say in that little house up North. I guess when you get cabin fever a deer looks pretty good for sex.:

Sorry you hurt so much tboy, she/he must have been very special to you. I do not want to end up bitter but happy with the time we had or whatever.

 

[Chi4Now]

Personally I always say "I'll burn that bridge when I get to it" but different strokes right? LOL!

 

[Dr Fegg]

A wise friend of mine once told me that once a couple decides to go the ''open marriage'' route it is usually the beginning of the end.

A monogamous marriage is hard enough too pull off on it's own without the added pressure that bringing in other partners adds.

Inevitably someone is going to break the pre agreed parameters that were set or emotional boundaries will be crossed.

Then all the fun and games are out the window aren't they? Are all men idiots? No.
Are all women bitches? No. But we can certainly get underneath each others skin from time to time.

Your arrangement is paving the way for calamity and needs to change one way or another.

 

[David S]

You know, your barbs would matter if you actually had a clue, but since you don't, they just make me laugh at you. Notice the difference between laugh AT and WITH?

As for being an insensitive prick.....you know, if she wasn't such a train wreck, and was in a "normal" relationship, I mind give her a measure of sympathy.

But she is on here constantly bragging about all the women she gets (and yet again in the quote above) and when he partner does the same, she's all up on here looking for sympathy. Sorry, I don't buy it at all and I am known for calling a spade a spade and in this case, a train wreck a train wreck.

She reminds me of those idiots who go diving with sharks and then get all upset when one of them bites them......

Sorry, I'll reserve my sympathy for those who deserve it....TYVM.

 

[KellahPanda]

tboy reality you do not need to read my post ignore. A woman told me to grow Balls because there are jerks male/female who think nothing better then putting people down. I am sorry your life revolves around insulting me and others. You come across as a person with issues and one who thinks he knows everything, honey. At least I am open about my feelings.
I have come to realize how to deal with people like you, it is simple agree with them because it does not matter what I say also feel sorry for them because the are so blind.

Life is short tboy and you are missing the fun in life, as I say I feel sorry for you. In pain we find beauty even in relationships, you can not control people, what they say or do etc and you can not control them by insulting them.

Have a Wonderful Christmas or Holiday Dear.

 

[I have a bear spot]

He didn't insult you at all. this is a chat forum and he expressed that he does not have any sympathy for you.


You don't seem like you are having very much fun yourself I think your reading too many self help books.

 

[Top Contributor]

Don't bother Maurice, I seriously think she has more issues than time magazine but she is entertaining isn't she? Reading her posts is almost as good as watching Jerry Springer.......

I honestly think she is dillusional. She spouts off about ME insulting HER yet she comes on here saying I'm having sex with the deer that roam my property. No, that's not an insult lol....

Bliss: you seem to equate happiness with the number of people you fuck. Well, let me break it to you, all that means is that you're empty inside and have to fill it with something. I'd rather have a meaningful relationship with 5 people over a lifetime than simply fucking 100,000 different ones.

So, keep trying to fill that void in your soul with meaningless sex.........

 

[Bevans]

So you are telling me how I should feel. What is an insult to me. At least am read to improve my life and try to understand other peoples feelings and situations. I am sorry I should just listen to tboy and you.

Right now no I am not having fun ok, does that make you happy, are you enjoying my sorrow. It is like I hear from others on the board they are people who will put you down don't listen to them and be strong, coming back out of the wood work are you. This time I will not leave, deal with it.

I have a wonderful life, really withing relationship there are bumps. You survive or don't. My pain is for me to suffer and yes I am very depress so kick me all you want because in reality you are show your true nature. I have nothing more to say to you or are you going to tell me how to feel still.

All in all I help people I try to be very positive because if I don't and I am stress I am in pain more than normal and the most import I understand forgiveness and realize that we are not perfect. So if you are I am happy you have reach your ides of perfection. Also you can ignore my post too and I will not response to you either, works both ways right.

Have a Wonderful Holiday with Your Family and have an honest Christmas.