Married and MP hobby

[HealthWise]

I am curious to see how many hobbyists are married? What are your opinions on visiting a MP? Do you consider it cheating if you only partake in a regular NR session?

 

[J09]

Whether it is cheating or not is an individual thing.

In my view, I don't see how there is any difference between getting FS or just getting a basic R&T in terms of moral values or cheating, though.

 

[johnny1]

If you can't share your extra curricular activities with your wifey than it's cheating bro..BTW I am guilty as charged .

 

[SmartA$$]

It's a marvel that the term "cheating" can be trotted out without challenge so easily. What does it even mean?

"Cheating" normally refers to trying to gain an advantage by not following the rules. How does that concept even apply to infidelity?

The bargain you strike when you get married goes something like this:

- The man agrees to support the woman and any children that come along
- The man agrees to split up all the assets if he leaves the woman
- The woman offers free sex

Anything else is by negotiation (who will look after the kids, who will do the housework, etc).

If you don't see things this way, have a look at divorce decisions of courts and also "loss of marital relations" claims when spouse is killed or injured in an accident.

So, if you break off a piece on the side, but stay married and continue to support your wife and kids, who exactly are you cheating and what advantage are you obtaining?

Interestingly, neither under our laws or our western moral code are there any consequences for a woman who withdraws her sexual favours or who lets herself become so unattractive that her favours aren't wanted. Is she "cheating"?

In my view, whether you engage in the hobby has more to do with your own "code" and value or lack of value you think that monogamy has within you own relationship. Everything else is B.S..

 

[China Man]

" I did not have sexual relations with Monica Lewisky"

nuff said.

bruce

 

[Citizen of the Cosmos]

I printed out Bud Plug's reasoning to use on my wife.

The doctor said the swelling should go down within a week.

 

[Acid09]

Yes, I consider partaking in a regular NR session as cheating. That's why stopped getting NR sessions and only go for the BS option.

 

[Gypsy]

hmmm....numbers one and two are plausible- unless she's the bread winner.LOL

I have some reservation on number three. Whether it's a hooker or a housewife, she's getting something for givin' it up (money, engagement ring, house, car etc.).

Sex is only free when nothing (tangible or intangible) of monetary consideration is bargained for in exchange- like when that nympho next door does you just because she thinks you're cute or you're the only guy on the block she hasn't done.

 

[roro]

I consider frequenting MP's as cheating. Every married guy has his own reason(s) for partaking in this hobby. Mine would be for variety and fantasy.

 

[Courtney L]

would it be fair to say that there are degrees of cheating? is fs more than a n massage, lets say, which may be slightly more than a ld at a sc? i don't know, just thinking.

 

[IRev. Albert Einstein]

Lets face it. Guys will be guys.
If the wife lets the man leave the house with a loaded gun then you have to expect its going to go off somewhere.

The wives don't get it but they still expect you to be faithfull.

Its cheating but its the natural order of things.

Rob

 

[Hjgfkjf]

To be honest, if I wasn't married I wouldn't do this. I would hope I could do well enough to keep myself satisfied.

That being said, if I could get a hamburger at home I wouldn't have to go out to buy a burger. Sometimes it's not variety that makes us go out, sometimes it's necessity. If I could get steak at home, well I would never leave the house.

Yes, it is cheating. The difference between a woman and a hamburger is that the hamburger doesn't get jealous when you eat another hamburger.

 

[Pompal 09.]

To be honest, if I wasn't married I wouldn't do this. I would hope I could do well enough to keep myself satisfied.

Let me re-phrase.... "I would hope I could do well enough to keep myself satisfied with the women I would meet."

 

[gianluca r]

Yes, it's cheating. Guilty. It's also a great time. My view is as long as you're not spending the rent / bills / food money or depriving your SO and/or kids of things, go and enjoy. Don't, as in any vice, get addicted. I've been laying off MPs recently because I need to take care of some more practical stuff. But I shall return!

 

[Sgt Remeriz]

I'm not married, but still consider going to an MP cheating. I would think as a married man, I wouldn't go beyond the boundaries of a basic R&T..i.e. DFK, FS, DATY. But why define it I guess. Cheating is cheating. All in all, boys will be boys. As long as you take care of home, enjoy yourself.

 

[Passion (recovered)]

The original question shouldn't be so difficult to answer. Some posters said it's cheating and yet it would be OK to visit MPAs and even to enjoy many of the extras.

Just imagine if your wife frequents some sort of MPs with male MPAs and routinely enjoys DFK (it would be more widely avaiable), digital (ouch), DATI (can you figure this one out?) and other extras. Would you still call it cheating and would you still think it's OK as long as she doen't drain all the allowances, cooks all meals, do the laundry and take care of the kids?

 

[LP640]

Are people looking for approval here ?

Goober ya gotta learn to duck man .

 

[ledzepfan203]

Isn't it better going to these MP's than having an actual affair though? I've always thought massage is just a form of entertainment for men.

 

[a-z]

Not that I don't agree with this point, but I don't think the question pertained to cheating being okay, but is visiting an MP considered cheating.

I don't think there's any question that the married men on here wouldn't like it if their wives saw a male MPA. But from what I understand, most husbands would be more than willing to give those services to their wives, as where wives tend to neglect the needs of their spouses after years of marriage. But then again maybe I'm talking out of my ass, considering I'm not married.

 

[Breakfast Clubber 4.0]

Not to delve too far into the metaphysical here, but does anyone perceive consequences of their actions (infidelity) in any kind of afterlife?