Massage versus Trust?

[Malc T]

Been dating a long time friend for 4 months now. He has a more lavish taste, while I am more practical. We live long distance currently. Today he has informed me that he paid for a masseuse to come to his house for an 80 dollar, 2 hr massage....right....I would not have had a problem if the woman was 50++ but she is in her early twenties, and by a long shot i'm going to say attractive, cuz lets be real, who would hire an ugly masseuse. Anyway, I know its early in the dating game, but I am a little perturb he had this woman feeling on him in his house alone while he was in his drawers ( yea he admitted he did not wear a towel). Constructive criticism is much needed. I am trying to be impartial on this subject, but my nerves can only take so much. Am I over reacting? Its not like I can stop him from paying for these luxury massages, yet it is not something I;m comfortable with... Adult advice greatly appreciated.

 

[Rachel]

I too would be annoyed.
It's fine treating yourself but a massage at home is intimate.
No doubt this woman was completely professional, but your boyfriend still is acting in a way which makes you feel uncomfortable.
Tease him that you think its seedy and for him to save that 80 quid to visit you and you'll give him a massage when he comes.
If he doesn't latch on to your discomfort with the situation be upfront, your well within your right to do so you aren't over-reacting if it bothers you, however i do not think the massage is anything to be worried about with regards to the masseuse being attractive. But it bothers you and therefor should bother him.